Black Music Month Series, Patience, Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Spiritual Therapy, Trusting God

Single in the City 3: Ready for Love

As I’ve stated twice before, one of the hardest challenges I’ve ever encountered was being a single, Christian woman but I never mentioned the hardest event to attend as a single woman…WEDDINGS!!  A few weeks ago a friend from college met his beautiful bride at the altar to exchange vows before God, family, and loved ones.  Truthfully, I was very happy for him but I could not help but to think about my future husband. 

Weddings are supposed to be joyous occasions but it is very easy to lose focus as a single guest.  As the ceremony commenced I was deeply involved in a dispute with God in my head.  I eagerly questioned God when was it going to be my turn?  Where is my husband?  When am I going to be able to start planning my dream wedding?  Why everyone else and not me? I desperately wanted God to know that I am READY FOR LOVE!!

Just as India Arie poured her heart out on the lyrics to that song, I poured my heart out to God.  The entire wedding was a bit much for me as my emotions were torn.  Eventually I put aside my feelings and decided to chime in on the celebration.  However, once the wedding was over and I was on my way home, I chose to have a real conversation with Jesus and not just a one-sided interview like before.

As I drove back to Nashville, He revealed something to me that was a slap in the face.  “And the Lord direct your hearts into the love of God, and into the patient waiting of Christ.” (2 Thessalonians 3:5 KJV)  It was at that moment that I realized that I can be READY for love forever but being patient for it is what God expects.  Since God knows the true desires of my heart, why was I questioning the arrival of my husband?  He is in control of the situation but clearly I have not let it go.  The real issue is that sometimes we have to surrender it over to Jesus and let it be while still having the patience to wait for Him to deliver on His promises. 

Dear Daddy,

Thank you for Your promises.  I know that what You have for me is for me but I pray for the patience to wait for it.  I understand that You have already worked it out but I ask that You help me to stay in position until it is released.  Lord, I pray for the obedience to surrender it to You and allow You to have Your way without question. I am READY for a lot of things but I pray for the patience to wait on my God to see me worthy of it.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, single or married, I encourage each of you to EMPOWER yourself and others to be patient in your situation.  Remember God created you so He personally knows your long lists of wants. He is just waiting for the opportunity to increase your territory but are you going to be patient enough to wait it out?   

Continuing our Black Music Month party, enjoy India Arie’s “Ready for Love”:

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Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

18 thoughts on “Single in the City 3: Ready for Love”

  1. I LOVE INDIA ARIE!!! ….and this is one of my favorite songs. I too am Ready for Love. All I will say is that I pray that God continually grants me patience because I know that we are to be “anxious for nothing”… Amen…

  2. Tasha you are correct… I remember going through my wedding season from about age 25-28. I went to about 6 weddings a year… and it HURT. I am still in wedding season but they are more spread out…and it’s kind of hard to attend and not think about yourself….especially when you are IN the wedding. Sometimes all of the self talk in the world doesn’t get you through…it’s really a Battlefield of the Mind.

    1. Chancee I think coining the term “wedding season” was long overdue because this is truly a rough patch to get over. It seems like everywhere I turn someone else is getting married or starting their family and I’m still working on my career. Whether it is on Facebook, Twitter, email, or text there is always some update on the next person life that I have to take a moment from time to time and just be patient in God. I have to take myself to a point where it is just me and the Lord and I wait… wait until He is ready to release whatever it is! I trust and believe that when He feels we are ready our patience will not be in vain. Be blessed!

  3. God is so good. I’ve been in prayer for my single friends. Not that they get a husband, but that the encouragement they receive is timely and empowering. He shared with me something that applied to my life, right now. I too am waiting on something, but what I know is IF GOD DOESN’T WANT ME TO HAVE IT, THEN I DON’T WANT IT! Nothing worse than being outside of God’s will because of rushing him. I could kick myself so many times for doing that. I’m blessed by this because this is a new scripture for me to study. I’m encouraged to wait on my situation until He says I’m ready. (Excuse typos, I’m on my cell and can’t see.)

    1. Thanks Kay! In addition, to my patience I do have to understand that God will only give me what is in line with His will. So whether it takes a few months or years God will release it when the time is right… until then I will just indulge in more of Jesus!!!

