Love, Marriage, Relationships

Must We Do EVERYTHING Together?

As a newly married woman almost six years ago, I was a bit taken aback at how much time my husband wanted to spend with me. I just couldn’t understand why he wanted to spend nearly every waking moment with me. I tried to carve out a few moments here and there for personal friendships and hobbies, but aside from that it seemed like we were always doing everything together. One day I just had to ask God: “Must we do everything together?” If you know like I know, you are better off not to ask God a question that you really don’t want the answer to! As a young married woman, I have often asked God to surround me with tangible examples of successful marriages to serve as mentors for my husband and me.  As I patiently waited for Him to send one that He decided was a good fit for us, He sent me a biblical example of a couple who I now seek to emulate in my personal ministry of marriage.  Aquila and Priscilla were a husband and wife team that are only mentioned a handful of times in the New Testament but the impact that they made TOGETHER is truly worth scrutinizing.  Let’s take a look at their lives to see how we are measuring up…

There he (Paul) met a Jew named Aquila, a native of Pontus, who had recently come from Italy with his wife Priscilla, because Claudius had ordered all the Jews to leave Rome. Paul went to see them, and because he was a tentmaker as they were, he stayed and worked with them.  Acts 18:2-3

Aquila and Priscilla worked TOGETHER for their livelihood. They used their skill for tent-making to sustain themselves financially. As a matter of fact, when Paul needed to make money while on his missionary trip in Corinth, Aquila and Priscilla allowed Paul to join in their work.  What streams of revenue are you establishing TOGETHER with your spouse? Maybe it’s time to sit down and come up with a side hustle that you both can contribute to.

Aquila and Priscilla saw needs and met them TOGETHER. They opened their home to Paul when they saw that he needed a place to stay while he was in Corinth.  TOGETHER, whose needs are you meeting besides your own? Look right outside your door, there are many people with unmet needs everywhere (and they are not all financially based).

Aquila and Priscilla also evangelized and taught TOGETHER. When Apollos was preaching in the synagogues in Ephesus and he only knew of the baptism through John, the couple invited him into their home to gently correct him. (Acts 18:24-27) This couple, TOGETHER, devised a loving way to get Apollos on track so that he could rightly divide the Word of God. Who are you ministering to as a couple? Find an unsaved couple who is less experienced than you and choose to share the Word of Truth with them.

Aquila and Priscilla established churches in their home TOGETHER. (1 Corinthians 16:19) The church, by definition, is the body of Christ.  (1 Corinthians 12:27) How amazing to know that this couple housed the body of Christ in their home! What is being housed in the home where you live TOGETHER? Of course many of us will never physically house a church in our residences; however, there are some things that you can do to advance the kingdom of God right in your living room. Instead of gossiping with your girlfriend the next time she is over for a cup of coffee, find an encouraging word to minister to her. Open your home to the wayward children down the block. While they are visiting, allow your children’s actions to minister to them. In your very own home, the church can grow.

Dear Daddy,

I thank You for the spouse that You so graciously blessed me with. I thank You for Your Word that teaches me by example for every area of my life. I ask that You teach us how to support each other for causes that are much greater than either one of us. Bless our union that we may continue to be TOGETHER and work TOGETHER for the rest of our days. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today decide to EMPOWER your marriage by choosing to build TOGETHER. Build your home TOGETHER, impact your community TOGETHER and definitely advance the kingdom of God TOGETHER!

Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant.  She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments.  As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible more than anything. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and two lovely daughters.

6 thoughts on “Must We Do EVERYTHING Together?”

  1. Thanks sis for the confirmation this morning. Guess we better start collecting boxes………..

  2. My My My!!! When I tell u me and my spouse just had this discussion last week… My Lord…thank u for witnessing to us through our sister in Christ Kristen, continue to bless her Lord so that she may be a blessing to us through your word! AMEN

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