“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” I Corinthians 13:11 NIV
The other day I was driving down a country back road. When I am driving alone, I often talk to God aloud or talk to myself to sort through frustrations. I had become frustrated by a childish act from one of my friends. My friendship circles can be pleasantly draining because I have an array of friends. Some are “saints” and some are “aints”. God showed me a long time ago that I am often looked to as a “friend” because they trust me, not necessarily because they want to hang out with me or do fun things. It took years to understand that I wasn’t being used, but being God’s servant. My name even means friend.
One of these “friends” acted in their normal fashion of pop-up stank attitudes. Now we all have them; I have even been known to be moody, but this particular time I really became ticked off. I became upset, hurt, and perturbed. I couldn’t focus. My mind was saturated about what type of petty revenge I could conjure up. While “whining” about this childish situation a deer jumped past the front of my car. As I slammed on the brakes and even heard the skid of my tires, I looked to the right to see the deer prancing on up the hill leaving me there shocked and out of breath. IMMEDIATELY God spoke to me. He said, “You are so worried about this childish behavior that you have lost focus and it could have cost you your life. Set your mind on things above (Colossians 3:2 NIV), put the childish things behind you. You are designed to lead, not to follow.” All I could do was worship God for how He spoke strong truth to me at that moment.
How many times have we focused on the petty things in life only to miss our destiny or CRASH into a distraction? Well, while praising and promising God to dedicate my next EM to this event He told me what to say:
- You are so busy worried about him leaving his socks on the floor, you are missing the fact that he needs you to comfort him. CRASH! (Proverbs 15:1 NIV)
- You are so busy trying to find a man without faults and bad credit that you missed the fact that I restored yours and if your past were on a billboard you would beg to die. CRASH! (Matthew 7:3-5 NIV)
- You are so busy trying to get ahead, wear the best clothes and drive the best car that your child looks to his/her teacher as a parent. CRASH! (Matthew 6:19-21 NIV)
- You are so focused on how you look at church that you can’t worship me for real. CRASH! (John 4:23-24 NIV)
- You are so focused on this ONE professor that you can’t see that I have planted you in this program to succeed. CRASH! (Hebrews 12:1 NIV)
- You are so busy trying to make him mad that you can’t see your child will resent you for keeping them from their dad when they’re older. CRASH! (Romans 12:17-19 NIV)
- You are so busy stacking your money and building an empire that people around you are HUNGRY. CRASH! (Matthew 25:31-46 NIV)
God spared my life in the midst of being focused on the childish attitudes of my youth. Don’t miss out on what God has for you because you are caught up in the petty stuff. It could cost you your life. You have to learn to keep it movin’.
Thank You for giving me quick reflexes to dodge the deers of life, for giving me safe travels, and for tuning my ears to hear Your voice. Lord, it is so easy to fall into the trap of bickering, backstabbing, and being petty. Please guide my actions to reflect Your image at all times. Thank You for giving me another chance to do it again. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, when you are faced with situations that ignite the flame of a trifling attitude on the inside, I EMPOWER you to regroup and set your mind on things above. Children seek retaliation; grown women recognize that “vengeance is mine, thus saith the Lord.”
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As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is College Biology Instructor. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Higher Ed and Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” (Isaiah 40:31 KJV) She teaches Young Adult Bible Study and Sunday School and also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment. Khalilah resides in Millbrook, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their energetic three-year old daughter. They attend St. Luke Christian Church. Check out Khalilah’s Christian weight loss blog here.