She cries herself to sleep at night with pain and agony in her voice. Frustrated because she hasn’t found the “right” person to share me with. Oh she tries though. Sometimes a different man each night, sometimes the same man for a few weeks but none of them really love her. None of them want to be with her, seriously, and soon she’ll find out that this momentary satisfaction will still leave her feeling empty.
If only she knew how much God loves her and that her body is His temple. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NIV)
She doesn’t like the way she looks and she constantly fantasizes about being someone different. She dresses her insecurities well by wearing things that downplay some areas while exposing others. Oh, if her nose were a little bit narrower, if her hips were wider, if her breasts were larger, then she would be perfect. She gazes into the mirror for hours wishing this body were not her body.
I just want to scream. Doesn’t she know that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:13-16)? Perhaps she doesn’t realize that she was created in God’s own image. (Genesis 1:27 NIV) Furthermore, she should know that in the end, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30 NIV)
She leans on me and cries in prayer wanting more from God, asking Him to show up in Her life. After she is finished spilling her soul to Him, she doesn’t hesitate to jump up. What a one sided conversation! She has talked, talked, talked but has failed to listen. My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. (John 1:27 NIV)
Many days, she doesn’t know how she is going to make it through each day. Her family is pulling her down. She’s trying to satisfy too many people and can’t seem to manage it all. The bills are due and the money is low. She wonders how she will make it through. I want to remind her that although the struggle is real, the God that she believes in is also real. In His word He confirmed, “And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19 NKJV)
In this small space, this bedroom we share I experience the intimate details of her life. I’ve been stained with tears and felt the many emotions she carries. I know her family secrets and know her pain. I’ve read the pages in her journal – the love notes, the suicide letters. I’ve seen her at her best and at her worst. I know her happy times and her bad times. I may be just a bed but to my occupant I am so much more. If only I could talk, I would remind her that just as I see, so does God. He sees her most intimate moments, hears her cries and triumphs in her victories. He is all seeing, all knowing, and all-powerful. If she would only put her trust in and listen to Him, He is waiting to calm her fears and welcome her with open arms.
I love You for first loving me. At some point and time, I have identified with each of these scenarios. Thank You for Your word, which has the answer to solve my every issue. Continue to remind me of Your goodness, Your grace, and Your mercy. When I feel low, fill me with Your spirit and lift me higher. Help me to remember Your word so that when I need it most, it’s hidden in my heart. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, I EMPOWER you to love yourself. It’s impossible to truly love others when you don’t love yourself. Know that God cares for you and your every issue. Meditate on His word and rely on Him to fill the voids.
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Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Washington, DC and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures this week are Philippians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me.”