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No Grandmothers on Grandparents’ Day

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NIV)

I checked my e-mail the other day only to find several reminders for upcoming holidays with an option to send greeting cards to celebrate.  Labor Day was the first notification to be deleted followed by Patriot Day.  The last notice was for Grandparents’ Day.  I instantly remembered when I set the reminder way back in 2006 so that I would be sure to contact my grandmothers.  I clicked on the subject line only to find that this year the holiday fell on my 26th birthday- September 11th!  Normally, I would probably be ecstatic but instead my heart grew heavy because both of my grandmothers passed away a few years ago.

“We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord.” (2 Corinthians 5:8 NIV)

I had been to a multitude of funerals in my life but I had never experienced the loss of someone that I LOVED dearly until one week after I graduated from college.  As I drove home for the Christmas break I never thought that I would be celebrating Jesus’ birth the same week I buried my maternal grandmother.  She had been sick for quite sometime, being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis ten years prior.  She battled with the disabling disease until lung cancer took her final breath in 2007. 

Even though my paternal grandmother was in great health before she passed, I tried to spend as much time with her because I had witnessed God take someone special away before I was ready to let them go.  However, no one could have guessed that a small fall in the kitchen would cause her to miss her annual trip down south that she was in the midst of packing for.  We definitely did not think that the Lord would be ready to call her home at the first sign of a blood clot as a result of her stumble. But in May of 2008, God took her away without letting anyone say goodbye first.

“Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will bring me up.  You will increase my honor and comfort me again.” (Psalms 71:20-21 NIV)

Ladies, at that point I was hurt beyond belief.  God had taken away two people that I loved dearly without any notice.  I had watched my ailing Grandma cheat death on many occasions. We would pray hysterically until the enemy would release his grip but this time there was nothing we could do…God had His hand out waiting for her to grab a hold.  As for my Granny, I never saw it coming.  I felt like someone had stabbed me in my back because I was still recovering from my first loss only to loose again.  But who am I to question God’s work?  I did not understand then but what seemed like chaos to me was an opportunity for us to grow closer. 

As much as I hated to experience that pain, God was ready for them to spend eternity with Him.  He gave me twenty-two magnificent years with them and in that time I had created and stored life-long memories to help me when times got rough…and trust me, it does get rough!!!  Sometimes I reminisce and can’t stop smiling and others I can’t stop crying. Regardless of the emotion, when it’s over I feel God’s love surrounding me even more. 

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for those ill feelings I expressed when I lost my loved one.  Thank You for restoring me when the enemy tries to make me feel that I have lost apart of myself because they died.  Please continue to comfort me in my time of sorrow for I know that my strength comes from You.  Allow me to focus on the wonderful memories rather than the pain from their absence.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today I EMPOWER you to allow God’s love to mend your broken hearts.  Your loved ones are absent from this world of sin but are spending eternity with a world class Master!  Be Blessed Ladies! 🙂 

This is dedicated to my two personal angels in the sky: Johnnie Elizabeth Horne and Margie Sampson — Happy Grandparents Day!

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

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11 thoughts on “No Grandmothers on Grandparents’ Day”

  1. WOW! Did you get blessed from God to be a prophetess? Tasha my grandmother who raised me has been sick from a mild stroke she had in April. She occasionally gets dementia when she becomes upset. I was so stressed out & I cried every night for months because our relationship is inseparable. I prayed & asked God to help me because the family is mistreating her & allowing me not to visit her. How will she know that I really love her and she means the world to me? God took that burden up of me a little by allowing things to change a lil. She’s doing a little better, I am able to talk to her sometimes, and before I moved a month ago. I met her at her dr’s appointment and we ate lunch, talked, laughed, and I told her that I love her & gave her a big hug and kiss. She’s still here at 89yrs old with a bday 09/28 so I’m praying she can see her 90th if not God will heal my heart like he has and still is yours. Thanks fellow virgo/birthday girl 09/11 (happy birthday Tasha)this message has really done something to me I’m typing, crying, and smiling.

