In honor of Women’s History Month, ladies enjoy this ”bad girl” series as we share our personal connections with women in the Bible who are notorious for being bad.
“At the window of my house I looked down through the lattice. I saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth who had no sense. He was going down the street near her corner, walking along in the direction of her house at twilight, as the day was fading, as the dark of night set in.Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. (She is unruly and defiant, her feet never stay at home;now in the street, now in the squares, at every corner she lurks.) She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said:“Today I fulfilled my vows, and I have food from my fellowship offering at home.So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and have found you! I have covered my bed with colored linens from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.Come, let’s drink deeply of love till morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey. He took his purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon.” With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk.All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.” (Proverbs 7:6-23 NIV)
Now there’s no doubt in my mind that this woman knew of her power over men. She was smooth, moved slickly, and used lust to seduce this man. She had “game.”
I shamefully admit that over the past year I’ve become a lot like this woman. Now by no means have I prostituted or picked up men for sex for that matter. I was more so selling the idea of being with me. After many incidents of being played, my father felt it was necessary to tell me how I didn’t have any “game” and proceeded to teach me about men. He shared with me how they think and my power as a beautiful, young woman over them. I soaked in every word. His exact words were to “never have sex,” so I didn’t! I simply asked for what I wanted. “My friends and I are going on a trip, can you buy my ticket?” “Can you pay for this?” “Can you pay for that?” “I saw this 50” flat screen plasma, can you buy it for me? Oh, can you mount it to the wall too?” I got what I wanted and moved on with my life. I didn’t feel my actions were wrong; after all, my father and I got enjoyment out of the stories. It was not until a particular incident that God rumbled my feathers.
I met a gentleman for dinner that I had been playing with for a while. I told him I was low on funds and needed a few dollars. He reached into his wallet and placed six one-hundred dollar bills on the table. With a seductive look, I grabbed the money and sweetly said, “Thank you!” He gestured across the table to kiss me for the first time. Awkwardly I gave him a kiss. He then tried to force his tongue down my throat. I then pushed back. He looked me in eyes and asked, “When are we going to have sex?” With a dumbfounded look, I whispered, “Huh?” while taking a sip of water. At that very moment a spirit of conviction shot down my spine. For the first time I felt wrong. I mean I felt really bad. Just like the Adulteress of Proverbs, I was using my beauty, persuasive words and lust to seduce men to fulfill my selfish desires. I heard the voice of God so clearly that day.
“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things…” (Colossians 3:5-8 NIV)
Please forgive me for using what I have to deceitfully get what I want. Thank You for conviction and never letting me drift too far away from You. Remind me that if it’s not of and from You, I don’t need it anyway. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to use anything that God has given you for His kingdom. I know you have it going on but don’t flaunt your body or use your power for the works of the devil. We are beautiful creatures indeed, but make sure God is getting the glory out of your beauty inside and out.
Ms. Chaunte’ Tate is a recent graduate of North Carolina A&T University with a degree in Journalism. She is currently preparing to begin her law school education in New York. She is passionate about the spiritual advancements of all followers of Christ. Her favorite scripture is Proverbs 1:7: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”