As the winter months approach, as a single gal I seem to feel a bit of anxiety trying to surface. I have found that colder days are a sure fire indicator of just how COLD my love life is. In the spring and summer I can get out and about, embracing my single-hood for what it is. During that time my girls and I are able to hit the town and never think twice about a man or the lack thereof. But as soon as the first fall breeze blows, I yearn for the comfort of the opposite sex. I have been single for two years and every time the weather changes my emotions get riled up.
Just talking with others I have concluded that this feeling is almost universal for single women every where. Wintry weather has been coined the “boo” season because it is always better to stay inside and cuddle with a man, than fight the frigid temps alone. Even worse, there are people who are fine with being single 75% of the year but when those few COLD months come around being single is no longer an option. So that leads me to the question- are we desiring to store men like the animals in the forest store food for the winter? If so, how will we ever break ourselves of this habit?
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7 NIV) The bible makes it simple in saying that when those feelings of loneliness show up we are to hand it over to God. Of course that is easier said than done but the reality is that God really is waiting on us to catch up and hand it over to Him. Even David had to take a pause for the cause to cry out to the Lord in Psalms 25:14- “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” (NIV)
The problem with most of us single women (myself included) is that we prefer to cry on the shoulder of a man rather than cry out to God. Ladies, being a single Christian truly is a daunting task but rejoicing in the promises of God is effortless. We must remember to rely on God in all areas, even our love lives. God is not restricted to church affairs, but instead we should incorporate Him into everything.
Forgive me for the times that I chose a man in the natural rather than communing with You in the spirit. Please help me to remember to cry out to You whenever I feel lonely. I know that these next few months will be even harder and I ask that You continue to console me. Whenever I think about finding comfort elsewhere, remind me who I am in You! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Single ladies across the world, I EMPOWER to spend the winter with Jesus! When it gets cold outside, wrap yourself in the Word of God and before you know it spring will be in the air! Be Blessed!
Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management. She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17