When People Show You Who They Are, BELIEVE THEM!

Please forgive us for the previous EmpowerMoment that went out with errors. We make mistakes too!

Maya Angelou says, “When people show you who they are believe them.” I am a person who forgives easily and moves on. Yes, I know that you are probably thinking that’s exactly how I should be. I know that I am supposed to forgive because that’s what the word says- “In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others. If you refuse to do your part, you cut yourself off from God’s part. (Matthew 6: 14-15 MSG) This is a mouth full! All of the times that people have shown out on me it was my duty to forgive them because I want my Father in Heaven to continue to forgive me.

I was at a gathering and a friend of mine was there also. My friend was having a good time and someone she knows and loves began to argue with her and say slanderous things. The person called her many names and she was hurt. At the end of the night this young lady began to tell the story of how this person has been doing and saying hurtful things since she was a child. She felt betrayed and hurt again. She stated that the feeling was beginning to become familiar and comfortable; however, each time she forgave because it’s the right thing to do. God told us to forgive, but we are not supposed to allow people to continuously mistreat us.

Then came Peter and said to him, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? until seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, until seven times; but, Until seventy times seven. (Matthew 18:21-22 ASV) You are supposed to forgive someone each time they hurt you. You keep forgiving them because God gives us chance after chance. Yes, you forgive and move on but every lesson you go through should be a lesson learned.  I grew up around someone who was on drugs and every time they would come to our house they would steal something. Yes, I had to forgive this person but do you think I left my purse out on the table? No, that would have been crazy! They showed me who they were and I believed them. I forgave them every time they stole something but I grew smarter about the situation. Even though I prayed for him and forgave him, God gave me common sense. I didn’t put myself in predicaments that would continue to cause me heartache and pain.

I remember growing up, even into adulthood, thinking that I had to tell someone my business. I told the wrong somebody and it spread like wildfire. Everyone knew things that only one other person should have known. I was furious and hurt. You know after a while I forgave and I decided not to hold a grudge but do you think I told this person any more of my personal business? No, but I did learn that when people show you who they are, believe them.

The moral of this EmpowerMoment is this: Yes, forgive those who hurt you but when they show you who they are – believe them!

Dear Daddy,

I thank You for instilling forgiveness in my heart. Thank You for teaching me to forgive anyone that has wrongfully used me or abused me. God, continue teaching me how to love people for who they are and when people show me who they are, give me the will to believe them. God, help someone forgive a loved one that has hurt them and teach them to love unconditionally. Teach them to love and accept people for who they are, but not allow people to continually mistreat them. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to forgive people who have hurt you, abused you, stole from you, or slandered your name and character. Forgive people because God forgives you time after time. I EMPOWER you to forgive them and move on. I want you to remember forgiveness does not mean that  you are a doormat; it means that the hurt did not consume you. Remember when people show you who they are believe them!

Ladies, have you found it difficult to forgive those that hurt you? How do you deal with it?


Mrs. Keviyona Ray is an ordained minister and co-pastor in training of The Christ For All People International Church. She is passionate about sharing the word of God with everyone she encounters. As a professional, Keviyona is a teacher for Chicago Public Schools. She loves her ministry of teaching and changing children’s lives. She is a devoted wife and mother of a wonderful daughter. Two of her favorite scriptures are Jeremiah 1: 5: “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations” and Proverbs 29:18: “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.

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