Submission/Surrendering, Trusting God

Holding On Too Tight!

A while back, I was thinking about the lessons and messages that I have been receiving about surrendering. At that very moment a movie scene popped up in my mind.  It was a scene from a comedy/drama/romance movie called Ghost (1990).  In this particular scene, con-artist Oda Mae (played by Whoopi Goldberg) is instructed by Sam (Patrick Swayze) to give a FOUR MILLION DOLLAR check to nuns because Sam wants to make sure the money is used for good and out of the hands of his friend/colleague Carl.

With clinched teeth, a forced smile, and a tight grip, Oda Mae has a hard time giving up that check.  I like to give, but I probably would have a hard time releasing that check too.  Four million dollars!  Watching this scene is hilarious, but the Holy Spirit helped me to realize that Oda Mae responds like many of us, and particularly me, with our lives.

If you cling to your life, you will lose it, and if you let your life go, you will save it.  (Luke 17:33 NLT) Maybe we grip our lives because we want to continue holding onto the control of our lives and do things our way.  Maybe it is because we want to obey and surrender only when it is convenient. Perhaps we think that if we surrender, we are going to lose our lives physically.  It is possible that we believe that God doesn’t want us to have joy and fulfillment or just maybe we think life is satisfactory the way it is.  Even more, we are probably focused on pursuing worldly things or we lack patience and trust in God to do what He says and has proven He can do.  In any event, we are afraid to let go and give control to God.

I must remember that when God created me, He didn’t intend for me to live independent of Him. Therefore, in order to move forward in my Christian walk, I must fully SURRENDER!

I have been gripping my life like Oda Mae gripped that check.  I have been gripping everything that God wanted control over or wanted me to release.  I have been gripping my many plans, my fears, my money, my concerns of what others think about me, my dating/love life (or lack thereof) and my need to do everything and be everything for everyone.  I have even given Him areas of my life and subsequently I have taken them back.  I’d say I believe and then the next minute I don’t believe.  Jesus asked the boy’s father, “How long has he been like this?” “It has often thrown him into fire or water to kill him.  But if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us.” “‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for one who believes.”   Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” (Mark 9:21-24 NIV)

Since I have been alerted to my lack of surrender to God, the Holy Spirit has helped me loosen my grip on my life and those areas that I gave God little to no access.  I have also surrendered plans that were of good intentions because it wasn’t what God wanted me to do at the time.  I have finally severed the last means of communication between me and my ex-boyfriend/first love; I am going to trust in God to bring a God-fearing, handsome man along just right for me.  I have learned that I have to seek God’s counsel in everything I do.  I have also learned that I can’t be everything for everyone.  It is okay to take the ‘S’ (Superwoman) off my chest unless that ‘S’ stands for SURRENDER (everything to God).

Through the testimonies of Hannah and Ruth, I am reminded that when you trust God and let go, you gain so much more!  Hannah, who yearned and prayed fervently for a child, gave her son back to the Lord. She promised God that if He gave her a son she would do this so she took him to the priest and allowed the priest to raise and ready him for his destiny. (1 Samuel 1:1 – 2:10)  She made him a coat and visited him every year but she had to let go.  Ruth left her family to go with Naomi, her deceased husband’s mother.  She surrendered to God and a new course for her life.  Consequently, she married again, gave birth to her first child, and was able to also bless Naomi—her mother-in-law.

Surrendering my life doesn’t necessarily mean I lose it physically.  Instead I will gain my life, the life God designed for me all along with peace, fulfillment, and deeper intimacy with God.  Surrendering my life doesn’t just benefit me, it benefits others too.  Oda Mae didn’t get that money but she was able to help bless the nuns and their charity as well as help Sam unite with the love of his life, Molly, and save her from danger.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for pruning me, defining my character, and setting me apart.  It is not easy to go through this process, nor is it easy to render control of my life to You.  But please help me let go!  Help me to trust You and remember that my life is no longer my own.  I am here to glorify You.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to trust the Lord with your lives.  After all, He knew you before you were in your mothers’ wombs.  He created you and knows your purposes.  He has your best interest at heart and will never fail you.  So, don’t worry about your children.  Put them in God’s hands.  Release that person with forgiveness and God’s Love.  Let go of that relationship He doesn’t approve of.  Seek Him before you make plans.  Let go of always needing control.  God is qualified to manage your life more than you.  When you let go, you’ll experience God’s liberty and peace!

Ladies, what areas of your life do you need to surrender to God? Share your story with us.

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Surrender It

Please watch the $4 Million scene from Ghost!


Ms. Tannika Moore loves the Lord and loves to write!  Besides writing poetry or editing written work for family and friends, she currently works for NEIU Educational Talent Search program.  She help assists Chicago public high school students with their reading, writing, etc. as well as helps them consider and prepare for college.  She, like many of her students, is the first of her family to graduate from college.  She earned a Bachelor’s of Arts in English-Professional & Technical Writing.  God, the Creator and Great Father has also created her to be a Compassion Person and Encourager and so she loves to encourage people according to God’s Word and help them to see, think and become better thru her support, actions and writing.  Her favorite scripture comes from Philippians 1:6, For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you shall perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.

9 thoughts on “Holding On Too Tight!”

  1. Tannik, I am glad that the Holy Spirit gave you this movie as an analogy to describe how I know I am …sometimes. Why is it so hard to let go of what doesn’t belong to us in the first place? I am speaking of our lives in general. Everything we do is ordained and orchestrated by the father if we allow Him control we will surely have a better experience than going at it alone.

    1. Chancee’, God is awesome isn’t He! I give Him all the glory! I don’t know why it is so hard….I guess we have gotten so accustomed to the natural and living down here that we forget about what really matters. Well thank God for His mercy and I pray we press in the things of the Lord and Surrender all!

  2. Sister Tannika:
    It is imperative for those of us who say that we are “saved” to totally surrender our will to God’s perfect will; many of us are walking in God’s permissive will, there is a difference. Everything that we have belongs to our Heavenly Father; we’re just using these “things” for a season. Do not get caught up in those “things” because those “things” depending on what they are, can take us out of the will of God. We must be very careful. We are not going to lose our lives physically when we surrender ourselves to God. God is more than able to keep that which I have committed to Him anyway 2nd Timothy 1:12. We brought nothing into this and we will take nothing with us when we transition out of this world.
    Be blessed.

    1. You better preach Geri! Thank you for giving me an understanding of permissive will! My pastor sometimes says that just because you blessed by God doesn’t mean you are approved by God…His approval and blessing are two different things. I am striving to let everything go and to release all fear. It is so crucial to surrender to God!

  3. I loved how you used the scene of Oda Mae in Ghost as an analogy to surrendering our lives to God! That was awesome! I know it’s hard to surrender to God because you feel like you will lose control. Surrendering is scary. However, I love about what you said to surrender our life is to gain (I know that it’s not your exact words lol). I have to admit that I would be hesitant at first to let go of a 4 million dollar check too! lol!

    1. Thanks Venus! You are so correct, surrendering is scary! We don’t want to lose control but we gain so much more from God if we just give our lives to Him. And I would have had the money spent in my head already so you know I would have been like at least can I keep some (but you know I had been doing that with God too…smh).

      1. Amen! Lol @ spending the money in your head! You’re not the only one! I would already have in mind what I would want to spend the money on!! lol!! It’s human nature! I know I would pout a little giving the money away. lol!

  4. Wow! Genius how God gave you such a revelation from the movie Ghost. Of course as a self-proclaimed control freak, I know all too well about struggling to let go. Thanks for this message!

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