Accountability, God's Protection, Righteousness, Sin

Falling Forward

So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!  No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be temptedbeyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. I Corinthians 10:12-14

I am not a smoker, drunkard, or a gossip, but there are certain areas in which I struggle. When I was a younger Christian I was so focused on not doing outward sins that I neglected sins of the heart (which can be the most dangerous because we may not even recognize it as a sin).  I would focus on looking like I was doing the right thing, but I could strategically place myself in situations that I would easily fall. Using the Scripture, “for though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again” (Proverbs 24:16), I would justify my fall by saying, I can rise again. In all honesty, I shouldn’t have placed myself in situations to “fall” in the first place.

As Christians we sometimes give the devil too much credit for the chaos and falls in our lives. We call going back to sin “back sliding”, but for many of us we know that we actually fall forward.  Meaning we go into a situation that has a high probability of us falling. We play this game of deceit with ourselves to diminish the feeling of sin being an actual sin; instead it becomes a mistake or an accident.  For example, how many of us have said: “I am celibate am I am not going to have sex with him”? Yet you put on your most enticing under garments, best smelling perfume and spend late nights alone with him. But if something did happen, you didn’t plan it right? Girlfriend, you fell forward; you knowingly put yourself in a high temptation situation.

The best part about knowing your weaknesses is having the power to plan better and hopefully make better decisions. If you know you are a glutton, going to an all-you-can-eat buffet might not be the best decision. If you have trouble holding your tongue, maybe you shouldn’t listen to music that will cause you to get into a negative mindset before you go into the world. Each one of us knows our struggles, and it is up to us to ensure that we do our absolute best not to put ourselves in situations that would lead us to fall. Putting on the armor of God does us absolutely no good if we neglect the helmet of salvation.  You do not want to disqualify yourself from eternal life with our Heavenly Father. He will not wink at our “accidental falls”, but we will be held accountable.

Sisters, guard your heart and mind, because we can deceive ourselves into thinking that the sin in our lives is acceptable.

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me of the iniquity that dwells within my heart. Help me to recognize when situations are high temptation areas so that I do not fall forward or backslide. Keep me on the path of righteousness, and allow the Holy Spirit to give me the strength to walk away when my flesh is weak. I praise You for loving me enough to always give me a way of escape. If I see another sister struggling, help me to pray for Your divine protection and grace for her as well. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to take an inventory of your weaknesses and recent falls. Do not use this information to condemn yourself, but rather as a plan of action. Do not keep putting yourself in situations where you are not likely to succeed. I EMPOWER you to stop falling forward and simply move forward to your destiny in Him.

Ms. Renee` N. Chaffin is a single mother who has a heart for helping those less fortunate. She has been active in the non-profit sector, whether through volunteerism or professionally, for the past six years.  She is passionate about sharing the love of God, her testimony and empowering people to discover their true potential that was bestowed on them by King of the Universe. Renee` is currently pursuing a Master’s in Public Administration. While on her pursuit of higher education, she is on a seven year journey to challenge God to do ‘exceedingly and abundantly above all she can imagine’ in seven areas over the next seven years. Check out her journey at Her favorite scripture is I Peter 5:6: “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.”