  4. WOW, I was listening to this song like last week and I was thinking this would make a nice EmpowerMoment for Black Music Month…but I knew someone else would have to write it. Look at God and how He works!

    I am very happy that you are learning to be patient while He perfects your knight in shining armor! (Besides you have a little time anyway; you’re still young!)

    Kay, I concur—that scripture is defnitely a good reference. I too have some things at Gods feet that I can be anxious for. However, reading that scriptures reminds me to have my directed towards His LOVE!

    Thanks Tasha! Great post!

  5. Another thing–I remember hearing this song when it first came out and I was going through a very tough break-up. (He was my first REAL boyfriend) At that time, you couldnt have paid me to believe that I would EVER feel any better. But God’s unfailing love brought me where I am today….I said that to encourage all of you ladies in waiting. I know it looks dismal now but Praise God for the day that you will able to look back at today, smile and say “God knew just what He was doing!”

    1. Well i am glad god spoke to me and gave me this song because it was one that many can relate to. Most single women are so consumed with being ready that we forget to be patient and wait on the Lord. However, from now on I am done obsessing over the date but instead I will be patient and wait on the man God designed for me.

  6. God has been dealing with me ALL summer long about Love. I don’t think, no let me rephrase that, I KNOW I’ve never been in love mostly because I wouldn’t allow myself to be that open with someone else. But God told me something this morning in devotion, If I am never able to truly give love in a Godly love I won’t be able to accept it either. I love, but with conditions and God is working on my heart to love as He does, not just romantically but to my enemies, people who hurt me etc. Love is something you should only give to those who “deserve it” and that’s what God is teaching me. I am ready TO love and not just FOR it now 🙂

    1. Renee, I love your perspective on this. I had the same epiphany from god about six months ago when I discovered the love Jesus has for me. It was at that time that I decided to allow the love God shows me to set the precedent for how I should love others and how they should love me. I completely understand how you feel and it is part of the process that God takes us thru to get closer to Him. Be Blessed ma’am!

  7. Tasha I can definitely relate to how you feel. The number of weddings I’ve attended and participated in were beautiful but stressful at the same time. I’ve been asking God when is it going to be my time? As everyday goes by I am realizing that I have to get Amber in order and me and his (God) relationship. You are RIGHT we have to be patient. Thanks Tasha….

    1. Amber, this is a very stressful time for us single gals but it is an eye opening time for us in the same. Its situations and events like these that have us questioning ourselves and sometimes even God when being patience is really the answer. As they say… patience is a virtue and we must pray for it and have the faith that it will be done.

  8. Latasha,
    Thank you SO much because today actually was 1 of those days that I was having the “when, oh when, will it be my turn to meet my christian soul mate??” Don’t know your biological age but I can tell you that at 45, the dating scene is QUITE rough when you’re a christian and certain things you no longer do because of your faith. Your post touched on so many things currently going on with my heart and spirit…and then your line that did it for me – – God knows the secret desires of my heart, why am I moaning and whinning about when will He send my husband my way?? Thank you for reminding me that I have to work on me, BE STILL (…cause I tend to give it to Jesus and then take it back again..uugghh) and wait on the Lord. God bless you.

    1. Well Ms. Dee the dating game at 25 is just as crazy. From time to time I wake up and feel the exact same way but then I remember that God knows everything including this so let it GO!! However, surrendering can be the hardest thing to do but being and “Indian Giver” with Jesus is just as bad. God wants it so let Him have it! Be Blessed!

    1. Thanks! Part of me did not want to post this but the Jesus in me had other plans. Clearly it was worth it because so many people could relate… God really does work in mysterious ways!

  9. Tasha I just listened to this again and India Arie says “Tell me what is enough to prove I am ready for Love.” That’ is a prayer that I will be praying. Powerful indeed.

    1. AMEN!!!!!! I thought that was what I was doing when I was talking to God at the wedding but in all actuality I was only complaining! I am so glad you pointed those lyrics out because I now see that I owe God an apology. No longer will I state my credentials to a father who knows all but rather I will ask for Him to show me what to do to prove I am ready for love. Thanks again girl!

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