Flashback Friday: My Scene in the Quicksand

Please enjoy this flashback Empowermoment which was originally posted August 13, 2012. 

For so long, I’ve felt like the women I see in movies that get stuck in quicksand running from someone or something.  They are treading, splashing, and trying to keep their heads above the sand so they don’t sink; inevitably, one of two things happens: they get rescued or they sink.

My scene in the quicksand lasted much longer than it should have.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been jumping into situations that look good from a distance and after getting caught up, I would try to run but quickly start to sink.  I would find myself over and over again wearily treading the ‘quicksand’ and barely able to keep from sinking.  I have always felt His favor was upon me and in hindsight I recognize that for a long time I took for granted that He would rescue me from the quicksand that I kept finding myself in.

I prayed and prayed for God to change the man I was in love with or give me the strength to leave him, but at night I’d cling to him with all my strength as if to prevent God from removing him.

I prayed for better jobs and for more money to do what ‘made me happy’ and then I would swipe my credit card until it could be swiped no more.  I would get upset, run, and sink again.

Time and time again, I’d pray for God to help me control my impulsive emotional eating, for me to just be content with Him, and not look for satisfaction through food.  Then the moment I finished my prayer, I would go eat my ‘last’ bowl of ice cream or two, wake up too big for all of my clothes, and run yet again.  And yes, I sank again.

My desires and actions did not align with my prayers or what I claimed were my values.  I was holding onto everything that I was praying so hard to be able to let go of!

But God!

One day he dropped a scripture that I knew backwards and forward into my spirit and it took on a new meaning: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)

And just like that I felt like I could stop running.

I recognized that while I thought I was running to God, crying, praying, and begging for His help, I was running from Him!  I realized that I needed to run to Him with my burdens, issues, concerns, and prayers and give them to Him.  I realized I had to give myself to Him, if I wanted to stop running and sinking.

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 NIV)

I had to let go of everything.  I had to surrender.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for always being willing to carry burdens that You know I cannot bear on my own.  Thank You for Your constant reminder that You will never leave me or forsake me and that I can always bring everything to You.  I pray that I will continue to surrender more and more of myself to You each day.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to refuse to sink!  When you feel that you are drowning, allow God to be your life jacket and put all your weight on Him.  He will pull you through! 

What are you holding on to that is weighing you down, causing you to sink lower, and pushing you farther away from God?

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Ms. Tiffany Huff is the devoted mother of two boys, a blogger, lover of food and travel, and aspiring entrepreneur with a passion for helping others live out their purposes. She is looking forward to growing in her walk and honoring God through sharing her EmpowerMoments. One of her meditation scriptures is Romans 12:2: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Stop The Madness!

“Insanity is doing the same thing over & over expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein

I recently made a conscious decision to no longer put myself in situations that I don’t want to be in with guys and to really stop settling. I’ve been single for three years and being single, as you know, can get lonely at times. I would tell guys that I’d meet that I just wanted to be friends, and we would end up just hanging out and being cool. We would start off being on the same page and after a period of time I’d discover they were romantically interested in me. When I didn’t share the same feelings as they did, they would become mad at me. After they got over the fact that I didn’t share their feelings, we would become cool again… eventually things would end between us.

I’m happy to say that I’m no longer talking to any of those guys. I never expected to have those guys in my life over a drawn out period of time. They stayed longer in my life than they ought to have stayed. After doing intense self-evaluation, I noticed the same cycle repeating itself over and over again. I had to ask myself why I kept going through the same situation. The common denominator in all of the situations was me: Venus. I was the problem! Ouch! I allowed the situations to continue longer than they should have. I should have cut it off when the guys’ desires and my desires didn’t match.

I was telling myself that I didn’t want to settle, but my actions weren’t matching up with what I said in my heart. I had to take responsibility for putting myself in those situations. God showed me the root of my patterns. The root: I was broken and vulnerable after my last relationship ended three years ago. I was also broken from the relationship that I was in prior to my last relationship. So the situations with the guys stemmed from me being broken. Wow!

God is now restoring me, healing me, and making me whole. I had to realize that I have to put a stop to the negative patterns and no longer waste my time on these guys that I do not desire to have in my life. I desire to be in a committed relationship with a Godly man. I would like to have a friendship that leads to a relationship that leads into a marriage. How can my Godly husband find me if I’m entertaining fools? In my last EmpowerMoment, I discussed a situation that I was in with a guy named “Jake”. In a nutshell, there were too many red flags with Jake and I had to shut it down. I’m finally at the point where I’m done with entertaining foolishness. I can’t take it anymore. I deserve and want better for myself. I’m taking dating with a purpose seriously. If a man isn’t bearing any good fruit, isn’t Godly, and isn’t displaying the characteristics that I need in a mate, he has to go! NEXT!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for showing me the root of my patterns. Help me to not repeat the cycles in my life. I don’t want to be insane! I want to be set free! In Jesus Name, Amen.

