Gratefulness, Love, Marriage

Gotta Be…

Today is my Baby’s, also known as my husband, birthday.  He is 26 years young today. I’m so proud and honored to say that I have a God-fearing, praying, and strong black man!  However, today’s culture brings many challenges to the possibility of being married, especially when the divorce rate is high for non-Christians as well as Christians. I personally believe that marriage is impossible without God and a fulfilling marriage can only come by following His principles for marriage.  I must admit that I have been blessed beyond my mind when it comes to whom God chose for my mate.  Martin Luther said,“There is no more lovely, friendly or charming relationship, communion or company, that a good marriage.”

I can witness to the promise and have assurance in His word, the blessing of the LORD brings wealth, and He adds no trouble to it. (Proverbs 10:22 NIV)  God is fulfilling this very thing for me through my husband.  I remember in the beginning of our dating many people thought that I didn’t deserve him, tried to separate the thought of us even dating, or didn’t take it serious.  You see he was raised in the church most of his life and me, well, I was the complete opposite and I was with a child.  The Lord knew what He had in His blueprint and He knew that our marriage was apart of it.  When the Lord has a plan nothing can stop it, so if you’re believing the enemy’s lie on today that what the Lord spoke to you is not coming to past declare this, “so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.”(Isaiah 55:11 NIV)

I can recall my husband, before our courtship, telling me that the Lord told him I was his wife.  I laughed and thought he was crazy because I wasn’t looking for a husband at that time in my life.  I was a single mother for three years prior to getting involved with my husband so marriage was something I thought about, but it wasn’t a desire at the moment.  Fast forward two years after my husband spoke those words to me; we were on our first date.  Before he dropped me off, we were listening to a song called “Gotta Be” by Jagged Edge.  He sang the song to me and every word he sang, he has been, done, and lived.

The first verse of the song goes like this: Don’t wanna make a scene/I really don’t care if people stare at us/ Sometimes I think I’m dreamin’/ I pinch myself just to see if I’m awake or not

This is a real-life illustration of what my husband and I have.  He is compassionate, self-less, patient, loving, and mine!  I’m so grateful for him.  Our marriage isn’t perfect and we both have learned through trial and error our God-given roles and responsibilities (thanks also to our Pastor Arthur Guice).  Nevertheless, we look towards the Spirit to help us in every area and we keep God first.

I’m a living testimony that if you wait on God, He’ll marry you.  While married, if you’ll give Him all of your heart and do things His way, He will give your marriage growth, love, restoration, and any thing it needs.  A fulfilling marriage is not just a dream, but possible with God!

Now to my husband, I know that we have had some obstacles in the road, but I LOVE YOU more than anything and less than God.  I pray that you will have many more healthy years, but that your encounter with the Lord will be stronger than last year. Know that you don’t have to “Gotta Be” any longer because you are.  HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Dear Daddy,

I thank You first for life.  Thank You that I am living and am saved.  Father, if it wasn’t for Your grace, I wouldn’t have been able to write this EM about my husband.  Lord, I ask that You would send Your word to restore any marriage that is in need of restoration. Lord, send Your word to grow every God-ordained marriage.  Lord, give grace also to my sisters who are single or engaged.  Lord, let their souls be satisfied only in You.  Let other young people rise up and live according to your principles regarding marriage.  I also ask that You would bless my Baby on today.  Be to him what he needs on today, keep our desires for one another, and help us to enjoy each other while we have each other.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

I EMPOWER you on today to bless your husbands if you are married and even if he may not be worthy of it.  Pray for him and ask the Lord to show you the treasure that’s inside of him.   For all my single ladies, get an appetite for the Lord like never before while you are still single.  Marriage would never satisfy you like a growing relationship with our Father can.  Lastly, Baby I EMPOWER you to hold on because change is going to come!

How do you keep your marriage to God and/or your marriage to your husband strong?

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Here’s “Gotta Be” by Jagged Edge:


Mrs. Lisa M. Purnell-Marshall is happily married to the wonderful and inspiring Antoine L. Marshall. She is the proud mother of two gorgeous girls. Her voice is one of the leading and authentic voices for breast-feeding, especially for the African-American community and Generation Y. She currently works inside of her home and plans to become a professional licensed lactation consultant in 2014. She and her family are members at Spirit of Liberty Church located in Markham, IL. Embracing the love that God has for her, Lisa labors to live an acceptable and pure life through the leading and keeping of the Holy Spirit so that her attitude, words, and actions attract the glory of God. In her free time she loves receiving manis and pedis. Her favorite promises that she find comfort and reassurance in are: Psalm 34:19: “A righteous man may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all” and Luke 6:38: “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

6 thoughts on “Gotta Be…”

  1. Happy B-Day to your husband! This was a great EM! Praise God that he send you someone that is everything you needed! Your story is so sweet! It gives me..I’m single and waiting on God to send me someone (a future husband) What a great testimony! I pray that God will continue to bless your marriage!.

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