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Who’s Your Daddy?

“Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.” (Romans 1:24-25 NIV)

It almost seems like yesterday when I met this fellow that “swooped” me off of my feet with his charm, just like my Dad. I became infatuated with this guy because he made me laugh, sometimes uncontrollably, just like my Dad. But there was something different about this relationship. After we talked for some time God spoke to me in my teen-aged bedroom, on the floor at the foot of my bed while cleaning out my closet. (God always speaks in the closet.) As I was lining up my colorful array of Nikes, He said, “Don’t make him your boyfriend.” I felt a lump in my throat as I picked up the phone that rang just after God’s command. Looking back, he never really “asked” me to be his lady. Instead, after a while of exclusive dating, I gave him my ultimatum of “I don’t do the casual relationship thing.” And boom, God’s words replayed again, “Don’t make him your boyfriend.”

This relationship was indeed unhealthy. I cried as much as I laughed. I felt guilty for dating him and knew that my relationship with God was severed. He gave me over to my sinful desires because I wouldn’t leave him alone. Due to this disobedience I strained and neglected my relationships with family and friends.

This relationship took me to a dark side. I was living a double life. I would spend all night with him being not so “righteous”, sneak home around 4 am and then head to choir rehearsal!! “So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth. You say, ‘I am rich; I have acquired wealth and do not need a thing.’ But you do not realize that you are wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked.” (Revelation 3:16-17 NIV)

So why was I so into this dude? He took care of me just like a “Daddy”. He always put gas in my car, new Air Max on my feet, herring bone chains on my neck, and his ride was fly. He put 18” rims on his Lexus and a new sound system in mine. He affirmed my beauty constantly and always made me feel pretty!

During my Junior year in college the signs of an unequal yoke began to show. He was not supportive of my trying to go back to Christ. But I stayed with him because I “knew” I could change him. (I’m sure God is chuckling here).

After four years of walking on the dark side then slowly moving back to the light, the Holy Spirit tugged me. My Christian roots were not dead, but yet alive! I knew that not only did God still love me, but my assignment was changing. I needed to get moving in God’s direction. It took me two more years during this grueling process to break up with him. I kept falling back into the abyss of comfort, but every time God would light a fire in me and would force me to keep going!!

In 2003 at a Women’s Day celebration at my now home church, all of a sudden I started feeling shackles break off of my feet and my ankles. I cried, I screamed and I shouted; it was amazing I was set free! I had already released him, but in that moment God released me and birthed in me a fire to live for. He became my true Daddy. He was whom I called on when those single nights got rough. I cried at the foot of my bed at night and poured out my heart’s issues. He poured into me affirmations of beauty, strength to stay in the fight; he purified my spirit, and my life. He washed me with His love. I was now whole, healed, and completed.

It wasn’t until all of this that He showed and sealed me with the man that He had waiting all along, my husband.

Dear Daddy,

Words cannot express how grateful I am to know that You are my Daddy. How grateful I am to have been spared through my time of disobedience to You. I bless You for cleansing me and healing me to be the daughter that You have called for me to be. Keep me near You Lord. Continue to show me how to rely on You for those needs that can so easily be disguised as being filled by others. I love You. In Jesus’  Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you today to realize the “Daddy” in your life. Our boyfriends, fiancés, and even our husbands shouldn’t take God’s place. No one should ever have to compete with Him to be your Daddy. Who’s your Daddy?

As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” Hebrews 11:6.  She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment.  Khalilah resides in Huntsville, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three-year old daughter where they attend St. Luke Christian Church.

18 thoughts on “Who’s Your Daddy?”

  1. WOW…are you me!!! LOL! This was a true testimony and it hit home. Thanks for sharing. I really enjoyed it!

  2. Khalilah!!!
    Lord Jesus!!!!! Related to your post on SO many levels. It really is so easy to be seduced by the guy who’s “so much fun and can make me laugh and laugh….” and unfortunately I’ve fallen into that seduction as well at certain times in my life….BUT I THANK GOD and his mercy for correcting me and MOVING ME out of the way from something (…a few men in my past). I know NOW that God saved me from something that could’ve brought me death!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU GOD FOR PROTECTING ME AND GUARDING MY HEALTH WITH YOUR MERCY AND GRACE!!! I will NEVER become so infatuated again that I lose sight of who my real Father is, who my REAL Daddy is!!!! In the process now of working on my inner-self (and oooohhh I’m diggin deep “in my closet”) so that when my REAL Daddy says it’s time, He’ll send me the one HE’S chosen for me…my equal yoke. ******HAVING CHURCH UP AT WORK!!!!******

  3. Awesome, I really needed to this, this morning. I was JUST sitting at my desk, at work, in tears over a guy that possess all these same qualities but I somehow ran the guy away!!!! God what is wrong with me?, I questioned. Why do I continue to go through this emotional roller coaster with EVERY guy I like. BOOM my empower moment alerted on my phone. I rolled my eyes as I opened to read it…..WOW, my lip is dropped to the keyboard.

    1. Chaunte, it’s something about that roller coaster that just makes you sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was on it. I’m so thankful to know that this post was for you. To encourage you and shift your perspective. Stay in the fight, it’s too late to give up now!

  4. When Chancee texted me yesterday about an error she needed to edit, I wanted to just tell her to delete the entire post! I was so insecure about it because this is not the whole story, your mind can wonder off into so many other things regarding this post that I didn’t get to share. But God saw fit for it to be released this way and I pray that you all are blessed by it. I was released and healed that day in church, but it is very interesting seeing how it reads on the screen……….#feelingsomekindaway.

    At the end of the day, let God get the glory, and for that I give Him praise for restoration in my life and I am encouraged to know He can do the same for you.

    Thy will be done………

    1. Kay writing these Empowermoments causes us to get spiritually naked and reading them sometimes can make us ashamed about our current and past situations; however as you notice there is ALWAYS someone who can relate or who needs to hear just what you wrote the way you wrote it. I thank God for giving each of the women who put our business out here on the world wide web the courage to do so. It takes a lot…but to whom much is given much is required.

    2. Girl, it is NEVER easy to put your business on front street….Imagine how I felt writing that “Aint No Feeling Like Being Free” I still cringe when I think about it. But Revelation 12:11 says that we overcome by the blood of the lamb AND the word of our testimonies. Even if “she” (whoever “she” is) didnt comment on this post, know that “she” was helped by your courage to share your story. Jeremiah 1:12 says that He is watching over His word to perform it so believe when you bare your all and get His word out, it is NOT in vain! Be blessed and encouraged and thanks for stripping for someone else to be FREE! Love you!

  5. I know you have heard the saying “what’s from the heart reaches the heart!” Kay this word touched me because I can relate down to you reali-ng who your REAL Daddy is! Thank God for my Daddy!

    1. I am so glad you were blessed. And yes, I know that saying well, and this indeed came from my heart. I am so blessed to know it reached yours! I’m empowered by you.

  6. Awesome.Well said…Mrs. Burton…I love this…this empowermoment allowed me to have a moment..something that I’d rather ignore at this very moment….God has his way of speaking to me…Thank You Jesus…in spite of, I’ll FOREVER BE CHASING AFTER YOUUUUUUU..

    1. Oh Lord, are you one of my students??????? Lord help me, haha.

      Crystal, it’s something about releasing to God that helps us be free. I am so thankful that he planted this word for you. Keep in the fight, He loves you so much that He will always show you encouragement along the way.

      Thank you for reading!

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