Ladies I EMPOWER you to pray and ask God to show you the root of your issues so that you can receive His healing. It can be a scary and hurtful process but the reward is great. Psalm 147:3 (NLT) states, “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.”

What things are driving you insane?

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Venus Gilmore currently resides in Auburn, AL. She is an alumna of Auburn University. Venus has B.A. in Sociology with a concentration in Social Organization and Inequality with a minor in Social Work. She plans on pursuing a career in Social Services. She currently serves as the Mamie Reese Scholarship Director and College Transition Program Director of her sorority Theta Phi Sigma Christian Sorority, Inc. Venus is also a blogger for Radical7even. She is an active Client Advocate volunteer for the Women’s Hope Medical Clinic. She successfully balances all of these responsibilities with her favorite scripture as motivation: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)

Divinely Hemmed & Beauty In The Process

A couple of mornings ago, I was looking for something in my car, and I ran across a book I’d bought a year ago. While flipping through the pages of the book, I found a torn notecard I wrote that said, “I met God who slowly, painfully, and divinely pieced me back together again.” Immediately, I started to reminisce on the difficult times, headaches, and heartaches that led up to the person I am today, and I couldn’t help but to thank God. There was a time, when I first got saved, that I almost traded in my salvation card because living in the world seemed SO much easier than being saved. At least, I didn’t have this target on my back that the enemy was constantly aiming for. Now, I can look back and almost sit in awe at how beautiful the process has been. Every difficult season was a season spent at Daddy’s feet, crying out to Him and praying in my personal intimate time.

Before I got saved, I spent my life tearing the very fabric of who God had created me to be. With every party, every drink, every guy, I was completely shredding who I was. “You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me,” (Psalm 139: 5, ESV) It wasn’t enough for me to just get saved. God had to completely change who I was. I needed to reflect Him. He had to go behind me and hem the fabric I’d ripped in the process of finding myself in this world. He’s gone before us, even before the beginning of time, to make sure that we’re hemmed into what He has for us. “My frame was not hidden from you, when I was made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there were none of them,” (Psalm 139: 15-16 ESV). He lays His hand on our lives. The very God that SPOKE creation into existence cares to lay HIS hands on MY life?! On YOUR life?! Sigh, just beautiful.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for the ability to find beauty in the process. Thank You that You love us past salvation, that You love us enough to not leave us where we were first found. Help us to strive to want to reflect You daily. When we’re having bad days, and we feel like we can’t go any further, remind us of how far we’ve come. Thank You for Your strength that is available to us. We love You. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you the beauty in your everyday process. Yes, living for God is not easy at all, but it is worth it. I pray God will reveal how well He has hemmed you in that when people hear your testimonies, they can’t even see the rips and tears that were once the core of who you were. I EMPOWER you to seek those intimate moments when they come. Satan, so badly, wants to steal your joy, your purpose, and your praise, but it’s hard to give him ground when you learn to find beauty in the difficult times.

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Alexis Perry lives in Hamilton, Alabama where she is a full-time student at The Ramp School of Ministry. She has a passion for seeing women and youth find their true identity in Christ. She aspires to have a women’s ministry centered around true identity, adoption into God, and intimacy with the Father. One of her favorite passages is Psalm 139: 1-3 (ESV), “O Lord, You have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways.”

When the Paint Chips Away…

When the paint chips away, what will people see beneath?

As I was strolling through my neighborhood, I noticed one of the buildings, which was painted a beautiful mint color, had a portion of chipped paint. In fact, the exposed section was just a little larger than a dinner plate. With the missing paint, it was easy to see that the original color of the building was a deep red. It actually made me realize what this “new” condominium building used to be. This building along with the several others was nothing more than renovated public housing. That exposed red brick let me know that at some point these houses belonged to people who couldn’t afford the high rent but at some point they were sold, renovated and sold again to the highest bidder. No longer were they stocked with cheap appliances but they now had the best of the best – wood flooring, granite countertops, and stainless steel appliances.

