Patience, Single in the City Series, Singleness, Strength

Single in the City 7: Ready with God!

God recently blessed me with a job at my church home.  Working in ministry has been a totally different experience than the corporate world yet very fulfilling in more ways than one.  I believe that He strategically placed me there for several reasons, one of which made the perfect topic for this EmpowerMoment.

I must admit that the church office is filled with a GREAT array of man eye candy!  I work in close corners with dozens of men that fit my Christian dating criteria and to top it off they are OH SO HANDSOME.  I have found myself running home daily just to tell my cousin about all the good looking gems that I am surrounded by every afternoon.  It’s almost amazing to me to see so many established, successful black men working so diligently for the Lord! I LOVE it!

However, I must admit being single in this environment causes me to become a tad bit anxious as I wait for my husband to find me.  Just to clarify, I don’t intend to be the Jezebel of the congregation but this is just conformation that what I desire my mate to be and stand for does in fact exist. “Blessed is the man [woman] who preserves under trial, because when he has stood the test, he [she] will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.” (James 1:12 NIV)  Ladies, the truth of the matter is that I have to wait on God and have the faith that when the time is right He will do what He says.

Of course it is easy for me to say/write it, but the reality is that I feel that I am ready but apparently God knows otherwise.  So often we as single women just know we are ready to be married, have kids, and a house with a white picket fence but we have to trust that God knows best.  A lot of the time we are so focused on walking down the aisle that we find ourselves taking to relationships with men that we know are nothing like the man that God would have for us.  Well I am here to tell you that your Christian checklist was not written in vain. (See Single in the City 2  for all of the other stuff on your list!) There are plenty of eligible bachelors with those characteristics that you desire but it is NOT up to you to pick him out of the crowd.  For the Bible says, “It is not good for a man to be alone.  I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18) It also tells us that “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:22 NIV)

With that said, it is not for us to understand, for the God we serve has already appointed the day, time, and setting where you will cross paths with that certain mister that He made just for you.  So stop with all the questioning and just stand firm on the potter’s wheel and allow Him to continue molding you so that when He sends him you are completely ready! Ready with God that is!

Dear Daddy,

Continue to strengthen my faith in You as I wait for You to send me my mate.  Give me hope that he is out there, but most important, grant me patience to wait for him to come my way.  Help me to understand that You are simply preparing me for a loving and lasting relationship, and the work You have to do with me may take a while.  Keep my mind on You during the process.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Single gals across the world, I EMPOWER you to REALLY wait on God to send your mate.  Stop talking about it and be about it!  Let Him have control over this and not just on those things that YOU feel are in need of His attention.  Instead, use that energy to get in position and get READY!

Read the entire series: Single in the City

Ms. Latasha Sampson is an accomplished writer who is currently pursuing her Masters Degree in Human Resources Management.  She resides in Nashville, Tennessee where she is a faithful member of Mt. Zion Baptist Church.  Her favorite scripture is “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn” Isaiah 54:17

6 thoughts on “Single in the City 7: Ready with God!”

  1. Love this Ms. Sampson…I understand and receive this message loud and clear! The eye candy can be tempting but you’re doing the right thing to rely solely on God to align your path with your Mr.

    I read in a book called, “God is a Matchmaker”, where the writer painted a picture of the first marriage in Genesis. (Paraphrasing) There’s Adam standing there awaiting his bride to come down the aisle and when he looks up he sees Eve walking towards him to be united as one. The best thing about this picture was Eve didn’t walk down the aisle alone, she was on the arm of her Father. Eve was overjoyed, Adam was in love and God was well pleased to unite His daughter with His choice for her to marry. Just beautiful!

    “The woman should be so hidden in God that the man must seek Him to find her.” -unknown. We have to remember that marriage is a divine institution from the Lord and in order to receive that amazing gift, we have to wait on Him. Stop taking matters into our own hands just to be temporarily happy. Our Father wants to lavish us with everlasting joy!

    I’m actually dating God right now! Sounds weird huh? God is the perfect husband and as we date, I am able to talk with Him about everything, open to receive help, ready to serve, and experience true love, daily! I had this huge problem with receiving help from a guy, speaking up for myself (because I didn’t want to be a nag), and making my wants and needs in a relationship known. But God has clearly shown me my mistakes, created in me a clean heart and told me my responsibilities as a wife/helpmate and the responsibilities of my husband/head of household. We sometimes get caught up in the “idea” of marriage but as you date God, you’ll learn what I call the behind the scenes situations, conversations, joys, tears, conquests and fears of a lasting marriage. Trust God with your everything and allow Him to lead you in your walk.

    We hear so often that women are not able to submit fully to their husbands because they haven’t yet fully submitted to God. How are you going to trust a man to lead, guide and make decisions for your household if you don’t even allow God that position in your life. I urge all my single sisters and married ones as well to date God. Commit yourself to a relationship with our Father. NO CHEATING! 😉

    Be blessed to the readers of this post and know that what you read in God’s Word is true and “What I have said, that I will bring about; what I have planned, that will I do.”- Isaiah 46:11 So to that I say thank Father and Amen!

    1. Thanks for all the encouraging words misstootant! I have been in a relationship with God for the past 2 years and it has been the most fulfilling and stress free one ever! OH HOW I LOVE Jesus! Sometimes I find myself being “wooed” by Him when a slow song or the perfect worship song comes on… He’s just such a great mate! Thanks again… Sorry for the late reply!

  2. I remember this season “waiting on my mate”(I’m married now) and it was hard,but it was the season where God got in my face. He told me what he wanted and how he wanted me so loud and clear. Now that I’m married I am HAPPY,but I miss the relationship and the intamcy that I had with God. It feels different now. Continue and wait on God because this season(singleness) will not change unitl he is ready and once your are married it won’t come back! So as he told me recently enjoy the fruit of your season! Thank you EmpowerMoments and continue to the Lord returns!

  3. I want stability, I want a MAN! Lol. Not any man, a God Fearing Man! I’ve been so simple minded and frivously thinking everytime I meet a guy that wines and dines me, is sweet and handsome that he’s the one. However, this man doesn’t go to church. But I tell myelf I’ll change that because… he’s’ the one. Its so funny because on 11/12/11 an ex of mine got married. I thought about it all day thinking that was suppose to be me, but after readoing this I know God makes no MISTAKES! I’m so in the season of so many things right now. God is in total control because I have no idea what is going on, but with all my heart I’m staying faithful and believing my God knows what’s best for Hassanah White! So when my Adam finds me(his Eve) I will know, because God will indeed show me that I don’t have change anything about him! Girl thanks for this message it was on point!! Such a blessing.

  4. Raynasbelle,
    I am glad that you were able to benefit from this! I decided to start this series because one of the hardest things in the world to do is to be a SINGLE, CHRISTIAN WOMAN!!! I am sooo glad that you can relate… Be Blessed and stay tuned this series is far from over 🙂

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