Do all things without complaining and disputing. (Philippians 2:14 NKJV)
Hi, my name is Keviyona and I am a complainer. I complain when things are good and I complain when things are not so good. I complain about my husband, my family, my job, my weight, my church, my friends, I complain about everything. I am very good at encouraging everyone else, but when it comes to my situations I am always praying and then complaining. I noticed I was a complainer one day when I had just finished praying about my job. I told God that I was going to wait and depend on Him for answers. I also told Him that I would not be stressed out as long as He guides me. The devil made a liar out of me that day; my phone rang and one of my co-workers was on the other end. She started talking about how messed up the school was and I instantly chimed in. I started ranting and raving about how I don’t like it and I’m tired. I started to complain about everything I had just moments before prayed about.
About a week later my cousin called me and told me she had been laid off. Before I could complain I was convicted and God told me, “It could be worse.” I listened to her discuss how she would have to move and how she wondered how she would be able to take care of her kids when her salary had been cut in half. I quickly thought about my pay cut this year and how no one would even know I had taken a pay cut if I didn’t tell them. God has blessed me with an abundance to the point that my lifestyle did not have to change because of my pay decrease.
There was another time that I was complaining about my husband and all the things he wasn’t doing. I was so infatuated with what he wasn’t doing that I was missing how he was growing. I was so busy kicking and screaming about every negative part that I was missing that this marriage was ordained by God. While I was complaining about my “terrible” marriage I talked to someone whose mate fights them and takes their money. The man doesn’t come home for days at a time and flagrantly disrespects his wife with other women. Again God spoke and said, “It could be worse.”
Now these little scenarios are not to build myself or my character up with other people’s issues, but to give an example that your situation could be worse than what it is right now.
After reflecting on my complaining issue, I thought of the children of Israel. They were complaining and saying they should have stayed in Egypt because at least they had food and other things.
Now when the people complained, it displeased the Lord; for the Lord heard it, and His anger was aroused. So the fire of the Lord burned among them, and consumed some in the outskirts of the camp. Then the people cried out to Moses, and when Moses prayed to the Lord, the fire was quenched. So he called the name of the place Taberah,because the fire of the Lord had burned among them. (Numbers 11:1-3 NKJV) The children didn’t understand that they had to live in the wilderness in order to get to the Promised land. I do not want to feel the wrath of God because I am complaining and not trusting Him. It is important to remember that there are going to be issues in our lives, but complaining is not pleasing to God.
As women of God we need to learn to be content in whatever situation we are in because we know who holds the final say so. I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4: 11-13 NIV) Instead of complaining about everything that doesn’t go according to “my plans,” I am learning to be content and not complain. After all, it could be worse!
Thank You for protecting, keeping and granting me with Your favor despite my many complaints. Thank You for being patient with me despite me doubting what You can do by complaining about my right now. God, continue to teach me how to seek You instead of complaining. God, continue to teach me to be content in whatever situation that I’m in and to remember that it could be worse. Thank You for reminding me of Your patience and love for me. Thank You for not giving up on me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Women of God, I EMPOWER you to be content in whatever situation you are in and remember that it could be worse. I EMPOWER you to get on your knees or go to your secret place and pray the next time you feel like complaining. Fill your mind, body and soul with positivity and ask God to remove complaining from you because it is negative. I EMPOWER you to remember that every time your bills are late, your rent or mortgage is due, your spouse is acting crazy, your kids are messing up, your job is stressing you out, or everyone is getting on your nerves that it could be worse!
It’s Good Friday so let complaining die in your life today! Jesus never once complained as He hung on that cross. Vow today to stop complaining about at least one thing. Share it with us in the comment section.
Mrs. Keviyona Ray is an ordained minister and co-pastor of The Christ For All People International Church. She is passionate about sharing the word of God with everyone she encounters. As a professional, Keviyona is a teacher for Chicago Public Schools. She loves her ministry of teaching and changing children’s lives. She is a devoted wife and mother of a wonderful daughter. Two of her favorite scriptures are Jeremiah 1: 5: “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations” and Proverbs 29:18: “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.”