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV

Like these renovated condos, this is who we are destined to be if we accept Christ into our lives. No longer should we contain the spirit of sin but through His death on the cross our sins were reconciled. We don’t contain worthless characteristics but are filled with those things that are valuable to the kingdom. We put off our old self for our new self. God is able to do a major renovation on our lives and when that happens the sins which consumed us are washed away as we are filled with fruits of the spirit – But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23 KJV

When people are around you? What is their experience? Do they see a new creature or do they see someone who blends in with the crowd? Does the paint chip away when you are angry? Are there times when people say, “she has changed but don’t let her get upset, because the old her comes out.” If the old things are truly passed away you should be a representative of God’s renovation at all times. No one is perfect but we strive towards perfection. Daily, we press toward the mark.

Dear Daddy,

 Thank You for making me brand new. Help me to exemplify the major renovation that You have done in my life. When the paint chips away, let me still show everything that is great about having a father like You. Remind me that I am not stocked with the cheap stuff because I am a child of the King. You supply me with all of my needs and give me the best of the best. When the paint chips away, people should still see the new me – one that is more precious than the most precious jewel. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 Ladies, today, I EMPOWER you to reflect on who you are when the paint chips away. Who are you when no one is watching? When you do have the chance to show God are you instead showing who you used to be? Recognize that you have to upkeep God’s renovation so daily strive towards perfection. When the paint chips away, determine that you will still be a glaring example of a child of the King.

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 Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Washington, DC and is a small business owner as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures  are Philippians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.

Flashback Friday: Show Your Scar!

Please enjoy this blast from the past which was originally posted on August 26, 2013.

In some of my previous EmpowerMoments I spoke candidly about the health challenges that my daughter faced when she was born that ultimately resulted in her requiring open heart surgery. (See Not By My Own Might & The Definition of “Miracle” )  We are so grateful for the progress that she has made since her procedure last November. If we don’t share her story, one would never know the ordeal that she endured early on.  There are no obvious signs of her yesteryear. Developmentally, she is advanced. Physically, she is no longer underweight and is right among her peers. She is the epitome of a person who truly does not look like what she has been through. The only telling sign of her surgery is evident when she is bare and the finger-length scar on her chest is revealed. That is her war wound, badge of honor, blemish of boldness, scar of success and mark of miracle; it’s her flaw of faith! Her scar will forever remind her and the world around her that she’s been through a battle and the God brought her out!

I make no intentional efforts to conceal the scar and sometimes, depending on her attire, you may catch a glimpse of it. Such was the case a few weeks ago and my 6-year-old brought it to my attention.  Upon noticing it, she quickly said, “Mommy, Kai’s scar is showing! You should pull her shirt up.” The tone of her voice indicated that she thought it was completely inappropriate for her scar to be visible. It was as if the baby was naked and indecently exposed! I explained to her that it was okay for it to show and that if anyone asked about it, we could use it as an opportunity to share our story and how God healed her sister.  She accepted my explanation simply because I’m Mommy, but I could tell that the gears of her mind were still churning. For her, the scar is unsightly, grotesque and embarrassing and for that reason needs to be hidden at all times.

My 1st grader is not alone in her thinking; many of us have identical mindsets.  We choose to hide the evidence of what we have been through because it’s embarrassing or too ugly to even think about, let alone share.  We choose to not be truthful about bad decisions, past hurts and negative experiences. Instead, we conceal the struggle and only let the world see the success.  Of course I am not advocating for you to make a public service announcement detailing the course of your life. However, what I am suggesting is that your previous point of pain is critical to aiding in another’s healing. Your story is beneficial to someone. I know a young lady who was so ashamed of the abortion she had and figurative scar that it left. She refused to acknowledge that she had gone through it. Because of embarrassment, she hid her abortion ‘scar’ from everyone. One day she met another young woman who confessed to be in a place of isolation and on the verge of depression because of a similar bad decision. She felt hopeless. She felt as if God no longer loved her. She felt like giving up. It was at that moment that the first woman shared her story of God’s redemption, His unfailing love and how He helped her overcome the exact feelings. But what if she chose to pull her shirt up instead of lowering it to reveal her scar? There is comfort, healing, encouragement and deliverance power in your testimony!

Maybe that example didn’t move you, but consider for once if Jesus had the same mentality and chose to hide His scars. Now Thomas (also known as Didymus), one of the Twelve, was not with the disciples when Jesus came.  So the other disciples told him, “We have seen the Lord!” But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe.”A week later his disciples were in the house again, and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you!”  Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.” (John 20:24-27 NIV) Jesus revealed the scars in His hand for the sole purpose of inspiring Thomas to believe that He in fact was who He said He was and that He could do what He said He would. Without that revelation, Thomas’ faith may have never been what it could be. How many people’s faith are dependent on the revealing of your scars?

