Family, Grandparents, Self Forgiveness, Sin

Her Future Has A Past

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

Talking to my grandmother is one of the highlights of my week. I know her as Madea and love her very dearly; after all, she raised me and shaped me into the person that many of you know today. She taught me how to cook, survive, be a lady and to guard my “reputation.” We had our rough patches when I went through my VERY rebellious stage (another blog) and there were times when I disappointed her with my actions. She loved me still.

My Madea

To me, my grandmother was close to an angel and it drove me bananas whenever I heard anyone try to talk down about her, even if it was my mother. She is a God-fearing, religious, deeply spiritual woman who has a tremendous amount of faith. I remember when she came outside with the holy oil to anoint my car after I first bought it. 🙂  She has raised at some point the majority of her 23 grandchildren and her house is a regular drop off spot for the pack of great-grands.  We, the grandchildren, recognize that our Madea has her ways but we still would trade nothing for her. She makes us birthday cakes and gives her last to support us. I grew up watching her sacrifice so that we could have the basics and even a little more. She is the quintessential grandmother!

Unfortunately, the lady that I know and the woman that her children and older people from around town know are NOT the same. You see, some time before I made my grand entrance into the world and when I was too young to remember, Sallie Pearl was a DRUNK and a chain SMOKER. She was known for her alcoholism and her addiction to nicotine. I even have an aunt who was born so small that she could fit in a cigar box, as a result of her addictions. Her six children lived with her and various relatives as they were growing up and the majority became teenage moms. Her husband, my grandfather, was the same. We never met because he died from cirrhosis of the liver as a result of his alcohol consumption. It’s hard for me to imagine all of this because this woman that I hear stories about is just not the woman I know.

“…Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.”( Isaiah 1:18 NIV)

Her road to forgiveness with her children was not easy but I thank God for the twins, Grace and Mercy. My grandmother tells me that when she got saved she asked God to remove the taste of cigarettes and alcohol from her and just like that He did. No special pills, patches or miracle drugs – just a simple prayer. She has been sober and smoke free since 1986.

Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future. Though many love to bring up who she WAS, Madea’s past was the prologue to her future. After she stopped dating Jesus and began having a relationship with Him, she put down the bottle and picked up the Bible. He used her to take care of her grandchildren when our mother(s) became ill or were no longer able to. He used her to give us a strong foundation in Jesus and He has used her to touch other people’s lives through her acts of kindness and generosity.

Like my grandmother, many of us have pasts that are filled with things that are often times to shameful to talk about BUT God can and will use you too. As the saying goes, God does not call the equipped; He equips the called. You don’t have to believe me, in your quiet time check out His word:

  • Jacob was a LIAR–  Genesis 27:19
  • Rahab was a PROSTITUTE –  Joshua 2:1
  • David had an AFFAIR and was a MURDERER 2 Samuel 11:3-27
  • Jonah RAN from God (Read the entire book)
  • Peter DENIED Christ Matthew 26: 69-70
  • Lazarus was DEAD John 11

Dear Daddy, 

Thank You for showing us forgiveness and blessing us with grace and mercy. For the person reading this now, I ask God that You remove ANY doubt that they may have about their future. Let this EmpowerMoment reach them so that they will know that even they can be used for Your purpose. There is no sin too great that Your Love for us has not covered. Let us not run from Your calling but run to it. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today I EMPOWER you to walk boldly into your future. Despite what you may have done, who you may have been or what you didn’t do when you should have done it, know that your past was only a stepping stone to get you to the place where God has called you. Know that He predestined your past and your future. He has great expectations of you because He has already equipped you.

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Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is a small business co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend, community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. One of her favorite scriptures is Hebrews 11:6: And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

19 thoughts on “Her Future Has A Past”

  1. Chancee’ what an awesome, mighty post! Often times we don’t do what God has prepared us to do cause of our past. Thank you for sharing and giving us the reminder that no matter what your past hold’s GOD hold’s our Past, Present, and Future. God bless you.

    1. I am glad that you enjoyed it Marquetta! Our steps are ordered by him we just have to walk in it…even when we get off the path, he is always right there to get us back on track.

