Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Trusting God

Single in the City 2

As I stated in part 1 of the series, being a SINGLE Christian woman is one of the hardest things that I have ever done.  In the past few weeks I decided to continue going on dates in hopes of finding someone that was genuinely worthy of my time.  I may have found a qualified candidate but it comes at a cost!  With that said let’s take a moment to recap on this encounter…

John Doe was a great guy!  The number one requirement was fulfilled — a personal relationship with Jesus!! Hallelujah!! Finally, a man that is on my level! The lunch was awesome from that point because that was the first topic we discussed and I can honestly say it set the precedent for the afternoon.  However, the entire time I kept looking at the awful shirt that he had on and my attention was taken away from our deep conversation.  By the end of the date I was so intrigued by him that I forgot about the awful pastel short sleeve plaid shirt… until we stood to exit the restaurant and I realized he actually had shoes to match this dreadful ensemble!  It was then that I asked myself am I willing to look past his apparent lack of “SWAG” and see his potential because of his “God-swag”?

 “…and the veil shall divide unto you between the holy place and the most holy.” (Exodus 26:33 KJV) I decided to use this bible verse to bring to light the fact that my superficial way of thinking allowed me to believe that it would never work between me and him but God may just be using it to show me otherwise.  The veil is used to separate what God has already established as holy, so who am I to even question it. 

I’ve decided that I will go out with him again because I would hate for that hideous outfit to block what God may have put in place to be a blessing.  Don’t get me wrong, I plan on going into this one cautiously but I never know what this brother might have to offer.  His Christian resume’ checked twice as well as every other prerequisite on my clip board, so why not?  I refuse to jump to conclusions and give every random John Doe a pass, but I must start looking myself in the mirror to check my true G-swag! Single ladies, so often we profess that we are READY for our future husbands but will we pass him up because of his veil (money, looks, etc)?

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for being my mirror.   I check my appearance in the natural daily, but how I look in the spiritual is what really matters.  Thank You for showing me the random veils that I have in place that are hindering me from seeing more of You.  Lord, I pray that I am able to distinguish between Your marvelous works and my one-sided view points.  Daddy, I never know what You have in store for me and I refuse to miss it because of my distorted outlook. Just have Your way Lord! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

To all my beautiful ladies waiting to jump the broom I encourage you to EMPOWER each other to put down the mile long checklist and allow God to show you what He has beyond the obvious.  He may not be what you would consider Mr. Right but God has a purpose for Him and in due time He will let you in on the secret.  Have a blessed week ladies!

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

7 thoughts on “Single in the City 2”

  1. This touched my heart. I remember standing across the bookstore at a geek I ignored while chatting with one of my line sisters. I never knew that three years later that geek would be “my geek forever.”

    I found that “my type” was the guy that failed me over the years. Until God planted who “He” chose, I was not successful.

    I pray for you during this awesome journey, of finding out what and who God has for you. Stay encouraged, you have the right attitude!!!

    1. Thanks Kay! I LOVE success stories… they always manage to turn the somewhat negative into a GREAT thing. I’m trying hard to look past the exterior from now on. We shall see how this goes lol

  2. This blog has really encouraged and empowered me. Latasha, I had to laugh today after reading your post, because I can really relate. I have learned sooooo much in these last couple months while I have been dating and learning to look past the clothes the man has on his body has been difficult! lol. But I will remember this bible verse. Thank you…

    1. I’m glad you could relate Janelle, but most importantly you were not afraid to admit it! US… single gals have got to be willing to admit when we are in the wrong as we go thru this process of preparation. Be Blessed lady!

  3. *singing* All the single ladies, all the single ladies!!! Very nice Tasha! I remember a few months ago having this conversation with a group of women via email and a few were adamant about their list of demands that they would never bend on…Im happy that your only REAL requirement is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Trust what He has for you; not what you think you want!

    I concur with Kay–I found out that “my type” obviously wasnt my type..becuase none of those relationships materialized into anything. Now a few years later, Im married to the light-skinned (when I preferred darker) and shorter (when I only dated 6′ and up) man who treats me like a queen! Who would have ever THUNK?!! LOL 🙂

    Thanks for sharing!

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