He is before all things, and in him all things hold together. (Colossians 1: 17 NIV)
Today I am celebrating 4 years of marriage. If you are married or have ever been married you know that it’s no easy task. I am not dwelling on the past but I have been reflecting and I have to give God a loud praise for holding me together.
I met my husband when we were children. Who would have thought that we would be one today? We have had ups and down, turmoil, blood, sweat and tears, but God has held us together.
I learned early in my marriage that no matter what you do, in all things you need to pray. Let me tell you, prayer has sustained, kept me and been my resting place. Our marriage was first tested just 4 months after we got married. You know even though my mouth was saying something, my heart and mind was saying that I wanted to be with my husband. I went into deep consecration and “my friends” said run. But God said, “You stand in the race. You asked for this so you need to endure to the end.” I continued to pray and obey the will of God.
My husband and I got back together. I continued to pray but you know that when things are going good we sometimes become relaxed in our prayer life. I’ve learned that when things are good, I should be praying harder because as surely as I live a storm is going to come. I‘ve learned to always be ready for battle.
I remember one day the very man I prayed and God promised me would be my husband told me that this marriage thing just wasn’t for him. I was crushed and took matters into my own hands; my thoughts were that this relationship was over. How quickly God sent His word to reprimand me: “Do not say, I will do to him as he has done to me. I will pay the man for what he has done.” (Proverbs 24:29 NLV) I begin to question the voice of God. Did He really say this was my husband? I started to convince myself that maybe it was wishful thinking. Maybe I wanted it so badly that I stopped listening to what God was telling me. Now I don’t believe God causes pain, but I’ve learned that He allows pain to be afflicted on us in order to teach us valuable lessons. This lesson was painful for me because I realized that I wasn’t following the Bible. I was interpreting the Bible and marriage how I wanted it to fit into my life.
I thought being separated was what I wanted. I thought life was good but every night I felt empty. I ran on auto pilot keeping myself busy everyday but every time I had a spare moment I would reflect on the day God told me, “He is your husband.” I kept shaking it off and saying, “But he chose this life.”
God spoke to my husband and we begin to talk and find out why we kept finding ourselves at a dead end in our relationship. The Bible gives us clears instructions in regards to marriage: For this reason, a man must leave his father and mother when he gets married and be joined to his wife. The two become one. (Ephesians 5: 31 NLV) Wives, obey your own husbands. Some of your husbands may not obey the Word of God. By obeying your husbands, they may become Christians by the life you live without you saying anything. They will see how you love God and how your lives are pure. Do not let your beauty come from the outside. It should not be the way you comb your hair or the wearing of gold or the wearing of fine clothes. Your beauty should come from the inside. It should come from the heart. This is the kind that lasts. Your beauty should be a gentle and quiet spirit. In God’s sight this is of great worth and no amount of money can buy it.This was the kind of beauty seen in the holy women who lived many years ago. They put their hope in God. They also obeyed their husbands. Sarah obeyed her husband Abraham. She respected him as the head of the house. You are her children if you do what is right and do not have fear. (1 Peter 3:1-6 NLV)
We had the information; we just weren’t heeding the instructions. I learned that I wasn’t being the wife God wanted me to be and he wasn’t being the leader God designed him to be. We realized that our souls are eternally connected and that’s why we will never find satisfaction anywhere else. We both realized that God has held us together to show others that despite what you may have been through God is able to keep you!
Yes, this story ends well because I love my husband and I love God for keeping His promises. I am so glad that I ended up here today enjoying my soul mate, my God-given husband. I am so glad that we had to go through the process and we passed the tests. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. (Matthew 19:6 NIV) I know that God has held us together!
Thank You for protecting my marriage and sustaining us. God continue to reveal to us what a godly marriage is. Protect us from whatever is trying to destroy marriages. God, I am asking You to continue to cover our union with the blood of the lamb. When times get hard, bring to my remembrance the characteristics of a godly wife. Please continue to mold my husband into the man that is pleasing to You. God, I am asking You to turn these ___ years in to a lifetime! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, today I EMPOWER you in your marriages! Times may get shaky but God has given you a strong foundation to stand on and that’s the Word and prayer. Remember a marriage that prays together, stays together. Remember if God promised you a Godly marriage, remain faithful and God will hold it together!
Happy Anniversary Booker T. Ray! I love you more than you know!
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Mrs. Keviyona Ray is an ordained minister and co-pastor in training of The Christ For All People International Church. She is passionate about sharing the word of God with everyone she encounters. As a professional, Keviyona is a teacher for Chicago Public Schools. She loves her ministry of teaching and changing children’s lives. She is a devoted wife and mother of a wonderful daughter. Two of her favorite scriptures are Jeremiah 1: 5: “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations” and Proverbs 29:18: “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.”