Commitment, Completion, Faithfulness, Focus, Growth/Maturity, Motivation, Persistance

Commitment Issues

My cousin and I had a conversation last week about the many reasons I may still be single.  However, the one that stuck out to me the most was my failure to commit. It is not as though I have never been able to commit because for many years I was in committed relationships.  Somewhere along the way I developed an anxiety about the thought of committing myself completely to anything.

Ironically, this week my church has challenged us to a 40 day turn around, and the first area that we must focus on is greater commitment.  I have realized in doing this that my failure to commit extends past physical relationships and has transcended into spiritual ones as well.  I have been cheating on God! I say that I am committed to our relationship, but I am constantly looking outside our relationship for affirmation and confirmation that only He can give me. “Into thine hand I commit my spirit: thou hast redeemed me, O Lord God of Truth.” (Psalm 31:5 KJV)

I struggled with whether or not I should use that scripture because it was given to us to use as a part of our fast.  However, God placed that scripture in my heart during my prayer time before I even knew it was on the paper.  That was amazing to me that God was revealing things to me in a variety of ways. God wants my greater commitment to be with Him!  We all have some areas of our life that can use more work in the area of commitment.

In my situation I realized that I can not commit myself to a relationship in the flesh until I commit to Him in my spirit.  I say I am vested in the relationship I have with my Daddy, but I’m questioning His whereabouts all the time. And yet, He is the one who has proven Himself time and time again in my life.  “O ye of little faith, why reason ye among yourselves, because ye have brought no bread? Do ye not understand, neither remember the five loaves of the five thousand, and how many baskets ye took up? Neither the seven loaves of the four thousand and how many baskets ye took up?” (Matthew 16:8-10 KJV)

God has proven to me that He is a faithful God.  I am the one who is cheating, but I put the blame on Him.  If I am going to be in a committed relationship with the Lord I must trust Him completely.  I can’t look at the things that other people have done to make me afraid of commitment. Jesus committed himself to me when He died on the cross.  It is my turn to show my commitment to Him.  Am I willing to close my eyes, and go to sleep because I trust Him that much?  Am I willing to communicate with Him first before going to others outside our relationship? Am I willing to spend more time with Him so that our relationship can continue to grow?

Dear Daddy,

I come before You today asking for Your forgiveness for all the acts of cheating I have been involved in throughout our relationship.  I pray for forgiveness, as well as continued strength in regards to our relationship.  I need to understand that You are always here with me even if I cannot see You.  I need to realize that being committed to You is the first step and all things will work out how You see fit.  Thank You, Daddy, for sticking by me and staying committed, even when I was unfaithful. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to show the Lord that you are trustworthy.  If God cannot trust us in a relationship with Him, then how can He trust us in the next dimension? I challenge you to commit yourself to whatever it is God has called you to do, whether it’s to become a better mother, daughter, employee, servant, or lover of the Lord.  Whatever area you need to commit to, like Nike JUST DO IT!

What are you willing to do in order to show God your commitment? Tell us about it in the comment box.


Ms. Sherita Shelton currently resides in Nashville, Tennessee.  She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a Master’s in Professional Counseling and is currently pursuing her counseling license.  Sherita works as a therapist and case manager for children as well as adults.  She facilitates groups for single women and offers mentoring and individual counseling for her clients.  Sherita’s favorite Bible verse is Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lot not on your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

6 thoughts on “Commitment Issues”

  1. I was just talking about this with someone just a few weeks ago. I believe that I can commit, but have had a few “hiccups” along the way. True commitment comes when we stop questioning and simply follow where He is taking us. Thank for confirmation! 🙂

    1. You are more than welcome for that confirmation. God truly wants us to Let go and let God, but we must commit and submit to his will! Now we can have a fresh start in the relationship.

  2. I’m convicted. I too joined the 40 day fast,but I have only been fasting and not PRAYING and spending the needed time with our Father. He let me know that this morning and let me tell you, it hurted. I have to confess, I have been allowing the busyness of life(being a wife and mother) steal my time with Him.So today I repent and re-commit myself to give Him more of my time. How can I be praying Father consume me when I walk away to fast from the fire even before He has a chance to do just that! Thanks Sherita for being so vulnerable and speaking the heart of God.

    1. Now that we have committed ourselves its time to put in to action.. I know u can be a great daughter to God, and give him the same u give to being a wonderful mother, and wife 😉

  3. AWESOME, AWESOME, AWESOME!!! When reading this, it was giving me so much clarification. The 40 day turn around has already begun to change me. Thank you Jesus!!!

    1. Thank God for new beginnings, and all the wonderful things that will manifest in our lives. Let the blessings continue. He can bless us on a whole other level if we take our commitment to the next level!

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