Relationships, Spiritual Therapy, Trusting God

Heartbreak Hotel

Years ago, I had a friend who made this very simple but profound statement “I would rather be stabbed in the arm than experience heartbreak.” When she said it, she was partly joking but I knew exactly what she meant and I agreed. Let’s face it ladies, at some point we all have experienced this catastrophic trauma in our lives, many of us more than once. Our chest tightens, we are suffocating, and we are crying a river for days on end. To us, “it’s the end of the world.” Our heartbreak can stem from a variety of sources such as children and family disappointments to careers; however, I haven’t seen anything create the emotional distress like the rift in a relationship.

Last week, relationship “issues” were at an all time high amongst my friends.  Heartbreak Hotel was nearing capacity and I found myself visiting many of my friends who had taken up residence in this dark, damp, stank one star hotel. As a matter of fact, I created my own “battlefield of the mind” so that I could join them there…and that’s unusual because I’m a 5 star chick. 🙂

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds Psalm 147:3 (NKJV)

When you are experiencing heartbreak, the situation looks gloomy and you wonder how you will ever get over the pain. Although not my most painful, I remember my first heartbreak. My high school sweet heart broke up with me about two months before prom. I lost about 10 pounds in two days and I was going to school with eyes that looked like I allowed bees to sting them all night. Even though he promised me he wouldn’t, I found out he was committing a cardinal sin TAKING A FRESHMAN TO THE PROM. Needless to say I was DEVASTATED. God truly heals the brokenhearted because as I write this now, I am laughing at the entire story …plus through a fortunate set of circumstances I ended up going to the prom with a cute, tall friend from the baseball team. In addition, my dress was flyer than hers and she had a curfew (it’s the little things …right?) Just in case you are wondering, it took time but my heart healed.

Unfortunately, my most traumatic heartbreak would be a heavier load to bear. It was eight years ago this weekend that I received the call that sparked it all. My boyfriend left his cell phone at home when he went to work that morning and although I never do this, I answered it when it rung at 6:30am. The woman asked for him. I replied in my most agitated “why the ___are you calling here at 6:30am?!!! voice, HE IS NOT HERE!!! Click. She called right back and questioned who I was and I proudly held up my girlfriend banner; however, she quickly deflated the air in my balloon when she told me that they had been dating for the last six months. He was her boyfriend.  My world went into a tailspin. I literally wanted to DIE. How could this be? We had been dating for almost three years. We lived together. I already planned the wedding in my head and I was going to have his babies. The night before I asked Jesus for a sign, I guess he had to make it plain as day. There are so many details to this story that I would lose you if I wrote them all. I eventually found out that my knight in shining armor cheated on me throughout the relationship. How could someone who professed to love me, treat me like this? It took me forever, and by forever I mean months, to let every thread of this relationship go. During the experience, I couldn’t figure out how I would love or trust again.

I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD In the land of the living. Wait on the LORD Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD! Psalm 27: 13-14 (NKJV)

Though my outlook was bleak, I ultimately had to trust God’s will for my life. Neither of these relationships was meant to be. I had to accept the pain and rejection, cry about it and move forward. Wallowing in my misery only made me question and doubt that God knew what he was doing. He is the grand orchestrator in my life so why would he mess up now? My God, who is a God of restoration, can also restore LOVE and HAPPINESS.

Dear Daddy,

You know the end before the beginning. Please touch every woman out there who may be suffering from a broken heart. Lord we know that heart break isn’t limited to those outside of marriage so God I ask that you intervene in marriages and repair that thing that may be creating a rift in those relationships. Lord give strength, encouragement and comfort to broken hearts. Give me the words to say that heal and uplift. God, grant companionship and love to those that are seeking. In Proverbs 13:12 we learn that Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But when the desire comes, it is a tree of life. Lord help us to stand on your word and BELIEVE YOUR REPORT. God I ask that you REPAIR, RESTORE, and REPLENISH. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Ladies today let’s EMPOWER each other. It’s Spring and we know what happens during this season. You can give a personal story or just leave an encouraging comment to those who are not ready to check out of Heartbreak Hotel. Inspire them to leave the key at the front desk and walk into their NEW testimony. To the visitors at Heartbreak Hotel EMPOWER yourselves in knowing that until you check out of that one star God will not put you in a five star. We’re Moving on Up! 

Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. This week she is leaning on Proverbs 3:5  Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and lean not on your own understanding. 

15 thoughts on “Heartbreak Hotel”

  1. This was soooooo interesting. I remember this phase in your life and looking at you know is a true testimony of restoration, you are definitely 5 star!!!

    To the broken hearted, I had a similiar story, but trust that God heals. I didn’t know that deep down I was ignoring the true man all the time, and that was Jesus. Put him in the forefront and he will heal your broken heart!

    Excellent Chancee!!!

  2. Nice post Chancee`. I too have checked into Heartbreak Hotel twice in my life. The second time I was acting like it was an extended stay hotel. But you are so right, if you check out, He will elevate you and your standards. I thank God for healing my broken heart and replacing the emptiness with HIS love!

    Ladies, He can heal your heart but it takes TIME for any wound to heal. The most important thing for you to do is let God heal you and that will only come when you release the situation to Him. You cant keep holding on to something that is DEAD. LET IT GO! Love y’all!

    1. Girl you are so right about the elevation part… you start looking back like What in the Sam Hill was I doing with X? LOL!

      As I told you before I saw this person recently and didn’t even recognize them so you know I am OVER IT! …on to the NEXT.

  3. Chancee’,

    I love this blog!!!!!! Unfortunately, I’ve been posted up in the Heartbreak Hotel like it’s an extended stay or something. It’s such an awlful place to stay in and it’s almost impossible to get any sleep/ rest while you are here.

    My goal is to check out soon but I’m not sure of where I’m going next. But like you said I’ve got to trust that God has reserved a space for me at the Black Love Renaissance Resort. I just need to wait on the Lord.

    1. Tosha B. just like any other hotel, the Heartbreak Hotel requires payment. What are you willing to pay for extended time in this hell hole? Believe me you are paying something. What you said in your comment is sooooo right TRUST that God knows was best cause I am witness that I clearly have some bad decision making skills in this area. Each day is looking brighter isn’t it.

      I love the verse in the blog that says “I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD In the land of the living.” Get out of that dead situation so that you can see God’s goodness over here in the land of the living. Love ya

  4. I loved the message today!! Lord knows, I’m in the Heartbreak Hotel at this exact moment. Thanks for the reminder that this to shall past BUT I must trust and wait on the LORD.

    1. Kristi, get up out of there. I know that HE is waiting on YOU. You are worth so much girl. Do you need to have a chat with your big sister?

  5. Honey…you wrote this for me. I had this overwhelming sadness come over me the other day that was leading me to the “The Heartbeak Hotel”. I needed this ….right now…10: something P.M.

    1. Shawna you are sooo welcome. I know that there are many women in pain out there and sometimes we all have to be reminded that this is only a temporary season.

  6. I had an extended stay at the Heartbreak Hotel!! I had unpacked my clothes and made friends with the staff!! LOL. The Lord finally came around and evicted me from there. I’m now a resident of the Joy and Happiness Inn! Hope to see you ladies there!

    1. Natalie that’s funny but I appreciate your honesty. I think when women share, their lives can be a testimony to help others get through. I am glad that you checked into Joy and Happiness. Jesus will truly take the pain away. His love keeps lifting us higher.

  7. WOW! If this isn’t a mirror into my recent past! Ladies, believe me…I was just in that same situation almost three years ago. I felt like someone ripped my heart out and I bounced around like a pinball machine (clearly showing my age here ;o/ )hitting points of self blame, betrayal, guilt of still loving him and brief depression. GOD reset the game and I can say that I now continuously hit points of self love, trust, selfless/unconditional love from my husband and children. I am a true testament of how he can bring you from despair and pain. Remember TRUE love does not hurt. Stay steadfast in prayer and HE will press “reset” on your game of life too! Be Beautiful, Be Blessed!

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