I’ve never been much of a curser. Instead I’ve always used “substitute” curse words to get my point across or to really emphasize what I’m saying. You know those words–“shoot”, “shucks”, “darn”, and my favorite “dang”. I’m sure the list could go on and on but you get the point.
My husband and I are the parents of a soon to be two year old. Needless to say, he is like a sponge soaking up everything, good, bad and ugly. One day we were watching a football game on TV when one of the guys made a super play. In our excitement, I was like “Dang, did you see that?” Well, what do you know? Of all the words said, my son clues in on the word dang and starts repeating it.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 (KJV)
We immediately looked at each other having an “oh no” moment and started trying to distract our son, hoping he would soon forget the word. Since then, he’s started saying it here and there to emphasize his point. I wondered if “dang” is not such a bad word then why was I so concerned with my son saying it? I realized, it’s because of the word’s connotation it and the context in which it is used. Although we adults know “dang” could easily be alternated with more unsavory words, children may not.
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29 (KJV)
So we’ve been trying to make a more conscious effort to be mindful of our words and our actions because we realize the impact they can have on others, especially our children. We have also been trying to correct him and refocus him when he does say the word. And though “dang” is not an “official” curse word, it can very likely serve as one. I ask myself am I pleased with my son running around saying “dang this” or “dang that” and the answer to that question is no. Thus, I have to ensure that I am not doing the same!
Thanks for allowing us to communicate through words. Sometimes we don’t realize the impact of our words or how they affect others. We ask You to help us use our words mindfully. Let us edify You and glorify You in all things and set godly examples for our children. Help us to not take speech and communication for granted. For we realize it is only through You that we are able communicate. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
I EMPOWER you to be mindful of your words and your verbal communication because they can impact others positively or negatively. Our children, especially, model themselves after us and are easily influenced. Thus, the next time you’re in the heat of the moment and “dang” or whatever else is about to escape, remember if I don’t want my child saying that then I may want to revise how I communicate!
Mrs. Coretta Collins is a wife and mother who enjoys reading, writing, movies and spending time with family and friends. She is avid about health, healing and helping which serves her well as a registered nurse and recent Family Nurse Practitioner graduate. Striving to be led by the Lord throughout life and having overcome significant challenges, her favorite scripture is Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Coretta is a member of St. John A.M.E. Church in Birmingham, Alabama. She resides in Calera, Alabama with her awesome husband and two wonderful sons.