Dear Daddy,

You know where my scar lies and how painful that was for me. If I have not recovered from that point of pain, please help me to do so that I can eventually minister to someone else. If I have moved past the pain, please give me the courage to share my story so that another can believe that You are able to assist them as well. I pray for discernment to know when and where I should reveal my scars. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER to you show your scars! Don’t let embarrassment and fear of being judged keep you from helping someone else who is going through. Remember we overcome by the word of our testimonies. (Revelation 12:11) I EMPOWER you to know that your scar may be viewed as a disgrace, but it’s actually proof of His grace!

Will you vow to share your scar(s) with someone to help them? If so, please leave your name only below. We want to pray with you as you help someone overcome by your testimony!

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Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant. She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments. She is the CEO of Pizzazzed Plus, a sweet treats boutique. As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible and other non-fiction pieces. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and three lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.

God Will Have The Last Laugh

Mother’s Day just passed and once again I was blessed with the opportunity to bless my beautiful mom. She means the world to me and I always make the effort to show her how grateful I am that she is my mom.  I hope that every mother out there had a wonderful Mother’s Day and realizes how special she is in the eyes of God!

However, there are many women, like myself, who are not yet mothers.  They may be waiting for the husband, the dog, and the two kids, or perhaps they have the dog already.  They may be unable to have children or may have put off children due to career and now they hope to one day be able to have a family.  Maybe they are mothers who have lost children.  Whatever the reason, we are without children but are also special in God’s eyes.  I repeat what God has told me, “you are not forgotten.”

Maybe someone has laughed at you or approached you with bewilderment or maybe you have laughed at yourself or even God at the notion of one day finally becoming a mother because the world tells you your biological clock is ticking.  Maybe you and your husband have tried numerous times to get pregnant but the end result has ended in frustration, heartbreak, confusion, grief and hopelessness.  God has not forgotten you!

Sarah can testify to this!

He said, “If I have found favor in your eyes, my lord,[a] do not pass your servant by.   Let a little water be brought, and then you may all wash your feet and rest under this tree.  Let me get you something to eat, so you can be refreshed and then go on your way—now that you have come to your servant.”  “Very well,” they answered, “do as you say.”  So Abraham hurried into the tent to Sarah. “Quick,” he said, “get three seahs[b] of the finest flour and knead it and bake some bread.”  Then he ran to the herd and selected a choice, tender calf and gave it to a servant, who hurried to prepare it.   He then brought some curds and milk and the calf that had been prepared, and set these before them. While they ate, he stood near them under a tree.   “Where is your wife Sarah?” they asked him.  “There, in the tent,” he said.  Then one of them said, “I will surely return to you about this time next year, and Sarah your wife will have a son.”  Now Sarah was listening at the entrance to the tent, which was behind him.  Abraham and Sarah were already very old, and Sarah was past the age of childbearing.  So Sarah laughed to herself as she thought, “After I am worn out and my lord is old, will I now have this pleasure?”  Then the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh and say, ‘Will I really have a child, now that I am old?’  Is anything too hard for the Lord? I will return to you at the appointed time next year, and Sarah will have a son.”  Sarah was afraid, so she lied and said, “I did not laugh.”  But he said, “Yes, you did laugh.” (Gen 18:3-15 NIV)

Sarah was old y’all.  Her biological clock wasn’t even ticking, but God likes to show us He can do the impossible!  She even laughed at God when He told her that she would have a child.  Mine you, this wasn’t the first time God told Abraham and Sarah that they would have a child, and he laughed too.  Abraham fell facedown; he laughed…., the Bible actually says.  And before that incident, Sarah took matters into her own hands to try to solve her barrenness issues (read Genesis 16).  Let’s just say it was a mess. We all have tried to solve our own problems at one point or another, causing shipwreck.