  2. This is a great encouraging word! What is so divine about your EmpowerMoment is that it really lines up with the EmpowerMoments of the past two days. God is ready for us to walk into that place that He has prepared for us. We cant worry about who had the spot before (Monday’s EM) or wonder if this is really the time (Tuesday’s EM) or contemplate how our past will affect us. (today’s EM) I am always in awe of how He orchestrates things….Contine to let Him use you for His divine plan 😉

    1. Krissy I was thinking the same thing as I read this post. God is preparing us for greatness and it is our responsibility to walk into our destiny.

    2. I hadn’t even noticed the lineup and he does have a way of putting everything in order so I can’t wait to see what tomorrow brings 😉

  3. I love your message. I share the same relationship with my grandmother or shall I say mama as well. Some days when I receive these bad thoughts I think about her telling me “Amber is that right, what has gotten into you.” That thought allows me to rebuke the negativity and keep on moving forward. Some things that occurred in my past get me down but praying ,receiving intervention through a variety of things, and your e.m. word helps me keep my head up. Thanks….
    P.S. God thank you for blessing my grandmother today with 90 years. Happy Birthday Mama 🙂

    1. Aww Happy 90th Birthday Mama!! That is indeed a wonderful blessing. Our grandmothers remind us of the power of “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he gets old, he will not depart from it.” …We may stray every now and then but the very core of who we are causes us to come back to him again.

  4. Wowwwwwwww, Ms. Chancee Lundy, what an amazing Blog today. This was right on time & much needed. Thank you sooooooo much, & I pray that God continues to use you & Bless you.

    1. Thanks Crystal! I am going to receive that prayer and I pray that God richly blesses you too. May he continue to pour into your life and may you prosper as each day goes by.

  5. Before I started to read your EmpowerMoment, the title alone made me praise him!! God is so good! On Sunday my pastor said “regardless of your mistakes, EXPECT THE BEST!” I truly believe God is trying to tell me something. I know the Best is yet to come, because my God is Awesome God!! Chancee thanks for empowering me with this word!

    1. Your welcome Hassanah! I am glad that this was a part of your confirmation. Interestingly enough, I didn’t start this EM about my grandmother…I was about to use my grandmother to illustrate something about my mama and then it just took a life of its own. See how God works…He is going to get his message out no matter the messenger. 😉

  6. Chancee, your message today was indeed powerful and speaks of God’s gift of a second chance. As mentioned, God allowed so many people in the Bible to change but we fail to do the same. We must not forget Saul, one of the lead persecutors of the Christians. After his transformation, he was given a new name (Paul) and he became a major influence on Christianity. Its never about where you’ve been but where you are going. All of our lives are full of mistakes and regrets…but we thank God for His forgiveness. The wisdom gained from your Madea’s “mistakes and regrets” equipped her with the spiritual resources she needed for you and your cousins. We must sincerely be grateful that man ways and God’s ways are not the same. Isaiah 55:8-9. At all times God sees the heart, while man only sees the surface. Ask your family, to stop looking at her surface and to start looking at her heart..for the heart of a person is displayed in their actions.

  7. Beverly I am thankful for 2nd and 3rd chances. Saul/ Paul has a powerful testimony and I love that story. Your words are true and genuine and I too am guilty of what I accuse others of. My own life and my Madea’s are constant reminders that God looks at the heart and I strive to be more like him.

  8. Chancee’, this is a BEAUTIFUL TESTAMENT of what God does and how he does it–simply! Thank you for sharing this, and I hope you post it again in the future.

    Mother Lundy is ALWAYS one of the highlights of me “visiting” my own church.
    It never fails…I can count on her to come up to me with that BIG KOOL-AID SMILE, hug me with a “Praise the Lord”, grab hold of both my hands, and say, “You looking good there, Sister Chris. I’m so proud of you–now, when you coming back?” 🙂 As we finish talking and begin to walk away, she will end with something similar to this, “Come on back now…God ain’t lost–He still in the same place”. Love it!

    Again, I love Mother Lundy!

    1. Girl I am laughing over here and have a really big smile because I KNOW my grandmother tells you this and I have never been there to hear it. That is exactly how she SETS UP her sentences and she makes sure there is some strong message at the end that is said with all gentleness and sincerity in her heart. Thanks for sharing that special piece of my Madea with our readers. I love Mother Lundy too. 😀

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