Children, God's Love, Growth/Maturity, Honesty/Truth, Inspirational, Love, Marriage, Obedience, Submission/Surrendering

I Chastise You Because I Love You

I remember as a child after my father would spank me he would always come back and tell me, “I whooped you because I love you.” I used to think, “Love doesn’t hurt and it sure doesn’t sting.” I remember him telling me that he needed to teach me right from wrong and if I did wrong, there had to be consequences. Naturally, I have a better understanding now that I have a daughter of my own. Once again as I was attempting to write my EmpowerMoment, I heard my daughter in the bathroom. I yelled, “Ken, what’s that smell?” She replied, “I don’t know Mommy.” Of course she knew but I went in the bathroom and gave her the opportunity to be honest. She still decided not to tell the truth. The floor was wet and all I smelled was Awesome All Purpose Cleaner in the air. Now the “experts” say that it’s normal and developmentally appropriate that kids lie but I’m here to tell you that I’m not raising a dishonest person. After I disciplined her, I spoke to her and said “You are in trouble because I love you and I don’t want you to lie; even if it makes me mad, always be honest with me.” I know that some people may think that I am being a little hard on her but I expect greatness because not only is she our child, but she is a child of the King.

My son, do not despise the chastening of the LORD, Nor detest His correction; For whom the LORD loves He corrects, just as a father the son in whom he delights. (Proverbs 3: 11-12 NKJV)

The same way I have to correct my child, God has to correct me. I was going through a situation where I wasn’t being perfectly honest with myself. My marriage was going down like the Titanic and I blamed it all on my husband. The way he talked, the way he walked and even the way he breathed was all aggravating to me and everything was his fault. I often told him everything he was doing wrong and never what he was doing right. God had to speak to me: “Sheka you are not perfect and you are not innocent. You need to get your house in order starting with you.” As I evaluated my situation He spoke to me further and asked me, “Do you treat him like a man is supposed to be treated? Does he feel like the king of his castle?” The answer to both of those questions was no.

The sad part was that I still didn’t change my ways and we split up. God had to chastise me by showing me that the grass was not greener on the other side. What I thought would be better was not good at all, but God let me experience it. God had to let me experience something that was not like Him in order to appreciate Him and my marriage. I know it may not seem like God was chastising me but He did by the sleepless nights, the many tears, heartaches and disappointments. God also chastised when He reminded me of His Word: “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19: 6 NIV) Who did I think I was trying to go against God’s word and look to my own understanding?  

Ladies, the truth sure does hurt but John 8: 32 says “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (NIV) The truth was that I was a part of the problem and I am glad that God loves me enough to correct me when I am wrong.  I received God’s discipline as a sign of love. When we are experiencing hard times it is tempting to believe the devil’s lie that “If God really loved you, He would never let you suffer like this.” But we know it’s precisely because God does love us that He allows us to experience problems that will develop our character and draw us closer to Him. For both children and adults, the only way to become morally pure is to learn the difference between right and wrong by suffering the consequences for our wrongdoings. The Father is faithful to provide the loving discipline His children require.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for protecting and wrapping Your loving arms around me when I don’t always make the right decisions. Thank You for loving me enough to chastise me and correct me when I’m wrong. In the future, help me to continue hearing Your voice when you are correcting my wrongs. God, help me to be receptive to Your corrections. Lord, I pray for wisdom and understanding as You correct me so I don’t keep making the same mistakes. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to receive God’s chastising and correcting as a sign of love.  Be receptive to God’s corrections because He will lead and guide you along the right path. I EMPOWER you to learn from your mistakes and bad decisions and choose what’s right. Just remember that God chastises you because He loves you!

Mrs. Keviyona Ray is an ordained minister and co-pastor in training of The Christ For All People International Church. She is passionate about sharing the word of God with everyone she encounters. As a professional, Keviyona is a teacher for Chicago Public Schools. She loves her ministry of teaching and changing children’s lives. She is a devoted wife and mother of a wonderful daughter. Two of her favorite scriptures are Jeremiah 1: 5 – Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations and Proverbs 29:18 –  Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.

9 thoughts on “I Chastise You Because I Love You”

  1. Thanks Sheka great post. I am looking at various situations in my life & it is or has been revealed to me my wrong in some of them. I didnt get upset because it was true but I dread to be wrong. But at least God is forgiving & he will help me learn not to keep making those mistakes. Stay blessed 🙂

    1. You are welcome Amber! God is a forgiving God. If we keep making the same mistakes why shouldn’t God chastise us. If Kennedy keeps making the same mistakes it is my duty to teach her right from wrong so why shouldn’t God set us straight!

    1. Glory be to God! You know when I first started writing this I was nervous for a minute second because I wanted people to catch the message and not so much the story that I was telling. I thank God that this blessed you as much as it blessed me! Thank you honey! I love you and appreciate you more than you know!

  2. Girl the Lord will tap that booty! Ask me cause I know. Sometimes its just a little spank to get our attention and sometimes he has to shut things down before we pay attention. Great post!

    1. Thanks Chancee. Lol @ The Lord will tap that booty! Girl listen I know all about being spanked and trust me I have never been a fan of spankings so most times I am scared straight!

  3. I have made a big mistake in my life, God has chastised me for being unfaithful to my husband. I asked for forgivness and yet years later I still suffer, Why?

    1. Cynthia,

      Thanks for the courage in sharing your story. First off, there are consequences for our actions, but God is a forgiving God. If you sought Him for forgiveness, you have been truly forgiven. I am not sure how you may be suffering today, but know that when God forgives you, it is forgiven AND forgotten. If you are dealing with feelings of guilt, condemnation and shame, that is from the enemy. The devil does not want you to be free from your mistakes. He will hold that over your head so that you are ineffective to the advancement of the things of God. We will be praying for your liberty and freedom in Christ!

  4. Spiritual spankings are as necessary for adults as physical spankings are for children. Whether we learn from them is up to us.

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