Forgiveness, Growth/Maturity, Inspirational, Self Forgiveness, Self-Esteem, Spiritual Therapy

The Mostaccioli Massacre

Sunday, March 27 was my mother’s birthday and I decided to host a small dinner for her at my house. I only invited a few close family members and friends. I’m not a big cook so I kept the menu short and sweet. I settled on one of my few specialties, mostaccioli. Anyone who has ever tasted my coveted pasta dish knows that it’s the bomb dot com! My special blend of sauces, herbs and meat is just scrumptious, if I must say so myself! Unfortunately, that day when my house was full of “just left church growling bellies” my mostaccioli was the absolute worst! It was so nasty that I couldn’t even it. What went wrong, you ask? I changed my routine and used a different brand of ground turkey simply because I saved a few dollars. I literally could not sleep for nights after that horrible mistake. I was so consumed with thoughts of how people were talking about me and my food. I was so ashamed and upset that I messed up. I literally could not forgive myself for making such a silly mistake. You’re probably reading this and extremely confused wondering why it bothered me so much. Well, when I make a mistake it really affects me. In the same light, when I sin I have a hard time forgiving myself and I’m willing to bet that some of you struggle in that area as well. Preparing a bad pasta dish is definitely not a sin but the effects of that incident are similar to how we process our mistakes. Let’s answer some questions to help us work through this our self-forgiveness:

  • How did I mess up like this? Well, I decided to take the cheaper route and buy some turkey that I was unfamiliar with. Maybe your route was easier or quicker. But the easiest paths often lead us down a road that we really shouldn’t be traveling and into sinful behavior.  “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. “ (Matthew 7:13 NIV)
  • I’ve messed up so badly, what will people think of me? As I said before, I was so concerned with what people were saying and thinking of me as a result of the food that was eaten in my home.  Maybe your mistake has been broadcast for the entire world to see. It’s hard for us to move past our mistakes because we’re too worried about what the world thinks of us. Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.” (Galatians 1:10 NLT) (And if everyone is honest, they’ve prepared a bad meal or two themselves! wink wink)
  • God forgave me, why can’t I forgive myself? I was literally tossing and turning in my bed wrestling with this yucky food incident. I was so mad at myself and left wandering how I could mess this up. But then I remembered what I told you at the beginning of this rant—I’m not a big cook! So, yes there was room for error! Romans 12:3 tells us not to think more highly of ourselves than we ought. (NIV) Remembering that you are HUMAN, that you were BORN INTO SIN and that you will NEVER BE PERFECT should make it a lot easier for you to forgive yourself for that slip-up. Stop being so hard on yourself!

Truthfully, I’ve held onto my mostaccioli massacre far too long. Today I’ve decided to release to it! And yes, I will attempt to create my dish again…we can’t stop pursuing our assignments simply because we mess up! Only next time I will stick with what I know works and I challenge you to do the same. Follow the Word because it’s the tried and true recipe for success!

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for Your unfailing love! Please forgive me for my slip-ups. I know there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ. Now that You have forgiven me, free me to forgive myself. Show me where I stumbled so that I don’t have to walk this path again. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to forgive yourself for any mistakes that you’ve made.  Repent and release yourself because God already has! Walk in freedom today my dear!

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Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant.  She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments.  As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible more than anything. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and two lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.

13 thoughts on “The Mostaccioli Massacre”

  1. Thanks Krissy!! The interesting thing that stuck out to me was, “Enter through the narrow gate.” The cheaper route usually costs us more. I need to be a little more patient and thorough before making decisions. Still a work in progress….

    May I have the recipe please??? Thanks!

  2. WOW!! It’s important to forgive ourselves. We are not perfect humans, but we do serve an awesome and perfect God. Loved this quote. Oh, and make sure you let me know when you’re fixing this dish lolbvs

  3. It’s okay Ms. Harris. I can remember eating some fried fish that you cooked in Huntsville about ten plus years ago that was good. Thanks for this post. I have been beating myself up and shedding mad tears because I must confess I haven’t made it to church. Though I have been praying, I feel like I’m missing something not attending church. So like you said try again. I’m going to go for not putting some things I may be doing interfere with me attending church. Thank you……..

    1. Amber, dont tell anyone about anything good you ate at my house! LOL I like people thinking that my cooking skills are non existent!

      Stop beating yourself up….as a matter of fact, you should join me one Sunday. I’ll even pick you up 🙂 Thats what friends are for…you help us up when we are down 🙂 Love ya!

      1. I’ll join you Sunday. Just give me the address and time. I couldn’t help but to let you know that the food you cooked and I ate was good 🙂

  4. Krissy this message is so for me. The simplest things take me over the edge. Long after the mistake I continue to beat myself up over and over and over again. What will people say if they find out? What will people think about me? In reality, we all make mistakes because none of us are perfect; however, our challenge is letting go of the mistake. It’s hard but doable. Thanks for sharing this story because I know you are a perfectionist reminds me of how “fearful” I was for messing up the Empowermoments a few weeks ago. LOL! What will Krissy say? She is not going to let me post again. I am going to have to hear her fuss. LMBO!

    On the cooking note, I know that you’re cooking is still a well kept secret. I will keep it that way.

    1. Its so funny how “fearful” you were of messing the EmpowerMoments up. Funny thing is that the whole situation taught me a lesson with my Control Freak problem (yes, Im still in recovery 🙂 ) That morning God reminded me that apart of relinquishing control and empowering people to do things is empowering them to make mistakes. And just like He forgives us over and over again so we must do the same. I heart you!

  5. WOW didn’t know that dish affected you that much. I’m gald you’ve decided to forgive yourself. As much as we strive to be like Jesus; no one BUT Jesus is perfect. (Just so you know I have messed up quite a few dishes.)

  6. I cooked a big after Christmas dinner for my in-laws and felt it didn’t meet my expectations, cause I think I can jam in the kitchen! LOL! I made dressing for the first time, but forgot to sautee the veggies first, so they were a tad crunchy!! I too, carried that with me & felt that I was being judged because of it. Thank you for reminding me that in all circumstances our God is a forgiving God & I need to let those feelings of judgement go!

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