Forgiveness, Growth/Maturity, I Am Free Series

I Am Free: Unforgiveness

To commemorate our nation’s independence this week, we are featuring a series entitled “I Am Free”. Read this week as our writers share how God has delivered them and set them free!

I am FREE from unforgiveness!

This past session of women’s Bible study at church was life changing for me. We had been reading and studying from The Resolution for Women by Patricia Shearer. One of the resolutions that really resonated with me was the resolution on forgiveness. During this time of study and fellowship with other sisters in Christ, I learned that I had become very angry and bitter because I was carrying around unforgiveness for someone who would not accept responsibility for harming my child. I was praying day in and day out asking God to heal my heart, protect my baby and to do what He needed to do in the lives of those that harmed my child so that they might have peace as well. What I didn’t realize until I began to study what the Word says about forgiveness is that what I was really praying for was revenge. I wanted those responsible for harming my child to experience a little pain; I wanted them to own up and acknowledge the wrong that was done. I felt that was owed to my baby and me. Yet it is not God’s desire for me to pray for revenge or handle things my way.

Bless those who persecute you, bless and do not curse. (Romans 12:14 NIV)

One of the discussions we had during the study was about things that are deemed unforgivable. The list was pretty long: infidelity, false imprisonment, but “harm against my child” was mentioned over, and over again…and each time, I thought my feelings were validated. Once we got to the Word, I knew I was wrong again.

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. (Matthew 18:21-22 NIV)

After the second session, I picked up the phone and called the person that I was so angry and bitter with! Praise God! The Holy Spirit came over me and I have not felt better a day in my life! I forgave them, even though they had not acknowledged any wrong, and even apologized for anything I did or said offensively throughout the ordeal. His Word rings true each and every time if we will just stand on it! “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30 NIV)

What God put on my heart during those sessions were invaluable lessons:

1. It is not necessary for anybody to acknowledge wrongdoing for you to forgive them. See, when God is working on you He is working on those that have done you wrong as well, and as long as you focus on Him, He will take care of the rest.

…Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you (Luke 6:27 NIV)

2. Carrying around anger, bitterness and unforgiveness is only hurting you, not the other person(s). Forgiveness is part of the healing process for both parties, and you also will be forgiven.

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matthew 6:14-15 NIV)

Dear Daddy,

I can not thank You enough for Your mercy, grace and peace! Thank You for setting me free from the bondage of unforgiveness! Please continue to lead me first to Your Word, before I become consumed with anger, bitterness or the thought of being able to forgive. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to forgive others as your Father continues to forgive you! Let go of the pain, hurt, anger, bitterness and sorrows you are carrying around because you are trying to win a battle that is not yours to fight! Lay your burdens down and give them to God!

Ask God who you need to forgive today? Free them and yourself today!


Ms. Tiffany Huff is the devoted mother of two boys, a blogger, lover of food and travel, and aspiring entrepreneur with a passion for helping others live out their purposes. She is looking forward to growing in her walk and honoring God through sharing her EmpowerMoments. One of her meditation scriptures is Romans 12:2: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

8 thoughts on “I Am Free: Unforgiveness”

  1. This was beautiful!! Thanks so much for sharing this revelation. God just confronted me about true love and forgiveness this wkend. This was confirmation

    1. You are more than welcomed Renee! I am still in awe of the changes God made in me during this time, but I am so happy that He did because I would still be carrying around that anger and bitterness when its a burden I dont have to bear!!!

  2. Tiff, I’m still working on this so this was a reminder. I must admit that it’s very challenging at times to overlook other’s faults, but with the help of the Holy Spirit I know that I can do it! Thanks for this:)

    1. I agree Lisa very challenging but not too challenging for the Holy Spirit! He took total control, and I’m so thankful! He will do the same for you!!!

  3. Tiffany thank you! I am sitting here like keep speaking to me God. I learned a while ago that you need to forgive not because people have acknowledged the wrong they’ve done but because it’s the right thing to do. Learning and actually doing are two different things; just yesterday I had to forgive someone even though they think they haven’t done anything wrong. God is wowing me over and over. Im free from unforgiveness!

    1. Sheila I’m so glad that this a weight that we don’t have to carry! Being able to forgive brings a lot of peace and that is His will for our lives!

  4. Amen! As I heard someone say “forgiveness is not for the other person but for yourself.” Sometimes we carry unforgiveness in our hearts w/o even knowing it until something or someone triggers it. Forgiveness is important for our well being!

    1. Absokuteky Venus! I didn’t know that the un forgiveness was having such a negative effect on me until God made it so clear.

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