“Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things” Philippians 4:8 KJV
Optimism and positivity weren’t always in my “Bio.” For years, I walked around in attack mode. I was always defensive and on ready for a rebuttal. Whenever I was faced with a mountain, I rarely could find anything positive to say. I sulked further into my pit of anger, disappointment, or whatever the emotion was as opposed to finding power through positivity. In my powerless situation, I remained negative.
Negativity is like a cancer. When harbored by its host (you) it grows and spreads until it affects every part of the body. Therefore, everything you touch or become affiliated with: jobs, relationships, finances, and so on are tainted with a negative outlook. Sometimes our friends are those negative cancers. Ever had a friend that could change the entire mood of the group or situation because of her anger or negative attitude? Well I was that friend. I could change the mood of an entire meeting due to my negative influence, i.e. bullying.
One day I made up my mind that I wanted more out of life. I wanted to smile more. I wanted to release this burden of self-induced anger. I wanted liberty in Christ. I felt captive to my negative spirit. I prayed for restoration and cleansing, and God heard me.
God took me through a series of character cleansing situations. He began to open my eyes to my new lifestyle of optimism. Life is much better this way. Of course Satan would say, “expect the worse so that you won’t be disappointed.” I had to realize that was indeed the enemy because my Father already told me to set my mind on things above…(Colossians 3:2 NIV). And furthermore, Jesus warned me “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10 KVJ) So if I am walking in negativity, then I am not walking in the promises of God. Negativity says I do not believe that the life He has for me is a life of abundance.
Ever heard that one rotten apple can spoil the entire bunch? The other day I was at an event with a group of friends and noticed that one of my girlfriends had a “tude.” I immediately went into prayer for her spirit, but I ended up praying for myself. I was praying for strength so that the negativity bug wouldn’t infect me. A few events arose and out of “the blue” the Holy Spirit said “LEAVE”, and I flew to the door. (But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13 NIV) The message is this, in times of negativity or being in circles with negative people, you have to flee so that you do not become tainted or tempted to take on their attitudes. I will not give anyone the power to make me have a bad day!
The truth is, sometimes we just aren’t strong enough to conquer the schemes of the devil. That is why the Bible tells us to put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. Read all of Ephesians 6:10-18.
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. (Psalms 51:10 KVJ) When I am faced with the spirit of negativity, give me boldness to not only rebuke it in the name of Jesus, but to flee! Lord, bless me within my friendship circles that I may be a light and not a bowl of negativity. If I need to remove myself, show me the way out. Teach me how to speak life and encouragement into my life and others. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, I EMPOWER you to flee from negative situations. Don’t fall into gossip, backstabbing, or even something as simple as being an accessory to the crime (I was there, but I didn’t say anything). Take an inventory of your actions and friendship circles. If there is a root of negativity, uproot it with putting on a new positive attitude! What are some ways that we can turn negative situations into positive ones? Share your story in the comment box. God may be using you to give someone a way to remove them from a negative situation.
As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6. She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment. Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three-year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.