    1. First of all, Happy Early Birthday Amber!!! Enjoy your day! In regards to your grandmother I recommend that you create those memories and make them last a lifetime. We never know exactly when God will be ready to call her home but we must remember that it is not about us at that time! When He is ready for her He will invite her to party in Heaven which is far better than any of us down here on earth. Just stay prayed up and allow God to move when needed. We may not understand right at that moment but there is a blessing even when we hurt because it is an opportunity for God to console you. So dry your tears and embrace Jesus no matter what! Be Blessed! Happy Birthday again!

  2. Aww this brought a gloss to my eye. I remember this so vividly. Tasha, I remember how she passed as you were on your way home to Chicago. We didnt want to tell you while you were on the road so we waited for you to make it there. Remember how I came up to the car playing and joking around with you? I just wanted to make you laugh because I knew soon enough you’d be crying. Then the second blow came with Granny and I just couldnt believe just like that they were both gone. I am just so happy that they had RELATIONSHIP with Jesus which means that we’ll kick it again. 🙂

    I know that they are smiling down because they are truly proud of the woman that you have grown into. I still believe that Grandma held on to see her youngest grandbaby graduate from college!

    Rest in Paradise to my two loving grandmothers: Johnnie (Grandma) and Margie (Granny) 🙂

    1. Yeah those two days were full of emotions that I thought were gone until I began writing this. Dealing with grief is not as easy as it seems and everyone copes differently but God’s love is universal!

  3. Im a little late to comment but I remeber this too of. Even though Ms. Horne wasnt blood she was still one of the many elderly women who I considered to be my grandmother. She is truly missed. Granny was one of a kind. She was the most calm, positive woman I have net & probably will ever meet. I LOVE THEM BOTH

    1. I missed them both on different days for different reasons but I know that they are watching me from Heaven. I just thank God that we were able to spend that time with them and they were able to impact our lives in such a way.

  4. I’m just a little curious? What denomination of Christianity is this blog affiliated with?I’m asking as I personally do not believe the whole “God taking people away” message. I believe John 10:10, and this post is a bit disturbing to me, to be really honest.

    1. This blog isn’t affiliated with any particular denomination as the writers come from a variety of Christian experiences. We each have our own personal beliefs that undoubtedly shape the blogs that we write.

    2. Hello Raynasybelle!

      Thank you so much for your comment and question. To answer, EmpowerMoments isnt affliated with any particular Christian denomination. The writers for EmpowerMoments are a group of diverse Christian women who come together for the sole purpose of Empowering women of faith AND those who dont know Jesus. We too believe in John 10:10 where it says that the enemy comes to steal kill and destroy and that Jesus came that we may have life more abundantly. We also believe that God is sovereign in all of His ways. With that being said, there is NOTHING that the enemy can do to us that God doesnt allow. Consider Job. satan was only able to do the things he did to Job with God’s permission. (See Job 1) So even if its the enemy’s plan to kill us, he cannot do so unless God has given Him authorization. Of course this leads us into why would God allow that to happen and so forth but I’ll leave that debate for another day. I will reiterate that God is sovereign in all of His ways and Romans 8:28 reminds us that the good, the bad and ugly all work together for our good. Becuase this post was written by my sister, I know the situations surrounding both incidents. I can say that in the case of my grandmother who died of lung cancer, she may have died a death initiated by the onset of cancer (which many, including myself, argue is of the devil) but now I can totally see how and why our sovereign God would have allowed that to happen. My mother, who had an addiction for over 25 years, chose to get clean AFTER the death of her mother. God uses the good, the bad and the ugly for our good.

      In the post when you read, ” God had taken away two people that I loved dearly without any notice.” I believe that she was referring to the fact that He had taken them back in the sense that they were gone to Heaven to rest with Him forever.

      I hope that I answered your question and addressed your concerns. If not, please feel free to email me at empowermoments@gmail.com and we can discuss it further.

      Thanks again for reading EmpowerMoments 🙂

  5. Tasha thanks for this blog. It was particularly hard for me to think about because my grandmother is still alive and I can’t even bring myself to think about a time when she won’t be here.

    I had the opportunity to meet both of your grandmothers who were wonderful women. Though you didn’t make it on that particular day to say bye, you have many more memories of them that will live with you forever.

  6. Tasha this was a really touching and special tribute to your grandmothers. You know the flood gates opened as I was reading the words. I miss both of these truly remarkable women who made a great impact on my life—my Mother and my Mother-in-law. I loved them both but God loved his children more.

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