The Lord’s Prayer:
Our Father which art in Heaven
Hallowed be they name.
Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And FORGIVE us our debts, as we FORGIVE our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen. (Matthew 6:9-13 KJV)
How many times have you spoken the words, “Do you forgive me?” or had someone ask you that question? I battled this scenario just recently, and saying I forgive you was the last thing on my mind. First, I was hurt and I wanted revenge. Secondly, all I could think about was the hurt, therefore I wanted more revenge. I was a mad Black woman! I had come up with all types of schemes in my head to get back at the person who had lied and hurt me. I didn’t care about letting it go because I was hurting too badly. It’s funny how we can plan a step by step revenge attack, but God see’s the steps and intervenes without our knowledge.
One of my friends called me the particular morning that I was planning to launch my attack. I answered and she started telling me about the Steve Harvey show that morning. She told me how Steve was talking about “revenge.” He was basically saying it’s not worth it because what goes around keeps coming back around and the best thing to do is forgive. She added, “It’s the God-like thing to do.” At that point I was in total shock that she called me to talk about the very thing that I was plotting to get– revenge! How did she know I was thinking that? I knew then God was intervening my foolish plans. For, anger and revenge are of the devil.
And don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry. For anger gives a foothold to the devil. (Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT)
You must not hold on to any bitter hurts, rage or anger. You must not fight each other or say bad things about each other. You must not think or act because of spite. You should be friends and you should be kind to each other. You must forgive each other, just as God forgave you. God forgave you because of Christ. (Ephesians 4:31-32 NLT)
I knew that I had to forgive this person, but I just kept thinking, “They hurt me, why must I forgive them?”
Then I reflected on what Peter asked Jesus:
“Lord, if my brother keeps on hurting me, how many times should I forgive him? He asked. Should I forgive him seven times?”
“ No not just seven times, but forgive him seventy times seven times, Jesus said” (Matthew 18:21-22 NLT)
It seemed as though everywhere I turned forgiveness was tapping me on my shoulder. It wasn’t anything but the God in me forcing me to do what was right.
Forgive people when they do wrong things to you. If you forgive them, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive them, your Father will not forgive you.” (Matthew 6:14-15 NLT)
With all sincerity in my heart, I did it. I forgave them.
I thank You for being in my life. I sometimes get so emotionally out of control, but I’m glad You love me so much that You help me regain my self-control. I thank You for placing forgiveness in my heart. Although the flesh wants to make me battle my problems alone, I thank You for helping me to grow in the spirit. Please continue to order my steps. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, I EMPOWER you to forgive. Forgive even when you don’t want to or feel that the pain is too deep. Pray that God places forgiveness in your heart. I know it isn’t easy, but when God says do it, we must do it! Why? Simply because He said so!
Ms. Hassanah White is a dedicated member of Faith Walkers Church in Birmingham, Alabama where their motto is to “Walk it out by Faith.” She also serves as a member of the Praise Dance Ministry. Hassanah is a true professional in the realm of marketing and customer service. She’s a proud mother of a very energetic little boy named Jaden. Hassanah believes laughter and prayer are the best medicines for any situation. Her favorite scripture is Hebrews 11:6: “And without Faith it is impossible to please GOD, because anyone who comes to Him must BELIEVE that He exists and that He REWARDS those who earnestly seek Him.”