God recently blessed me with a job at my church home. Working in ministry has been a totally different experience than the corporate world yet very fulfilling in more ways than one. I believe that He strategically placed me there for several reasons, one of which made the perfect topic for this EmpowerMoment.
I must admit that the church office is filled with a GREAT array of man eye candy! I work in close corners with dozens of men that fit my Christian dating criteria and to top it off they are OH SO HANDSOME. I have found myself running home daily just to tell my cousin about all the good looking gems that I am surrounded by every afternoon. It’s almost amazing to me to see so many established, successful black men working so diligently for the Lord! I LOVE it!
However, I must admit being single in this environment causes me to become a tad bit anxious as I wait for my husband to find me. Just to clarify, I don’t intend to be the Jezebel of the congregation but this is just conformation that what I desire my mate to be and stand for does in fact exist. “Blessed is the man [woman] who preserves under trial, because when he has stood the test, he [she] will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.” (James 1:12 NIV) Ladies, the truth of the matter is that I have to wait on God and have the faith that when the time is right He will do what He says.
Of course it is easy for me to say/write it, but the reality is that I feel that I am ready but apparently God knows otherwise. So often we as single women just know we are ready to be married, have kids, and a house with a white picket fence but we have to trust that God knows best. A lot of the time we are so focused on walking down the aisle that we find ourselves taking to relationships with men that we know are nothing like the man that God would have for us. Well I am here to tell you that your Christian checklist was not written in vain. (See Single in the City 2 for all of the other stuff on your list!) There are plenty of eligible bachelors with those characteristics that you desire but it is NOT up to you to pick him out of the crowd. For the Bible says, “It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18) It also tells us that “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:22 NIV)
With that said, it is not for us to understand, for the God we serve has already appointed the day, time, and setting where you will cross paths with that certain mister that He made just for you. So stop with all the questioning and just stand firm on the potter’s wheel and allow Him to continue molding you so that when He sends him you are completely ready! Ready with God that is!
Continue to strengthen my faith in You as I wait for You to send me my mate. Give me hope that he is out there, but most important, grant me patience to wait for him to come my way. Help me to understand that You are simply preparing me for a loving and lasting relationship, and the work You have to do with me may take a while. Keep my mind on You during the process. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Single gals across the world, I EMPOWER you to REALLY wait on God to send your mate. Stop talking about it and be about it! Let Him have control over this and not just on those things that YOU feel are in need of His attention. Instead, use that energy to get in position and get READY!
Read the entire series: Single in the City
Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management. She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church. Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17