God's Protection, Growth/Maturity, Relationships, Spiritual Warfare

I Believe in Vampires

Not the kind that wear capes, have sharp fangs and only come out at night but the ones that you talk to every day, have dinner with you and share some of your deepest thoughts.

One day as I was strolling through “La La” land thanking God for the restoration of a family relationship, I became prey for a vampire. I received a phone call from this same family member that started off really nice but before you know it I was in a full blown shouting match. I hung up without ending the conversation and felt dazed and confused about what had just happened. I had a good “ugly” cry about it before I realized that their issue was not “my” issue and that they had sank their fangs into me, relieved me of all of my good energy and went on about their merry way.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. (Ephesians 6:11 NIV)

Vampires are mythical creatures that live by feeding on other living beings. After they feed on other living beings, they are refreshed and restored. I am sure if you scroll through the Rolodex of your mind, you know a few vampires too. Their approach may be different but the end result is always the same. Every time you talk to a certain person, you may never get into a disagreement but by the time the conversation ends, you feel drained. Sometimes it’s the mere “dumping” of their problems that you aren’t mentally capable of handling. You end up feeling empty and exhausted while they proceed feeling reenergized, refocused and refreshed. That vampire just received a “job well done.”

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. (Proverbs 4:23 NIV) Most vampires are able to get to you because you have the guard down around your heart. We must protect our heart at all times because our life flows from it. No one can get to our hearts like “good friends and family”…the people we love dearly. After that phone call, I began to take inventory of all of the vampires in my life. Some of them will always be in my life because they are family, so instead of running for the garlic, I am learning how to deal with them and you should too:

  • Return Policy – Give people back their stuff! You need to return all issues that do not belong to you. No longer allow people to make their issue your issue. Hold people accountable and make them take ownership of their stuff.
  • Set Boundaries – This can be hard to do but you have to set boundaries with people. Sometimes you have to change the way that you allow them to communicate with you as well as the frequency of communication.
  • Don’t Dump On Me – Everyday can’t be trash day. There are times when our own lives are in a tailspin and we emotionally can’t take on anyone else’s garbage.
  • Don’t Give Them Power – Stop engaging them. Just cut the conversation short. “You know what, right now I really don’t have the time to talk about this. I will talk to you later.” At this point trying to get them to understand your view isn’t important, just cut the power cord.
  • Be Aware! – Ask God for discernment so that you can see people who were sent to you because you can help them vs. those who really don’t want help. They just want to drain you.
  • Be Ready! – When vampires attack you, Be Ready!  Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. (Ephesians 6:11 KJV)

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for your protection and Your love! Help me to recognize the vampires in my life and show me how to best deal with them. When I leave my guard down and come under attack, restore me immediately and remind me that these people only come to take me off of my heavenly purpose. Remove those people from my life whose sole mission is to feed off of me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen! 

Today, I EMPOWER you to take inventory of the vampires in your life and really think about how you are going to deal with each of them. Guard your heart and don’t allow them to drain you of your energy and your time.

P.S. As I write this, I am being tested as I have a vampire on speakerphone. I am trying to follow my own rules and it is difficult so be prepared. 🙂

Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend, community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. This week she is leaning on Psalm 23:1 The Lord is my Shepherd I shall not want.

13 thoughts on “I Believe in Vampires”

  1. 🙂 I love this analogy! I know sooo many vampires and baby, you are so right–they will suck the very life out of you if you let them. Ive truly had to ask God to give me keen discernment so I know when its His assignment and when its just a trick to waste my valuable time and zap my energy. This is really good…thanks for the action plan!

    1. Krissy your right, you really need discernment because it’s so easy to get sucked in…well in this case sucked out of… LOL! One moment everything is going good, the next moment you are trying to figure out what happened. Sometimes we know before we answer the phone or sit down to talk yet we still make a choice to put ourselves in harms way. #Guilty

  2. This is such a relevant word for me and my life… I just printed this off. I am going to keep a copy on me at all times to help remind me of how to deal with this. I just had an emotional meltdown two nights ago about this same issue and decided that I had to be the change I wanted to see in my vampire relatiosnhips. I asked him to show me what to do and he has!!! Praise break..See how God works, he sent this empowermoment to me to help me through. Thanks Chancee.. I needed this more than you will ever know.

    1. Girl I am glad that this was able to touch you and that God has shown you what to do. I continually seek his face because some relationships just need to be terminated. final. Learning everyday…

      On another note, I didn’t know WHO you were. I had to make a consultation. LOL!

  3. Thank you Chancee! You have blessed me today! I talk about love ones sucking the life out of me all the time! Girl I agree that analogy was brilliant! I never thought about them as vampires. Thank you for the insight and the steps to deal with them! You were a breath of fresh air today sister!

    1. You’re welcome Sheka and thank you sooo much! Girl you have to call them what they are Vampires and treat them as such.

  4. Geez, dealing with vampires can be indeed draining. I don’t think I’ve thought of it in this way. I had to learn to distance myself at times because being drained is not a good feeling. I will be taking an inventory of my heart to ensure it is guarded and ready at the right times, with the right people. I’m praying for discernment in how to deal with them.

    Thanks for this post!

    1. Kay as I was writing this I was reminded of your post “On Ready.” I try not to get caught off guard but even when I am supposedly ready I realize that certain people can really tug at my emotions in a way that others cant. I pray that we all get the discernment we need to know when to embrace and when to let go.

  5. Chancee,
    Awesome post!!!!! I’ll certainly ask for God’s discernment from now on so that I’ll be able to tell the difference between those who need a word or prayer and those who only come to dump their toxic issues and then flutter away feeling unburdened and fresh. Loved the theme too, very apropo. God bless you and keep you my Sister!!

    1. Thanks Dee… you have such a spirit of giving. I pray that God allows you to see those people that truly need your help so that you can dismiss those who only want to use you as their dumping ground.

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