Patience, Singleness

Get Out Where?

I have been single for some time now.  It’s been four whole years since my boys’ father died and it’s still just me and my two boys.  I have went on a few ‘dates’ here and there, had I guess what you’d call a ‘summertime fling’, and also a few phone number exchanges but my interest is often gone before I get the random text message or phone call.  I am just…well, single.

My friends and family are wondering what is taking so long.  Everyone asks in his or her own little way, “Are you dating?”  “Do you have a special someone?”  “Are you still not over him?”  “When are you going to bring somebody around?”  “Do you have a secret boyfriend?”

Inevitably, the conversations always end with ‘You gotta GET OUT THERE!’

OUT WHERE?!

It’s not like I’m a hermit.  I work, belong to a gym, go to church, take the boys to their million and one activities, and I am a very sociable person (I think).

So where exactly is ‘Out There?’

I want to be in a relationship with someone as much as (if not more than) everyone else wants me to be.  However, I have learned over the past few years that I can be single and happy!  I recognize that God does not want me to live my life in misery because I am not married, engaged, or seriously dating someone.  It is His intention that we are content through every season of our lives while faithful and patient that what He has in the works will be even better!

I would like you to be free from concern.  An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs —how he can please the Lord.  But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided.  An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.  But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.  (1 Corinthians 7:32-35 NIV)

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for blessing with the time that I have as a single lady.  Please continue to prepare me for the man that will be my husband if or when You see fit.   Thank You for blessing me with the patience to allow Your Will to be done in my life.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Single Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to embrace your ‘ringless’ finger, knowing that all things happen according to God’s timing and plan!  Take the time that God has given you to become as intimate with Him as possible, so that when your husband is presented to you, you can be ready, complete and the wife that God wants you to be!

Are you too embracing the season of being single?  Please share your testimony.

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Ms. Tiffany Huff is the devoted mother of two boys, a blogger, lover of food and travel, and aspiring entrepreneur with a passion for helping others live out their purposes. She is looking forward to growing in her walk and honoring God through sharing her EmpowerMoments. One of her meditation scriptures is Romans 12:2: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

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4 thoughts on “Get Out Where?”

  1. Amen! I’m glad that you’re content in your singleness! I find it funny how ppl you know are always asking questions about your dating life..lol. I know that God will send you the man he has for you as well as other single women! I’m a single woman and I learning how to wait on God. It hasn’t been an easy journey. lol!

    1. You are right Venus, its not an easy journey but I am enjoying it! I have my moments but I still enjoy my ‘me’ time!

  2. Tiffany, God is amazing. I am just reading this and ironically when I was working on my EM yesterday I started out with a similar story and decided to save it for another time. I am so glad that God used you to get this timely message out. It is truly going to happen when God sees fit. I remain open to the process and the prospects.

  3. That scripture is soooo true. I swear as a single woman I had so much time to devote to the things of God. Now, not so much. Im doing the balancing act trying to figure out how to juggle husband, kids, work, ministry and everything else. So yes, ladies aspire and pray for the ring, but enjoy this season because when its gone, its gone FOREVER! 🙂

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