Forgiveness, God's Love, Growth/Maturity, Inspirational, Self Forgiveness, Self-Esteem, Spiritual Therapy

If You Live in a Glass House…

I know we have all heard the saying “If you live in a glass house don’t throw stones.” Three months after God called me to be a minister, I messed up. After being celibate for a while I had sex and got pregnant. I thought I was going to die. All I could think was “What will people say? What will I do now? How will I face the church?” And guess what– my thoughts and questions were accurate. Even though I was remorseful and realized the terrible mistake I made, “church folks” started to treat me like I had the plague. People were whispering and all my duties at church were stripped from me. I was terrified and petrified because I thought the way I was being treated was my punishment from God. But I was so wrong! Thoughts went through my head of getting an abortion or simply leaving the church! Genesis 50: 20 says what you meant for evil, God meant it for good. (ASV) See what the devil and people thought would destroy me, helped transform me into the woman I am today.  God led me to John 8 where the teachers of law and the Pharisees brought a woman to Jesus that committed adultery and they said she should be stoned because that was the law. Jesus responded by stooping down and writing on the ground. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.  Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 8: 7-10 NIV)

I went to the Lord and He reminded me that everyone sins and falls short. God revealed to me that He forgave me and I needed to forgive myself. He also revealed to me that it’s easier for people to throw stones at you and judge your situation than to deal with their own mess. Everyone has some mess, but they will throw stones at you in order to not deal with the stones that are in their houses and lives. The very situation that I thought ruined me made my relationship stronger with God because I had to lean and depend on Him. Psalm 121:1 says, “I lift up my eyes until the hills for whence cometh my help. All of my help come from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. (KJV) I learned man will fail you but God will be with you until the end. I kept trusting God and that very thing people threw stones at is “now my wonderful husband and my daughter. My ministry and my worship are for real. Those very people that counted me out and threw stones at my situation have come back to me for an encouraging word or a prayer because God showed them that nothing could separate me from His love . If you live in a glass house, please don’t throw stones.

Dear Daddy,
Thank You for being a forgiving God! I thank You for never giving up on me or counting me out. I pray for those that throw stones, that You reveal their mess to them and help them clean it up. I thank You for teaching me that if You are for me, no one can be against me. I thank You for the courage to stand when people said that I shouldn’t. Thank You for being a God of second chances! In Jesus’ name, Amen!

I EMPOWER you to not give up on God because He will never give up on you. God will forgive whatever sin you have committed and give you another chance. Do not let people determine your destiny; God already has a plan for your life!

Mrs. Keviyona Ray is an ordained minister and co-pastor in training of The Christ For All People International Church. She is passionate about sharing the word of God with everyone she encounters. As a professional, Keviyona is a teacher for Chicago Public Schools. She loves her ministry of teaching and changing children’s lives. She is a devoted wife and mother of a wonderful daughter. Two of her favorite scriptures are Jeremiah 1: 5 – Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations and Proverbs 29:18 –  Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.

14 thoughts on “If You Live in a Glass House…”

  1. Have mercy Lord!!! I love this post. I’ve learned that I have not right to judge, because if God posted my life, my thoughts, my desires, and my faults on a PowerPoint I would shutter!

    Thank you for sharing your story, and reminding us that we can be forgiven through it all. Not only that, but God is a redeeming God. If He can redeem me, He can redeem you, and so on…..

    Welcome to the team!

  2. Thanks Kay! I wrote this em to share with someone that even though people judge you, their judgment does not determine your destiny!

  3. Awesome message… I believe and receive it! I have watched you live by example and I know that you only speak what is true. Thank you for such a powerful message and for being our motivation for this day for so many women that may be experiencing this. It is so easy to turn the attention off of your self by highlighting what’s wrong in other people’s lives. The sooner everyone begins to focus on themselves the better off we will be as women and moreover as Christians… 🙂

  4. This is a great testimony and one that I needed. So often I find myself sitting in a place of judgement “isn’t he/she too old to be making that “silly” mistake” when I know that I too am like Kay. Please do not put my life on the big display screen because surely I would be terrified. Just because a person doesn’t make the same “mistake” that we would make doesn’t mean that our lives are any more perfect. Thank God for redemption!

  5. Keviyona,
    Thank you for sharing such a personal experience that you went through with “church folk”,….but most importantly, thank you for sharing with us how you kept your eyes on God and kept close to Him regardless of all the negativity coming your way. You showed how it’s done!!! I love God for when we stumble and makes mistakes, He swoops down and reminds us that He always holds us close in his heart; all we need to do is approach with a sincere heart. I’m thankful that our God is a good of 2nd, 3rd, 4th x x x chances, SO thankful for his mercy and grace and for never holding our past sins in front of us as a “block” to asking for forgiveness. Loved reading your post!! God bless you my Sister!!!!

  6. ….ok, so it’s craazy here at work….I meant to say “our God is a good God…”….sorry about that Keviyona.

  7. Girl this is MY story!!! LOL I remember when I got pregnant, I threw stones at my own glass house! No one had to strip me of anything; I stripped myself. I felt as though I was no longer worthy to do anything that related to God and His kingdom. I was embarrased and ashamed and CONDEMNED. But I remember a conversation I had with one of my dear sistah girlfriends. She told me about when she was in the same situation and how God wouldnt relieve her of her kingdom duties regardless of all of the mean things people were saying about her. That little 5 minute conversation gave me so much hope, more than she will ever know. It helped me to realize that God is still ok using me even when I slip up. He STILL had a purpose for my life. Imagine if I stayed in that place where I was; I wouldnt be here typing this comment on this post on this page becuase EmpowerMoments wouldnt exist. God is such as awesome wonder! I love Him sooo much!

    Thanks for sharing your story! I pray that it truly frees up even just one young woman who is beating herself up over a slip-up. I also pray that it gives us all the compassion and love to not look down on others when they slip up, but rather love them as He does. I know I need some assistance in this area at times! God Bless you!

  8. This is also my story! I got pregnant when I was 22 and I thought I was going to be banished from my family since I was single and unmarried. Instead, my family stood by me through my pregnancy journey and supported me, the “baby daddy” made a 180 degree turn and became supportive expectant Dad, and God met all of my financial and material needs.

    Matter of fact, this was such a miraculous moment in my life that I recently wrote a short story about this ordeal that is going to be published this fall entitled “When God Makes Lemonade.”


  9. @EM Thanks! I am so glad that me and God are responsible for my future!
    @Tara Thanks honey! I just want my light to shine so that people see the God in me! Well said- The sooner everyone begins to focus on themselves the better off we will be as women and moreover as Christians!
    @Lundy You are correct thank God for the redemption! I have learned on this journey that everyone has a story and it may not be mine but I don’t know their story. Trust and believe I was that person that had something to say and judge but God humbled me! I had to learn who am I to judge someone,so now I pray for people and their circumstances.
    @Dee Thanks sister! God is a God of many chances! I’m so glad God is not like people. I thank God for being a forgiving God!
    @Krissy Girl I’m so glad God placed someone in your life to tell you that God can use anybody and anything! Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who are called according to His purpose.(NASB)Sister-friend I am glad God chose you as an instrument to spread His word to women all over the world! I thank God for you! God is an awesome and miraculous God and I love Him! Nothing can separate me from the Love of God!
    @Latosha God is awesome and I can’t wait for your short story!

    1. i really enjoyed ur story,it was so powerful,and i realize god has a better plan for me ,thanks Keviyona

  10. Thanks Tracy! Girl God has ordered your steps and despite what it looks like you are destined to be great! Love you girl

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