Blessings, Encouragement, Happiness, Inspirational, Worry

The Pursuit of Happiness

Can I confess a secret? I am terrified of being happy. Like actually truly happy, not sort of comfortable or having a good day, but happy. Like actually having a committed relationship with someone who I know loves me as much, if not more than I love them. I am terrified that my dream job will one day not be a dream, but become reality and that I will graduate from my program within my set time limit. I am afraid that all my hard work and effort may actually be rewarded.

I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous. Who fears getting exactly what they have prayed tirelessly to God for? Who fears what they have petitioned Him for day and night asking for a breakthrough.

The last two years of my life have been filled with so many emotional ups and downs that I came to expect the worst. I took the “rejoice in sufferings” scripture from Paul literally: Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance.  (Romans 5:3 NIV) I know how to deal with disappointments, setbacks and hurts but to actually BE happy, live in the moment of happiness and to enjoy the fruits of my labor– I have an extremely tough time doing that. I always feel like I am just waiting for the rug to be pulled out from under me.

But even after Job went through his emotional rollercoaster God blessed him doubly:

The LORD blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. He had fourteen thousand sheep, six thousand camels, a thousand yoke of oxen and a thousand donkeys. And he also had seven sons and three daughters. The first daughter he named Jemimah, the second Keziah and the third Keren-Happuch. Nowhere in all the land were there found women as beautiful as Job’s daughters, and their father granted them an inheritance along with their brothers.  After this, Job lived a hundred and forty years; he saw his children and their children to the fourth generation. And so Job died, an old man and full of years. (Job 42: 12-17 NIV)

God restored Job; his pain and trials did have an end and so will ours. When that time comes, enjoy it.

My first EmpowerMoment was called “Throw Me In” because my life felt like it was falling apart, and now just a few short weeks later everything that was attacked has been restored to me. All that I prayed for has been given back to me (ten fold) and I am a bit apprehensive, but WHY? God created this world out of nothing but His Word; why would He be unable to transform my situation just as quickly?  He can and He did and so instead of worrying about when the next setback comes, I sit and enjoy the fact that my pursuit of happiness has actually lead me to the Land of Happy. I think I will stay here for just a moment longer.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for answered prayers, for loved ones, for smiles, for beautiful days…all these things were made to remind us that trouble doesn’t last always. Help me to enjoy the moments when You are blessing me. Help me to remember what the struggle was like so I may stay humble, but help me not to wallow in my past. Help me to anticipate the beautiful things You will do in my life. If someone is in need, open my eyes that I may be a blessing unto them, as You have been to me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Lovely ladies of the King, I EMPOWER you to embrace the beauty of life. Stop worrying about the what-ifs, the maybes of tomorrow. Instead relax in your Daddy’s arms and allow Him to bless you. God loves you with an everlasting love and wants to bless you immensely. Accept that. Simply and wonderfully relish in the gifts from your Daddy.

“Hear My Call” by Jill Scott speaks to what it’s like to go through, but it’s just as important to KEEP going so you can get to the other side. The other side is beautiful.

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Reaping the Harvest

Ms. Renee` N. Chaffin is a single mother who has a heart for helping those less fortunate. She has been active in the non-profit sector, whether through volunteerism or professionally, for the past six years.  She is passionate about sharing the love of God, her testimony and empowering people to discover their true potential that was bestowed on them by King of the Universe. Renee` is currently pursuing a Master’s in Public Administration. While on her pursuit of higher education, she is on a seven year journey to challenge God to do ‘exceedingly and abundantly above all she can imagine’ in seven areas over the next seven years. Check out her journey at Her favorite scripture is I Peter 5:6: “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.”

18 thoughts on “The Pursuit of Happiness”

    1. I am glad!! God’s got it all handled! And when He does Praise HIM!! People always say Praise through the storm..but forget sometimes accepting the grace is also part of the relationship 🙂 happy Monday

  1. Ok, God is just really confirming His word to me through the last few posts. First Saturday, now today. I am excited to see what God has in store for the entire week…I really like this post! God indeed blesses us for our troubles.

    1. AMEN!!!! I am glad that God is using us to speak to you 🙂 May He keep you encouraged as you keep pressing 🙂

  2. Renee this was a needed reminder. I wrote a blog similar to this a few months ago. This post along with that blog have taught me to sit and think about his “goodness.” He answers right on time. When we are at our lowest, he always comes through. I am experiencing some high highs and some low lows but in everything I know that he answers and he will restore my joy.

