What would you do to be liked? Usually, I would imagine this question applying to school-aged children who were anxious to make friends or become popular. Yet, I am reminded as I peruse social media, “What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.” (Ecclesiastes 1:9 NIV) Vying to be liked has taken a different form but it’s the same premise. From teenagers flashing wads of money to grown women scantily clad, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and other social media outlets have pushed many of us over the edge in our thirst for attention.
Having people “like” pictures, statuses and comment on posted items, we are motivated to post more and more of our lives. We begin to share things that normally only those in our inner circle would know about. I’m sure you’ve seen it: drama with the husband, the wife, the ex, pictures of nearly nude bodies, memes with questionable messages, statuses that are used to tear each other down versus uplift. The thirst is real. We are using social media to vent, get advice from people we have never shared a meal with and in many ways distance people from the truth. I am using words like “we”, “our” and “us” because the vast majority of us who engage in social media have at one point fallen in the social media trap. One day I was about to share something on social media and I was immediately convicted. What was my motive for the post? Was it to spread truth, uplift or merely “show off?” Had I taken being “liked” and having followers way too seriously?
So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed. (Ephesians 4:17,19 NIV)
That, however, is not the way of life you learned when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds (Ephesians 4:20-22 NIV)
As women who are striving to be Christ-like, what example are we setting? What are we displaying to the world? This post isn’t meant to be restrictive but to be reflective. How can we guide others to the word and to Christ when we are looking just like them? In a world where marriages are constantly under attack, children are killing children and we have lost a lot of civility towards each other, I always find joy in seeing marriages uplifted, family time and friends sharing good laughs. I enjoy hearing the good news of others and stories of triumph even through adversity. Do we all go through hard times? Yes! The struggle is definitely real but there are some things which only need to be shared with our real “friends” and family, not the ones who only get to peer through our life on a social media site. I always tell people that in the world of social media you never know who is truly rooting for you versus those who revel in your downfalls. I encourage you to not let your deceitful desire to be “liked” tarnish your walk with the Father or let enemies inside your camp.
Forgive me for seeking attention in all the wrong places. Convict me when my actions are not in alignment with Your will. When I choose to put my life on display, help me to encourage instead of discourage. Let my page and posts represent who You have called me to be. Remind me that the only “like” I need is from You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, I EMPOWER you to reflect on your social media behavior. Remember that’s a way of connecting and sharing with other people but know when you have gone too far. Review the images and posts that you have out there and check your motives. I EMPOWER you to be a light and set in an example in all that you do. Don’t let the power of a “like” ruin your character.
Have you ever found yourself caught up in the attention that social media can bring? Share your story with us.
Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Washington, DC and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures this week are Philippians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me.”