Black Music Month Series, Growth/Maturity, Inspirational, Self-Esteem, Stress

No More Drama

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” Hebrews 12:1 (NIV)

Last week I blogged It’s the God in Me that spoke about how God’s mercy and strength allowed me to start working on me. One of our readers “Dee” touched me in her comment and God encouraged me to write about how I’m able to “strut my stuff” in God!

There are things called “baggage” that seem to weigh us down in this journey called life. Baggage from our past, fears, failure, inadequacies; the list goes on. Someone stated “baggage is the stuff that follows you when you open one door before closing the one you just left.” Need I say more? Men can cause a lot of baggage and it’s because we don’t’ close the doors of yesterday before entering the promises of today. My message today is to EMPOWER you to get rid of the drama in your life! Some things in life stress us and they really aren’t worth it. Stop worrying about what people have to say about you. Dr. Seuss says it best, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” This is not to be done in an attitude of arrogance, but in an attitude of assuredness and love of how God made you.

Just recently I incorporated this concept of no more drama in my life. As outspoken as I am, I had this embedded need of other people’s approval. One night my husband had to sit me down and say “Look, you are running around trying to please all of these people or going and back tracking what you say because people get offended by your assertiveness. Be you. Being you is enough; it is more than enough.” It took a while to set in, but I had to truly believe what he said. God made me fearful and wonderful (Psalm 139:14). He did not make a mistake on me! I had to start releasing all drama from my life. That meant certain relationships gained boundaries. Healthy ones were relished, while unhealthy ones were deleted or minimized. My personal health took a front seat. I became priority. Now this doesn’t always mean first because sometimes family, friends, my child, or my honey may come first. But at the end of the day, I am a priority.

I had to set aside everything that held me down. Whether it was sin, anger, friends, disappointments, money or weight, I had to let that drama go. So today, one thing I do know is that I am a better woman for it. My confidence is not a front for this insecure person on the inside, but has become my true character. I have confidence in knowing that “with God, all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26b NIV). I am able to exert the God in Me because I have “laid aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset me, and I am running with patience the race that is set before me.” (Hebrews 12:1 KJV).

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for always being there for me, even when I couldn’t see my way through. Thank You for being there when I carried You with me through those voluntarily dramatic times of sin in my life. Father, as I move forward, teach me how to lay aside the drama that is causing me to back pedal or that’s keeping me down. Help me to move forward through Your healing of my heart, my soul, my mind, and my relationships. I love You Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

I EMPOWER you today to identify those things in your life that are drama filled and either remove or de-dramatize them. This is not something you do out of your own emotion, but through God’s purposeful plan for you, which can only be found through prayer and worship in Him. But Sistah Girl, some things are a given…if He has already told you to remove the drama, remove it NOW!

In honor of Black Music month I selected “No More Drama” by one of my favorite artists, Mary J. Blige. This song is very special to me because by the time you read this I will have lived out a dream of learning to tap dance (get your chuckle in.) I’ve always wanted to do it, and this is the song my tap instructor choreographed my performance to.

As a twofer, I would like to highlight her dance company NEEMA Performing Arts: Elizabeth Bowden, Founder and instructor, is a true woman of God that blesses our community through teaching us the gift and art of dance.

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three-year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

14 thoughts on “No More Drama”

  1. Kay I love this empowermoment for many reasons.
    1. It is a great followup to yesterday’s empowermoment on Baggage. Look at God move he is ordering our steps when we don’t even realize it.
    2. You fulfilled a lifelong dream because you made YOU a priority. I need to do the same. There were so many things that I didn’t get a chance to complete or participate in as a child that I still want to do. Watch out world!
    3. The following is a powerful statement because it shows that you chose to LIVE despite everything around you and I am making that choice too. “I had to set aside everything that held me down. Whether it was sin, anger, friends, disappointments, money or weight, I had to let that drama go.”
    4. We are ALIKE in so many ways and each time I see your writings I see a piece of me. It reminds me of my all time favorite Delta quote:
    -“When I look at you, I see myself. If my eyes are unable to see you as my sister, it is because my own vision is blurred. And if that be so, then it is I who need you either because I do not understand who you are, my sister, or because I need you to help me understand who I am.” – Lillian P. Benbow (You are definitely helping me understand who I am)

    Great post! God bless you!

    1. It’s funny you write this because as I read your posts I feel the same way. I think when I first met you I didn’t think you were “pro-Khalilah” but as we’ve grown you have become such an encourager and supporter in my life. When I look at you, my Soror, my LS, my Ace, I KNOW I see myself……………

  2. Kay, I really enjoyed this post. Recently, I have been clearing my closet of baggage and letting all this unneccessary drama OUT!!!! At first I wanted to fight the urge to do so because I had to let go of people and things I adored but Jesus was more than enough when it was all said and done. Sometimes we feel as if the drama keeps us on our toes but in reality like you said it only slows us down. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Isn’t that odd though? We love to hold on to the baggage, I think they term that insane, lol. But thanks be to God we are able to start letting go. I know I am guilty of holding on to things that God has clearly already removed.

  3. I’m so glad that God used Donald to tell you this and thank God you’ve finally realized it! You’re right about “No More Drama” or Baggage! Love you and keep allowing God to use you to be “naked”!

    1. Naked feels cold sometimes, but God always brings a warmth of comfort. Thank you for reading and loving me!

  4. I really enjoyed reading this. I too have to take into consideration all forms of DRAMA in my life. In the process of removing drama I had to think about if I was causing any drama in some fashion as well. Thanks

    1. Amber you said something there!! Hmmmm, “Am I causing the drama?” This question is packed with so much character growth it isn’t funny. I love it!! Thank you for helping me see myself.

  5. You’re just going to keep on blessing me, huh???? (~BIG SMILE~) You write beautifully, thank you for going into it a bit deeper because as a “foodie” (and soon to be EX foodie) who’s going to be asking God for a whole lot of will power, I get the whole stress/drama/anxiety = eating for comfort and consolation. (….and on a side note, you don’t know this BUT…you are 1 of my “Sheroes”.) You’re a role model for leaning on God to give us the courage and will power to make ourselves a priority and to take care of our physical bodies, our temple. Hopefully 1 day not too off in the distant future, I’ll be able to look cute and fit, rocking some running sneakers as I just completed a marathon, wink/wink lol. May God continue to bless you and keep you!!!! 😀

    1. Dee, you can do all things through Christ! With God nothing is impossible! I am so glad you were blessed, because you bless me! God will grant you what you ask in name according to his will and order.

  6. Kay, GREAT post! I love this cuz I LOVE MJB!!!! And just as Chancee stated, what a wonderful follow up to hers yesterday. Its amazing how God orchestrates things behind the scenes. Hebrews 12:1 is one of my favorite scriptures. Sometimes when I feel heavy, I check myself to see make sure I dont have myself tangled up in something becuase of my anger, fear, impatience, or stubborness—all of the sins so that slow me down. NO MORE DRAMA!

    1. Never thought about it being a daily self-assessment, but that is sooooooo necessary. I need to check my self daily, especially when I have mood swings. These are things that entangle me, that I can control. Thanks Krissy!!!

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