Attitude, Blessings, Contentment, Finances, Gratefulness, Inspirational


I have been struggling with what to write all week. I just started a new job and have been learning the ropes on that. Then I found out the pay is done a bit differently than I originally thought. So although I work from November 1- November 30, I will only receive payment for the first two weeks. Which is fine, but I didn’t understand that concept before I did my budget for this month. Oops! I went into straight panic mode. Many thoughts started rushing through my head: Cell phone bill is due in a week. Baby needs more diapers. Wait– that means that first check is going straight to rent…

Then I came across Isaiah 41:10, So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (NIV) And I remembered that not getting the money I budgeted for at the end of the month is not the end of the world. My child is going to be taking care of and so will I. But why was my first reaction to question God?

I realized that I do not have my priorities right. I am focused on the wrong things. My job (no matter if I was making millions of dollars) is not my source. God is. He provided the job, the knowledge and skills I needed to get the job. So why had I panicked? Because, this situation wasn’t perfect. It wasn’t how I imagined it. I imagined a seamless transition from my last job to this one. I thought I had done what the scriptures said and counted the cost.  “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he has enough money to complete it? (Luke 14:28 NIV) Alas, you cannot plan for exactly everything. And that’s life. But one thing I do know is my son is healthy and so am I. Every day I have a home to go to that is in a peaceful neighborhood. When I have a bad day, I can call and get advice from both my mother and father, because they are both still alive. I am surrounded by people that would never allow me to go hungry, or my son to go without diapers. So if I really had the need, guess what, I have a support system. There are so many people without a support system, without a home, or without a healthy child. And they still have hope, peace and joy. So why do the hiccups of life steal that from me? Because I honestly still think I have control over my life. Your life can change in an instant at no fault of your own. Ask someone who lost their house because a neighbor fell asleep smoking, or a family who has buried their child because a drunk driver hit them on the way to church. Due to no fault of your own, your life can change. The only thing you can control is your reaction.

Another great thing to do is help those whose lives have been affected by things out of their control. This year for my birthday I will be hosting a registration/drive for two agencies near to my heart. I will be hosting a registration for bone marrow donors and raising money for Invisible Children. Helping others is the best way to show your appreciation to God. I would love for each of you to find a cause that you are passionate about; it will help you prioritize your life. I first got the idea for bone morrow from a two year old girl named Starla who is battling Leukemia. To join her prayer team, click the links below.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for all the wonderful blessings in my life. Help me to not become discouraged when my life doesn’t turn out how I planned. Help me to refocus in an area that will bring You Glory. Continue to bless those who are struggling with various obstacles in their lives. We pray for Your peace, wisdom and strength as they go through their storms. Let us not be so caught up in our own issues that we miss the real reason You called us, to be witnesses of Your Love. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Blessed Ladies of God, I EMPOWER you to examine your life. Look at the stressors you have and see if any of them are worth the energy you are investing. Find a passion/cause that touches your heart and get active in helping someone else who really needs your support. Prior to writing this EmpowerMoment, I penned a poem of the same name: Prioritize the Poem

To join the Starla Prayer Group click here:

For more information on bone marrow donation visit:

For more information on Invisible Children:

Ms. Renee` N. Chaffin is a single mother who has a heart for helping those less fortunate. She has been active in the non-profit sector, whether through volunteerism or professionally, for the past six years.  She is passionate about sharing the love of God, her testimony and empowering people to discover their true potential that was bestowed on them by King of the Universe. Renee` is currently pursuing a Master’s in Public Administration. While on her pursuit of higher education, she is on a seven year journey to challenge God to do ‘exceedingly and abundantly above all she can imagine’ in seven areas over the next seven years. Check out her journey at Her favorite scripture is I Peter 5:6: “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.”