  3. I am glad He is always moving through the bloggers to reinforce HIS Word. I am at a really really good point 🙂 and I am so happy that things are going well.. Celebrate those highs lady!!!

  4. Renee, I love how you are transparent. I get a visit from this thought(not being worthy to be happy) more than what I like,but the Holy Spirit will remind me that I have to enjoy today cause tomorrow has it’s own issues. Thank you EmpowerMoments! My husband made a joke and said,you guys have become my idol(He knows no one not even HIM come before my Father!) I have him to read the entries with me and after me so know that you guys are edifying the body effectively and continue! Be blessed:)

    1. It’s always some humbling to know how our writings impact the readers 🙂 thanks so much for sharing with your husband. Our hope/prayer is that we are able to relate to our readers and vice versa. I was a bit concerned people would be like: “what is this crazy lady talking about” LOL so it’s amazing that people can relate to this feeling. God has been SOOOO good to me, I can not tell it all, but I will try to live in the moment! glad you were encouraged and thanks for sharing 🙂

  5. LOL, I’m laughing. Not at you, but with you in feeling like this is ridiculous. Trust me, you are NOT alone. Sometimes I ‘fear’ being happy too. Almost thinking, “I know life can’t be this good.” I wonder why we sabotage our minds like this.

    I’m encouraged by your post. Thanks!

  6. I am glad I am not alone! LOL I was thinking and praying and thinking what am I going to write, but I didn’t have anything deep or hardship worthy.. I was living good. I was thinking …will anyone want to read that :X but they do so I am glad 🙂 Thanks for the words

    1. Girl I am smiling at “deep or hardship” worthy. I think that is a common thought amongst the writers. Every now and then you may feel compelled to reach back and tell a story and sometimes to YOU the story may be light but your “fault” is that you are NOT God and he knows that even in your “light” writings there is someone out there who needs that word. His word will not return void. It will accomplish what it was set out to do. Spread the message as God gives it to you.

  7. Great post! I agree with you when you said that you know how to deal with hurts and disappointments but when your happiness come you are looking for the punchline. I know your story because guess what Renee’ that’s my story. Remember this I’ve never met you but I can feel the faith in God and the that the love you have for Him is real. When your love for God is pure and genuine the sky is the limit. If God gives you a message to encourage His women and/or men don’t worry about who it will touch or reach because trust me if God ordained it than it will help. Again great job woman of God! Stay blessed

  8. Thanks for your post Renee’. I’ve endured so many disappointments constantly. Things turn around for the good but in the end I wait for something bad to happen. But I’m just going to be positive and happy and not speak or bring the negative energy into perspective. A few days ago I got a message from a woman of God that said “Stay out of your own way.” Which meant to give my worries and issues to God and watch God work. This post has really helped me.

  9. Thanks for sharing your secret! And I am so happy that youre in the Land of Happy. I think Im sometimes guilty of this in my marriage. We’re going along enjoying life just as God ordained and then I have to create some confusion because I know some is on the horizon anyway. JUST CRAZY! Thanks for checking me today honey!

  10. @lundy- I just want to be as honest and transparent as possible. My last few posts were pretty hard hitting for me (soft spots like my son) but this one..i was all smiley( is that a word lol) I want people to experience all we have to offer..good and bad 🙂 now it has been confirmed that I can do both.

  11. @sheka-…..that encouragement means a lot to me! I am seeking Him daily (some days are better than others) but my love for Him is excited that comes across! Our main hope is to not edify ourselves but truly point to Who is taking us from glory to glory. Thats my mission…my passion. I am in no way special. GOD will do it for you like He does for us! (sorry for the late reply..i have no idea what time I fell asleep!)

  12. @Amber I always love to hear when people get confirmation. God is always speaking if we allow out hearts to listen. I can only imagine what God wants to do with u and in your life…if we only believe that it really is for us! I hope to hear ur progress.. Keep us updated. (again like I said please forgive my late response)

  13. You are welcome! Idk why we do that!! I have done that soooo many times (might be why im single) lol. Its one of the things I am truly working on. Truth is thats the devil…he wants us to think good=boring. Its the reason in every movie heaven looks lame and hell looks like fun (total false advertisement!).i think whenever we have those almost freak out moments if we told Daddy what we were going to tell out significant other..He would get us! Lol praying for more happy days for all EM

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