God, God's Love, Relationships, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Spirit of Loneliness

Single in the City 6: The COLD Winter

As the winter months approach, as a single gal I seem to feel a bit of anxiety trying to surface.  I have found that colder days are a sure fire indicator of just how COLD my love life is.  In the spring and summer I can get out and about, embracing my single-hood for what it is.  During that time my girls and I are able to hit the town and never think twice about a man or the lack thereof.  But as soon as the first fall breeze blows, I yearn for the comfort of the opposite sex.   I have been single for two years and every time the weather changes my emotions get riled up.

Just talking with others I have concluded that this feeling is almost universal for single women every where.  Wintry weather has been coined the “boo” season because it is always better to stay inside and cuddle with a man, than fight the frigid temps alone.  Even worse, there are people who are fine with being single 75% of the year but when those few COLD months come around being single is no longer an option.  So that leads me to the question- are we desiring to store men like the animals in the forest store food for the winter?  If so, how will we ever break ourselves of this habit?

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 NIV) The bible makes it simple in saying that when those feelings of loneliness show up we are to hand it over to God.  Of course that is easier said than done but the reality is that God really is waiting on us to catch up and hand it over to Him.  Even David had to take a pause for the cause to cry out to the Lord in Psalms 25:14- “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” (NIV)

The problem with most of us single women (myself included) is that we prefer to cry on the shoulder of a man rather than cry out to God.  Ladies, being a single Christian truly is a daunting task but rejoicing in the promises of God is effortless.  We must remember to rely on God in all areas, even our love lives.  God is not restricted to church affairs, but instead we should incorporate Him into everything.

Dear Daddy,

Forgive me for the times that I chose a man in the natural rather than communing with You in the spirit.  Please help me to remember to cry out to You whenever I feel lonely.  I know that these next few months will be even harder and I ask that You continue to console me.  Whenever I think about finding comfort elsewhere, remind me who I am in You!  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Single ladies across the world, I EMPOWER to spend the winter with Jesus!  When it gets cold outside, wrap yourself in the Word of God and before you know it spring will be in the air! Be Blessed! 🙂

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

8 thoughts on “Single in the City 6: The COLD Winter”

  1. Latasha,
    Preach it!!!! Tell the truth!!!! It’s no coicidence that here in New York City where I live, the weather took a drastic brisk turn and it truly feels like a chilled Fall day today (dropped to 50 degrees last night)….which stirs up SO much of what you posted about!!! So true!!!! I’ve been single for a bit longer than you (4 yrs to be exact, I’m a single Christian, 45 yr. old Grandmother who will NOT be engaging in pre-marital sex and is waiting on her next husband for that) so I sometimes feel like dating and possibly even getting married again is a big challenge. But I was JUST reminded; maybe convicted is the better word; that all I need to do is seek the Lord and all those other things will be added. So until the Lord sees it in His perfect timing to send me my next husband, I’ll be snuggling up under the blankets by myself on a Saturday night watching my Lifetime movies 😀 May sound sad and a little boring to some, but I’m OK with it for I know my Heavenly Daddy will send the one HE’s chosen for me when HE sees fit. Thank you for this post that related to me on SO many levels! God bless you always my Sister!!!!

    1. Thanks for sharing Dee!!! Its not going to be easy getting past the winter but it can be done! We just have to stay focused on Jesus no matter what those cold winter months may bring. Everything that a “boo” can bring in the natural God has that and plenty more in the spiritual. B Blessed and stay bundled up in the LOVE of God.

    1. I’m glad you were blessed name-sake! I am never afraid to acknowledge that being a single Christian woman is very complicated but more importantly I’m not afraid to write about it. As we all embrace the winter months we must embrace more of God to ensure that we don’t allow the enemy in. Be blessed and stay warm with the Lord.

  2. Yes “Boo” season is upon us and I won’t lie it is a very sad time of the years because not only does it bring cold and yearning for comfort but it also brings holidays that people tend to spend with family (im talking husband and children).

    Thanks for this gentle reminder that we need to continuously cast all of our cares upon him because He knows that we are lonely and will send us who he has for us in his own time. Until then, let patience win.

    1. Chancee’ you summed up my entire post with you the last two snetences of your comment. But let’s be real its easy to say but unbelievably challenging to do but as long as we keep God first Mr. Right is well on his way. Be Blessed!

  3. Well said Tasha! I am not single but I enjoyed reading your post and I have so many friends that I hope read it as well!

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