Me, Myself and I…I…I

I need help.

I need chains to break.

I need a supernatural blessing.

I need peace.

I want love.

I want stability.

I want independence.

I want overflow.

I want to be a blessing.

A friend and I were leaving bible study, when she looked at me and said, “girl, I was praying so hard for you at church tonight.” More often than not people tell me that God placed me on their minds’ to uplift in prayer. As I drove home, I realized at times I can be a selfish prayer, praying for myself 80-90% of the time. I’ve been exploring my abilities to become a prayer warrior but in order to hold that position this selfish spirit has to go! I’ve literally put myself on fasts from praying for myself just so I can focus on others. That fast which I wanted to last for 48 hours lasted about six. I’ve tried praying for: people I know, my pastor, famous people and people I see around the city yet the word ‘I’ constantly slips in the prayer. I strive to be a person of authority in the spirit, who is able to pray and move mountains for people.

I prayed and asked God for a solution. The scripture “Take care of any widow who has no one else to care for her,” (1 Timothy 5:3 NIV) came to mind as I thought about my best friend who lost his father eight years ago. He once expressed that no one stepped up to support him or his mom during that time, emotionally or spiritually. I remember telling him that I never realized how long it hurt him because it seemed like he was okay.

We live in such a world where weakness is for the meek and time moves so fast that you gotta put your big girl panties on, suck it up and keep moving. I feel the enemy is separating us. People don’t want to talk about their problems, which causes feelings of isolation and loneliness and that can lead to depression and/or suicide. The devil wants us to be selfish in our prayers and time because, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” (Matthew 18:20 NIV) We can’t always wait for people to cry out for help nor can we wait for people to inquire if everything is okay. We must take a moment, slow down and pray with each other and God will always show up to the meeting.

God gave me an idea. I realized I have little to no idea what some of the closest people in my life are going through. I went through my phone and picked 20 people and told them I will be holding weekly prayers and fasts for anyone who needs them. I wrote everyone’s response down in my book and that night and the following morning I took their request before the Lord. Praying for them was so easy because I knew their need and I know we are standing together at the throne with the request.

Dear Daddy,

I come before You humbled that You always provide solutions. God I ask that Your people are moved to communicate and uplift each other in prayer. I pray that we do not feel embarrassed to discuss any issues we are facing or that we compare our cross to others’. I ask that we release any selfish spirits over our time or prayer life so we all can help Your kingdom progress. In Jesus Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to communicate. Chat with your friends and family and inquire on things they are going through and share things you are going through. As a group or pair take the request to God. Do not overlook someone who seems fine because we all have warfare and you never know what the enemy is in their head saying. Do not be embarrassed! Remember, “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” Your prayer could save a life. 

Ladies, are you a selfish prayer? How do you make sure you are praying for others who need it most?


Ms. Dené B. is a student of life who enjoys human studies and social media. She graduated from Loyola University Chicago where the motto is “Preparing People to Lead Extraordinary Lives,” She took her education and school spirit to heart and now is a young adult striving to live an extraordinary life while helping others achieve the same. With a Bachelor of Arts in Advertising and Public Relations and minors in Sociology and Visual Communication, Dené’s worked at a top PR firm but her greatest accomplishments resides in volunteer work with Autism Speaks and Big Brothers Big Sisters. Currently, she finds herself pursuing a vision God placed in her of starting her own business. One of her go to scriptures is, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is Gods will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NIV). 


8 thoughts on “Me, Myself and I…I…I”

  1. Good points, Dene’! I find that our society is getting greatly self-involved even as we embrace all kinds of “social media”. Thank you for reminding us that we need to think outside of our own sphere and think about those around us!

    1. Yes! I totally agree! I work in digital and everyone always wonders how I stay connected with so much when I’m not on social media that often but spoken word really goes a long way! Thank you for reading!

  2. Dene’ I soooo needed this! This is the core of my being and I have been neglecting it through motherhood. My children have been getting the best of this from me, but thank you for letting the Lord use you and writing this! I L-O-V-E-D IT!

    1. Lisa, even with motherhood, wife-ship, business plans, home makeover and everything else you juggle you still find time to be a vassal. I truly admire you for that. I feel I could call you at 3AM or 6AM and you would still make yourself available. You prayed in a bathroom while out to dinner before…that’s pretty selfless 🙂 You are an amazing woman of God and admire you!

  3. Very insightful Ms. Brown. I believe it’s always important to be able to identify your flaws in order to flourish in any compasity of ministry. Continue to self-analyze to make the changes critical to making you all that God desires you to be. Stay encouraged lady.

  4. This was a great read and lesson. There’s so much to take away from this passage that I can apply o my life and the people in it. You have a gift! I’m happy to witness it.

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