Single in the City 9: Ultimate Relationship

June is Black Music Month! To celebrate, each of our EmpowerMoments will be based on Black music for the entire month. This includes Black songwriters, producers or performers. Stay tuned as we use various genres of Black music to tell our stories and exemplify the beauty of God’s love! Happy Black Music Month! Dance as if no one is watching!

“Now, about the young women who are not yet married… Because of the present crisis, I think it is best to remain just as you are.” (1 Corinthians 7:25-26 NLT)

Recently my dating life has been non-existent and well on its way to extinction.  I have met a few guys over the past few months but most were not worth a call or text back.  Perhaps, the crisis that Paul spoke of is the small selection of profitable men worthy of my time.  So you can better understand let’s just do a quick run-down…

Bachelor #1 was a security guard at a local night club… I knew that he would have potential since he’s a blue collar worker right? NOT at all! This dude was obsessed with himself and his cheating ex-girlfriend to the point that our one and only date turned into a counseling session.  Then on our fourth phone call he mentioned how he was trying to get a job in Detroit and I could move there with him… SERIOUSLY?  Needless to say that was all “he” wrote.

Bachelor #2 was a bus driver twice my age and a waist line three times that!  I’m not saying that made a difference because I learned my lesson on judging people solely on appearance when I wrote part 2 of this series.  However, he ruined it for himself when he called me 15 minutes after I gave him my number!  Am I the only woman that feels there should be a mandatory grace period when calling someone you just met?? Just a thought…

Bachelor #3 was extremely fascinated by me.  He was amazed that I had a job, paid my own bills, etc. Since he was so attentive I thought about giving him a chance until he discreetly threw in the fact that I can call him whenever… “I’m always outside.”  That was the last straw because Lord knows I don’t have it in me to deal with another hustler!!

“In everything you do, I want you to be free from the concerns of this life.  An unmarried [wo]man can spend [her] time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him.” (1 Corinthians 7:32 NLT) 

In honor of Black Music Month I instantly thought of the song Ultimate Relationship (AM) by Mary J. Blige.  The songstress took a break from R&B to tell us single chicks how to love on God.  We MUST rid ourselves of the spirit of loneliness, co-dependency, low self-esteem or self-worth, un-fulfillment, and the list goes on! The devil truly is a liar because every morning we wake up we are given another opportunity to lie in bed with Jesus.  “I will make you my wife forever, showing you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion.  I will be faithful to you and make you mine, and you will finally know me as Lord.” (Hosea 2:19-20 NLT) Our Father will wrap us in His love early in the morning in order to equip us for the tricks of the enemy.  So ladies we have to stop whining about not having a guy and focus on the work God has for us to do.  Spend a moment in the AM and listen intently to what He reveals to you because it may get you one step closer to your soul mate!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for our morning rendezvouses.  Being alone can become overwhelming a lot of the time but as long as I nurture our relationship I can easily maintain.  Remind me that having a companion is only a portion of the master plan that You have for my life.  Keep me focused on the business I have to handle on Your behalf.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!      

Single Ladies, I EMPOWER you to spend time with God each and every morning.  Before you start your daily routine make God a priority and open your spirit to His incredible LOVE!  Be Blessed!! :-)

Listen as Mary sings God a sweet love song:

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Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church. She serves tirelessly with the Evangelism Team there.  Latasha also works at Mt. Zion as a member of the Administrative Support Staff. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment you shall condemn.” Isaiah 54:17

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3 thoughts on “Single in the City 9: Ultimate Relationship

  1. Sister Latasha:
    Please refer to the post that I wrote on Monday, June 11, 2012 in response to Sister Tiffany. Be Blessed.

  2. Thanks for writing this post!! I’m single and I’m learning how to maintain! =) Your post has been really helpful! I don’t want to anyone that is on foolishness!!

    • AMEN Venus!! I’m glad you are not afraid to relate… Us single ladies got to stick together and encourage one another :) We deserve the best that God has to offer and NO SETTLING!!! In the meantime continue to LOVE on God!!!

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