Some days I think of going to the courthouse and getting a divorce. There really are no tangible assets to split, as a matter of fact they could have everything if I could just walk away. After these thoughts, I realize that there is no piece of paper that could separate me from them because even in death we are eternally linked. Other days, I find myself defending them ferociously, going out of my way to help them, or leaning on them for my own support. Through ups and downs, in and outs I do indeed love the ones that I share this inextricable bloodline with. Through it all I love my family.
Despite the hardship, betrayal, hurt, deception and lies we are forever connected to those we call family. Ultimately, we learn that loving them doesn’t mean we are always up close and personal but we are able to reunite when necessary. No matter the hurt, we are often able to look beyond the faults of our family especially when they are in need. Below are two vivid examples of betrayal and familial love conquering all.
In Genesis 27, Jacob tricks his father into giving him the blessing intended for Esau. Esau finds out and plots to kill his brother. Jacob fled and was away many years- long enough to give birth to the twelve tribes of Israel; however, there came a time when God told him to go back home. As furious as Esau was in the beginning, his heart was softened: 1And Jacob lifted up his eyes, and looked, and, behold, Esau came, and with him four hundred men… 4And Esau ran to meet him, and embraced him, and fell on his neck, and kissed him: and they wept.10And Jacob said, Nay, I pray thee, if now I have found grace in thy sight, then receive my present at my hand: for therefore I have seen thy face, as though I had seen the face of God, and thou wast pleased with me. (Genesis 33: 1,4, 10 KJV)
There can be no discussion of betrayal and forgiveness with out bringing up Joseph and his band of brothers. Genesis 37 and Genesis 39-41 detail the plot to kill Joseph, the brothers throwing him into the pit, selling him into slavery, the lie by Potiphar’s wife, his prison life, his dream interpretations and his ascension to leadership. However we later see that Joseph forgives his brothers and recognizes that God preserved him for such a time as that.
Then Joseph could not refrain himself before all them that stood by him; and he cried, Cause every man to go out from me. And there stood no man with him, while Joseph made himself known unto his brethren. 3And Joseph said unto his brethren, I am Joseph; doth my father yet live? And his brethren could not answer him; for they were troubled at his presence. 4And Joseph said unto his brethren, Come near to me, I pray you. And they came near. And he said, I am Joseph your brother, whom ye sold into Egypt. 5Now therefore be not grieved, nor angry with yourselves, that ye sold me hither: for God did send me before you to preserve life. 8So now it was not you that sent me hither, but God: and he hath made me a father to Pharaoh, and lord of all his house, and a ruler throughout all the land of Egypt. (Genesis 45: 1,3-5, 8 KJV)
Joseph’s story shows us that no matter whom your family tries to make you, God has the final say for your life. Your steps are already ordered through Him. I had family that told me that I would never be anything. People who were jealous of me because I excelled but their words and attempts to make me fall were no match for God’s plans for my life.
While my family does absolutely wreck my nerves sometimes, I am reminded that I also have extremely supportive family members who are fiercely protective of me and love me without condition. I think about my grandmother and aunt who stepped in to take care of my brothers and me when our daddies weren’t present and our mother wasn’t capable. My grandmother’s love knows no bounds. Even when I decided to be the prodigal daughter (another EmpowerMoment), she forgave me and let me work through my rebellion. Then there are my brothers who nagged but protected me. There are also my cousins who at a moment’s notice will drop everything just to listen to whatever I have to say. These same people will incite a riot if anyone outside of our bloodline utters a bad word about me. If you have ever been around us, we are loud and absolutely everything is a debate, but I’ve determined that this is the way my family shows love. This is who we are.
I love my family even when they make it hard. God destined me to be a part of this group. He has shown me ones that I have to love but not be personal with, as well as those that I am assigned to their life for the long haul. I used to wonder WHY I was birthed to this family, but who am I to question God’s plans when I trust that He knows what’s best for me. My family is not blessed to have “me” as a part of their family as much as I am blessed to have them in my life. During this week of love, I celebrate the Lundy family.
Thank You for the gift of family. As many of us deal with the pain associated with family, allow us to also relish in the love. Help us to accept our position in our families and to do what is pleasing to You. Order our steps. Lord, deal with us and help us to forgive the pain of the past because Your word tells us that ALL things work together for the good of them that love the Lord. Help us to love and as we start our own families, guide us in establishing family cultures that our designed by You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Today I EMPOWER you to LOVE. Reach out to an unsuspecting family member and express how important it is to have them in your life. Tell them WHY they are important. Give that family member their flowers while they are still present. Show them the same love and appreciation that you desire in your own life and thank God for them. Receive Love, Give Love, Be Love.
Honor the life of Whitney Houston today as you celebrate your family:
My Love is Your Love
Ms. Chancee` Lundy currently resides in Atlanta, GA and is a small business co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend, community servant, and child of God. She is passionate about causes that truly uplift the community. One of her favorite scriptures is Hebrews 11:6: “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.”