Friendships, Growth/Maturity, Honesty/Truth

The Truth Hurts

Let me be honest. In the past few weeks I have had many personal revelations about myself.  Here’s my story…

One of my close friends had a very deep conversation with me.  It pertained to some of my life decisions.  For those of you who don’t know me, I can be pretty closed off with what I choose to share with others.  I do it because people can be pretty judgmental.  I remember sharing something very hurtful that happened to me with a friend to have them not talk to me for a few days.  At that point I felt I did something wrong.  So, I began to just keep things to myself.  I know it isn’t always good to do that, but I’m learning it’s okay to talk to those who sincerely love you.

Proverbs 27:6 says, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” (KJV)

Sometimes we have to speak truth into our friends’ lives — truth that is neither easy nor pleasant, truth that might just cause a wound.  Sometimes, like me, we are recipients of a friend’s painful words.  Words shared because they love us so much they don’t want us to continue down the wrong path.  Those times are never easy whether we are the giver or receiver.

The Bible says, “Teach me thy way, O Lord; I will walk in thy Truth: unite my heart to fear thy name.” (Psalms 86:11 KJV)

Sometimes we have to hear painful things about ourselves for our own good.  I’ve realized that God often uses friends in my life to bring about the change He wants for me.  I want to be honest with my friends and I want my friends to be honest with me.  The TRUTH HURTS sometimes, but in the end it’s for the best.

I had to truly take time to elevate myself and listen to God.  As I did this, it took me by surprise as I read John 8:31-32:

Jesus said to those Jews which believed on him, “If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed;   a ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” (KJV)

Ephesians 4:15 reads, But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ. (KJV)

What my friend shared with me was spoken with nothing but love, and I’m thankful for her.  I know that as God continues to build me up into a virtuous woman I must understand sometimes that the truth does indeed hurt…OUCH!

Dear Daddy,

Let me not be deceived by words of the enemy.  Allow nothing but the truth to surround me.  Give me a heart of discernment that will encourage me to accept Your word when it is presented to me.  God, You love me so much that You gave Your Son to die so I may live.  Thank You Lord for everything.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to accept the truth although it will sometimes hurt.  Whether it’s truth within friendships, relationships, about your finances, or even about your job, you must be willing to listen to it.  Happy Friday Ladies!!

Read a related EmpowerMoment: The Ugly Truth

Do you have a problem giving or receiving the truth? How do you stand on truth even when you know it will hurt? Share your story in the comment section.


Ms. Hassanah White is a dedicated member of Faith Walkers Church in Birmingham, Alabama where their motto is to “Walk it out by Faith.”  She also serves as a member of the Praise Dance Ministry.  Hassanah is a true professional in the realm of marketing and customer service.  She’s a proud mother of a very energetic little boy named Jaden.  Hassanah believes laughter and prayer are the best medicines for any situation.  Her favorite scripture is Hebrews 11:6: “And without Faith it is impossible to please GOD, because anyone who comes to Him must BELIEVE that He exists and that He REWARDS those who earnestly seek Him.”

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