Are You a Cheater?

I always start the school year by telling students they need to have integrity in everything that they do. I also tell students that they should never cheat off of anyone else’s work. I remind them that they need to be held accountable for whatever grade they earn. One day my students were completing an assessment and I caught someone cheating. I was furious! I was ranting and raving that I couldn’t believe that the boy was cheating. I took his and the other student’s papers, and I asked them how they expect to advance in high school, if they are depending on someone else to do their work. The rest of the class was shocked because I was so angry.

However, I never thought once about the times I cheated on God throughout my walk. I never thought about how God never gets angry when I cheat Him. He never turns His back on me when I cheat Him with my prayer time, my study time and my worship time. I had a rude awakening the other night. I realized I spend more time on Facebook and Instagram than in the presence of my Creator. I had to take full responsibility for my cheating on God. There are times when God wakes me up in the middle of the night to speak to me and I turn on the television so I can go back to sleep. I am guilty of cheating on God with my marriage, my child, my family, my friends, my job and my social life. By the time I give God some time, I am praying and reading the Bible with one eye open and reading a scripture or two so I can lessen the guilt. God spoke all these words: “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. You shall have no other gods before me.” (Exodus 20:1-3 NLT)

Just Saturday I sang at a funeral, went to a women’s retreat and ran a few errands. Guess what? I was tired and wore out. Although I told myself I was going to meet my girls for dinner and have a good time, I knew I had promised my friend that I was coming to sit with her at her service that night. When I picked my phone up, I noticed I had a Facebook message and the message stated, “Please be on time because I need you to sit with me.” At that very moment I felt conviction down to my fingernails. I headed to church. You see while my friend thought she was calling me to come pray and witness to other hurting women, I realized that I too, like my student, was a cheater and I was not spending quality time with Him.

So let God work His will in you. Yell a loud NO to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and he’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Let God purify your hearts. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet. (James 4:7-10 MSG)

While the service was going on, (by the way it was an awesome service) I sat in one spot listening to the speaker and praying that God forgives me for all the cheating I have done. I started to cry and ask God what I can do to make it up to Him because I never want to disappoint Him again. I couldn’t believe that me, the person that always has encouragement for someone else had started looking to other things and people for answers. I too have been a cheater!

As I gave my students another assessment, I facilitated but I didn’t take anyone’s paper. I was watching them so if any of them were off task I could lead them in the right direction. Yes, the same way God does me. When I start to cheat on Him with things and people, He sends a reminder to keep me on track.

I have one question: Are you a cheater? If so, now is the time to move from your wicked ways and make God your top priority. If all you want is your own way and to flirt with the world every chance you get, you end up enemies of God and His way. Do you suppose God doesn’t care? The proverb has it that “he’s a fiercely jealous lover” and what he gives in love is far better than anything else you’ll find. It is common knowledge that “God goes against the willful proud; God gives grace to the willing humble.”(James 4: 4-6 MSG)

Dear Daddy,

I have been a cheater and I have not always given You my complete attention. God, I am asking for Your forgiveness. God, continue to reveal myself to me so that I may know when I am not giving You all that I have. Continue to teach me how to make time for You when my life becomes busy. God, I don’t ever want to cheat on You because You promised me You would never leave me nor forsake me and I want to be kept. Please continue to send Your angels to protect me and to convict me when I am going astray. I love You for forgiving me time and time again. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to make your relationship right with God and stop cheating on Him! If you are guilty of cheating on God with your relationships, finances, schedules, careers and social life, now is the time to make a decision that you want to be faithful to God. As a woman you may know how it feels for someone to be unfaithful to you, so imagine how God feels when you put everything before Him.

Share with us your stories of what is/was keeping you unfaithful to God. What is your fix to the problem?

Read a related EmpowerMoment: Commitment Issues


Mrs. Keviyona Ray is an ordained minister and co-pastor of The Christ For All People International Church. She is passionate about sharing the word of God with everyone she encounters. As a professional, Keviyona is a teacher for Chicago Public Schools. She loves her ministry of teaching and changing children’s lives. She is a devoted wife and mother of a wonderful daughter. Two of her favorite scriptures are Jeremiah 1: 5: “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations” and Proverbs 29:18: “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.”

3 thoughts on “Are You a Cheater?”

  1. This is beautiful and so truthful. I subconsciously cheat on God with work, my earthly relationships, things I am certain are so important. Yet nothing is more important than falling and staying deeply in love with Jesus. His love, His forgiveness, His kindness is no comparison to the things and people who seek our attention daily. As a mother, I am guilty of worshiping my girls and their needs, but even that is not how God intends it to be. In a world of vast technology, we utilize so many forms of technology to keep connected to each other. I realized if text, emails, and calendars can keep my relationships with friends and family strong why not incorporate those same tools into helping me stay connected to Jesus. Therefore, I have “appointments” on both my personal and work schedule to call Jesus-PRAY. It might be a little odd for some but it works for me. It takes nothing but an open heart to chat with God, so no matter what I am doing when my notification alarms I just whisper my thoughts, my desires, my needs, and my worship to Christ. For too long I gave Jesus crappy, half-hearted, simple love I cannot cheat him any longer, His love is too AWESOME. He suffered and died just for me, and even after I am disobedient he reminds me I am still his, he still has more love just for me.

    Empowermoments keep up the good work!!
    Love Ivori

  2. This was powerful and raw ! We all have had this experience or better yet I have experienced this many times, but what does amaze me is how the same love you left is the same love that brings you back. I don’t care what I do He is always loving me the same way he did before I messed up. I really did enjoy this:)

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