But God!  His word does not return to Him void! Now the Lord was gracious to Sarah as he had said, and the Lord did for Sarah what he had promised.  Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him.  Abraham gave the name Isaac[a] to the son Sarah bore him. (Genesis 21:1-3 NIV)

I said all of this only to say be patient, trust God, rehearse His Word to yourself, and remember His promises.  He doesn’t lie!  Everything you have lost, God will restore and give you twice as much as before if you do not faint.  Believe!  It may sound crazy and impossible to your flesh but nothing is impossible for God.  Believe!  Whatever you are trusting God for and if it is to be a mother, then God will make it happen according to His time, His perfect will and His way!  Don’t worry, you won’t have to wait till 90, but wait with joy and expectation!  Neither sit on the sidelines position-less and hopelessly nor disobey and get in God’s way.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for being Mr. Impossible for nothing is impossible for You!  Thank You that You are mindful of us all and thank You for every mother, godmother, grandmother, stepmother, mother-in-law!  In Jesus name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to remember that God will have the last laugh!  I EMPOWER you to trust God and remember His promises to you!  I also EMPOWER you to acknowledge and honor your mother and your Heavenly Father who gives every mom that nurturing ability!  I also EMPOWER you to be a spiritual mother to someone out there; encourage, disciple and nurture someone in the Lord!

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Ms. Tannika Moore loves the Lord and loves to write! Besides writing or editing, she currently works for NEIU Educational Talent Search program, helping high school students prepare for college. She loves to build people up through God’s Word, encouragement, mentoring, support, and her writing. In 2014, Tannika published her first book, a book of her poetry, titled Setting The Captive Free. She  also launched her Christian clothing and apparel brand called Fruitful & Fabulous inspired by John 15:8. Her favorite scripture comes from Philippians 1:6, “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you shall perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”

 

Take A Moment!

grunge_road_sign__stop_smell_the_roses_sjpg3051Have you ever felt lost or confused about life? I recently was. When I say lost, I mean you just feel like what you’re doing is pointless. Sometimes I’ve had the feeling that what I do is never enough. It sometimes seems that when I’m trying to achieve a goal, it is the most important thing ever. So, in order to achieve the goal I work really hard to acquire it and once I do, I see that there is something else I want or feel I need. It’s like a never-ending process! So why then am I working so hard? I went to school for five years and have a degree. I was so excited about this achievement until I started looking for jobs. Although I had a degree, it didn’t make the process easier for me to find a job. Then my mind went to me needing a Master’s degree. Well, then I started thinking about after getting that degree, would I be satisfied? I then would hopefully start my career, and then what? I would just hope to find some secure job that would let me stay with the company for years so I could retire and go back to not working. I thought to myself that this cannot be what life is about.

I’m sure some of you can relate. I was trying to find some deep meaning to all the madness. I think I was trying to get too deep. I decided to pray about these feelings and the Lord told me to read Ecclesiastes. When I first started reading it, I wasn’t sure that this was the best thing for me to read with one of the first statements being, “Everything is meaningless,” says the teacher, “completely meaningless!”(Ecclesiastes 1:2NLT)

Well, as I kept reading, I saw that the writer also said, “So I decided there is nothing better than to enjoy food and drink and to find satisfaction in work. Then I realized that these pleasures are from the hand of God.”(Ecclesiastes 2:24 NLT). I understand that in life you may feel lost and like somethings are just pointless, but don’t let the enemy get you so down in your thoughts that you become depressed. Stop looking for some deep reason for everything and just enjoy the gift of life! Enjoy the wind blowing in your face, instead of complaining that it’s too windy. Put on some rain boots and go walking in the drizzle instead of rushing to get inside. Literally, stop and smell the roses! Even if you do none of the things suggested here, just take a moment to sit back and take in the everyday beauty of life and how complex and awesome everything around you is!

I believe God wants you to enjoy the works of His hands! He loves us all so very much and He does have a plan. At times it’s just hard to see it. So while you are waiting to understand, just enjoy the beauty of life. In due season, God will reveal to you your next move and where to go. Let’s not forget He did tell us, “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”(Jeremiah 29:11 NLT).

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for speaking to me in my time of need.  Thank You for reminding me that You are in control of everything and I can rest in knowing that. Thank You for the reminder for me to stop and enjoy all that You have given me. Please continue to help me rest in You and enjoy this thing called life. In doing so, I will be able to see all it has to offer me!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to stop and smell the roses! When you feel lost and feel like your work is in vain, take a moment to stop and enjoy where you are. If you can really take time to think about it, you will see just how blessed you really are and how beautiful life is.

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Misha White currently resides in Daphne, AL and is a recent graduate of Tennessee State University with a Bachelor’s of Science Degree in Biology. She aspires to serve women to achieve the best spiritual and physical health possible using the Word of God, regular exercise, and healthy eating habits. She is a loving friend, sister, and daughter. One of her favorite scriptures is John 16:33 (NIV), “I have told  you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”