13 thoughts on “Prioritize”

  1. My Husband and I was just talking about this Saturday.I’m noticing that the truth of Jesus coming back soon is real because of time so I have to constantly remind myself that eternity will not be based on time ,but it’s eternity I will not have time in eternity to pray for things, people, learn to worship,serve others,or develop my love walk. So I have made it a daily declaration to only do what is going to benefit me for eternity and complete the Father’s will.Believe it or not it’s harder to do this,but I know the reward will out weigh the moment and how I feel.

  2. Was trying to type too fast:) Thanks Renee for this entry and as always best hopes for you EmpowerMoments and continue to our Lord returns!!!

  3. Lisa,
    Thanks so much, I have been so focused on things that are not important in the long run. We must keep each other encouraged to stay on task. Please continue to pray for us as we ask for God’s Wisdom

  4. Renee,
    What a beautiful post and right on point!!! I too get caught up in the “how much and how am I going to handle this????”…and then just this past weekend God showed me such favor and blessed me in a MAJOR way and coincidentally it was when I just told him in my soul that I was good with whatever He wanted to do. The blessing was major and my heart is full of joy. I know it was, beyond a shadow of a doubt, God saying “see what happens when you TRUST ME TO MAKE A WAY OUT OF N-O W-A-Y??” We’re alike in so many ways, except that my “baby” is a college kid but I’m also divorced and single so I’m a 1 income family. I’m getting better at not panicking when I can’t figure things out, especially when it comes to the financial things. Learning more and more, every day to trust, reaaaally trust My King….my help….my shield,…my strength… cover. Again Renee, beautiful post!! God bless you my Sis!!

  5. Dee, I thank God that He is sooo patient with us. That He knows exactly what to do when we get weary. Literally after I wrote this EM money was in my account..the same amount to cover x amount of bills. HE cannot lie..idk why I have a hard time believing that…when I believe so many other things. But im learning..this Walk is a process. May God continue to bless u and ur family. One income plus God equals more than enough! Keep pushing lovely lady of God and thanks for the encouraging words

  6. I will reflect on this for the week ” when situation are imperfect, is my first reaction to panic or pray.”

  7. Yes it is so easy to get caught up in what I dont have versus what I do. Definitely working on that.

    Thanks for that scripture in Luke…dont think I have ever really studied that one. Thats really good about counting the costs.

    And you are the bomb dot com! Great work on using your time and talents to assist a worthy cause. I have to do better!

    1. AWW!! thanks I love being the when I am not FEELING like the Struggling is not always so pretty on the inside lol…trying to keep calm when you want to freak out..when everything is telling you to freak out..takes work and really aqueezing my Daddy’s Hand so He knows I am afraid. The good the great thing is..the freak out moments are getting shorter and shorter 🙂

  8. We certainly have to recognize that God is our source. A few weeks ago I was really disheartened by a struggle that I was enduring. I was taking it hard because what I was going through was “no fault of my own.” What God has shown me in the meantime, however, is that He placed me in that situation so that I could remember that He is my source. He has shown up in every way, despite my circumstance. My mouth has been on the floor and in praise as I watch God in amazement. We have to remember that God is faithful to His word. If we seek ye first the Kingdom of God, He will indeed add all other things unto us.

    1. AMEN!! God is our sustainer even when all things fail (our plans, family money etc) He can always turn what we see as nothing into something.I Praise Him for that 🙂

  9. “Remember every road that God led you on for those forty years in the wilderness, pushing you to your limits, testing you so that he would know what you were made of, whether you would keep his commandments or not. He put you through hard times. He made you go hungry. The fed you with manna, something height you nor your parents knew anything about, so you would learn that men and women don’t live by bread only; we live by every word that comes from God’s mouth.” Deuteronomy 8:1-3

    God is our source and everything else is a resource. He knows what we need before we even ask…keep holding onto his every word Renee and see for your very eyes how he will fight this battle that is not even ours!

    Be blessed in all you do for Him and through Him!

    1. “God is our source and everything else is a resource” You def said something right there!!! I wish I could add that into my EM…we get distracted because we can’t “see” God and when we see other things that go against what His Word says we must pray more into Him..May you be blessed as well and thanks so much for the support, comments and kind words

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