Attitude, Family, Friendships, Relationships


“Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things” Philippians 4:8 KJV

Optimism and positivity weren’t always in my “Bio.” For years, I walked around in attack mode. I was always defensive and on ready for a rebuttal. Whenever I was faced with a mountain, I rarely could find anything positive to say. I sulked further into my pit of anger, disappointment, or whatever the emotion was as opposed to finding power through positivity. In my powerless situation, I remained negative.

Negativity is like a cancer. When harbored by its host (you) it grows and spreads until it affects every part of the body. Therefore, everything you touch or become affiliated with: jobs, relationships, finances, and so on are tainted with a negative outlook. Sometimes our friends are those negative cancers. Ever had a friend that could change the entire mood of the group or situation because of her anger or negative attitude? Well I was that friend. I could change the mood of an entire meeting due to my negative influence, i.e. bullying.

One day I made up my mind that I wanted more out of life. I wanted to smile more. I wanted to release this burden of self-induced anger.  I wanted liberty in Christ. I felt captive to my negative spirit. I prayed for restoration and cleansing, and God heard me.

God took me through a series of character cleansing situations. He began to open my eyes to my new lifestyle of optimism. Life is much better this way. Of course Satan would say, “expect the worse so that you won’t be disappointed.” I had to realize that was indeed the enemy because my Father already told me to set my mind on things above…(Colossians 3:2 NIV). And furthermore, Jesus warned me “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10 KVJ) So if I am walking in negativity, then I am not walking in the promises of God. Negativity says I do not believe that the life He has for me is a life of abundance.

Ever heard that one rotten apple can spoil the entire bunch? The other day I was at an event with a group of friends and noticed that one of my girlfriends had a “tude.” I immediately went into prayer for her spirit, but I ended up praying for myself. I was praying for strength so that the negativity bug wouldn’t infect me. A few events arose and out of “the blue” the Holy Spirit said “LEAVE”, and I flew to the door. (But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13 NIV) The message is this, in times of negativity or being in circles with negative people, you have to flee so that you do not become tainted or tempted to take on their attitudes.  I will not give anyone the power to make me have a bad day!

The truth is, sometimes we just aren’t strong enough to conquer the schemes of the devil. That is why the Bible tells us to put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. Read all of Ephesians 6:10-18.

Dear Daddy,

Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. (Psalms 51:10 KVJ) When I am faced with the spirit of negativity, give me boldness to not only rebuke it in the name of Jesus, but to flee! Lord, bless me within my friendship circles that I may be a light and not a bowl of negativity. If I need to remove myself, show me the way out. Teach me how to speak life and encouragement into my life and others. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to flee from negative situations. Don’t fall into gossip, backstabbing, or even something as simple as being an accessory to the crime (I was there, but I didn’t say anything). Take an inventory of your actions and friendship circles. If there is a root of negativity, uproot it with putting on a new positive attitude! What are some ways that we can turn negative situations into positive ones? Share your story in the comment box. God may be using you to give someone a way to remove them from a negative situation.

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three-year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

16 thoughts on “Flee!”

  1. Thank you Kay, “Flee” just gave me conformation on a situation I have been in deep prayer about. Thank you for sharing.

    1. TaraShaun, thanks for reading and commenting. This is a word I will need to remember daily, as it is so easy to forget.

  2. Kay, this is a great message. I think EVERYONE needs to read this as we are all someway involved…either being the negative person or being the accessory. I am so gulity of being an accessory. I have a certain circle that spends alot of time gossipping and most times, I sit back listen (and laugh occasionally…guilty :-() But i hardly ever say anything to confront it or even just leave. But your are absolutely right, I am an accomplice to the crime. #gotsadobetter

    1. Those accessories can be dangerous because they validate the offender. It’s almost like silent support. The flesh is so weak and gossip can be so juicy, lol.

  3. Thank God for the message and the messenger! I am guilty I sit and listen to all the negative things that’s going on in the lives of people, I use to think I was doing them a favor but I would internalize their situation and bring their issues into my life. I also had to pray and stop listening to negativity! Great job Kay!

    1. I didn’t realize I was doing the same thing! I would sit there quietly, then leave the situation with my spirit vexed. Now my family and friends took the brunt of my “vexness”, lol.

      We can continue to walk in His love if we continue the fight of removing things from us that are NOT like Him. We can do it!

  4. I learn something from my sisters in Christ each and every day!! So many times when I haven’t participated in negative talk (or gossip because I have to be honest), I felt as if “well, I didn’t speak on it, so I have nothing to do with it”. Your post gave me a new insight I never thought about. Sitting back and just being in the circle without addressing negativity makes me an accessory, didn’t even think about it in that light. Thank you Khalilah!! Wonderfully written and so obvious God used you to enlighten the rest of us. Negative talk or gossip whether in the office or when it knocks on my door at home…is being blocked!! Done, outta here! When we know better; we do better; so so true. God bless you always my sister!!!!

    1. Yes ma’am!! Block it!! We have the power to control what goes into our spirits and this is NOT one of them.

      Dee, thanks for reading and being so supportive.

  5. Kay this reminds me of a situation that me, Krissy and Kristi were involved in on our trip to Spain. We weren’t around gossip but we were in a place that had a very negative atmosphere. Later we each talked about how we had an “inkling” to leave but didn’t want to ruin the experience for each other. As events happened later in the night, we realized that we were disobedient to the spirit in a way that could have been tragic for us all. I am learning more to heed to the spirit when he speaks.

    I am guilty of talking and being an accessory, I must admit. I have learned that being an accessory is just as bad because although you may never open your mouth negativity can cause you to get caught in situations that you have nothing to do with…at all.

    Thanks for the message…. this is what happens when you become the vampire….sucking the energy out of people and places. 😉

    1. When I read your post yesterday, especially knowing that you hadn’t edited mine yet, I just shook my head at how awesome God is. It seems like I am always a sequel to your posts, and I send my usually a week before yours. But God says that life is “pre-destined”. This is a true testimony of that.

  6. Kay, this was an awesome post!!! I have been on both ends of the negativity. I use to be the person that always had to point out the bad things to stir up emotions in everyone else. However, then I becme the one soaking up the negativity only to pass it on to the next person. As I got older and grew in Christ I realized that there is a blessing in everything… so I try my hardest not to complain much these dyas because I am still abundantly blessed. As for those negative people… lets just say now-a-days they have those conversations by themselves! Thanks for sharing!

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