Play Your Game, Not Hers!

Words with Friends is one of the few cell phone games that I like to play when I have some down time. Unfortunately though, I often seem to have more desire to play than time to spend studying the game board, predicting my opponent’s next move and creating mega words. These days I am lucky if I have time to make a play twice a week.  Besides the fact that I leave my opponents hanging for days at a time, I have been pretty content with the frequency of my play.  That is until the Words with Friends application was updated.  The newer version allows each player to see how many points overall each of their opponents has accumulated for the all of the games that they are playing.  As I stated before, I can’t always find a few extra minutes in my day to play a word. Thus, I am usually at the bottom of the scoreboard with a measly point tally.

After the game changed,   I found myself working extra hard to find more time to play words just so I wouldn’t be the one who was in last place. I was looking at my opponents’ scores trying my best to surpass them on the Leaders’ Board.  For a few days, I was literally just watching their scores and using where they were to gauge where I should be. The more I became engulfed in that ridiculous behavior, the more I realized how crazy it was. There I sat spending time that I couldn’t afford to waste, pouring all of my time resources and energy into a word game. And it was not because I was trying to win; it was simply due to the fact that I was keeping up with someone else’s game and felt the need to catch up or surpass them.

That scenario prompted me to think about the other times in the past when I was too consumed with someone else’s game that I couldn’t focus on my own.  I’m sure you know what I’m referring to. Looking at her promotion, instead of focusing on doing my best in my position. Coveting the relationship that she has with her husband, instead of redirecting that energy into working on my own marriage. Or what about desiring her well-behaved children, dream home and car, or her ability to be a stay-at-home mom? As long as I was focusing on their score, I couldn’t have possibly been playing my best game.

In the twelfth chapter of Hebrews, we have explicit instructions on how we should play our game and run our race.  And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” (Hebrews 12:1a-2 NIV) According to this passage of scripture, we each have a race specifically marked out for us. There is no way that I can complete my run if I am busy peeking over into your lane for comparison purposes and vice versa. As a matter of fact, the scripture tells us exactly where our focus should be. As long as we are running, our eyes should be fixated on Jesus. If we want to compare our progress to anyone, we should be comparing ourselves to Him. He is the pioneer and perfecter!

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for the times that I compared myself to others around me. I understand that as long as I am running the race that You have marked out for me, then I am on the right track. Please help me to be content with what You have given me and where I am, while striving to become the best me that I can be! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to play YOUR game, run YOUR race and stay in YOUR lane! It’s easy to get caught up in what so and so is doing, but I EMPOWER you to instead focus that energy on becoming everything that God created YOU to be! Stop watching their score and work on your personal high score!

Can you identify an area where you are more focused on someone else’s game? Share how you plan to re-focus your attention on your own game.

Read a related EmpowerMoment: The Long-Eyed Lesson!


Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant-leader. She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments. As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible and other non-fiction pieces. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and three lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.

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