I’ve found that it is so easy to tear people down. I am not sure if it is my background, my past experiences or past circumstances, but for a large part of my life I found it easy. Now, while these dialogues may have occurred in my mind and not to their face, I still carried a disposition of anger, or a “chip” on my shoulder.
One day I was tired of people telling me that I frowned all of the time. I never knew I was frowning but I surely became agitated when they stated that. I can easily attribute this to my past need for glasses or an inner battle that I was facing in my own spirit. I’m sure it was the latter.
The Bible tells us, “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45 NIV This scripture discuss what you are verbally saying, but I extend this also to body language. My body language was not warm and engaging because there was an internal struggle that I needed to identify with. I needed to accept who I was and be content with the gifts God gave to ME, not Keisha or Marie, but ME! I went through a few years of purging. I purged some friends, some attitudes, some thoughts, and the list can go on. I noticed once I began to remove this baggage, my eyelids weren’t as heavy anymore (hence the frown).
My EmpowerMoment for today is based on the self-inventory we have to conduct in order to identify with who we really are. I found that what was inside was not so happy. She wasn’t free. But then I met Jesus, and His Word is true, “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” John 8:36 NIV I had to make a decision to allow God to rule in my life. I was so irritated with being considered a mean girl, when in my heart I wasn’t mean, I was hurt. Jesus set me free, and He can set you free too.
Today I am free. Sometimes I’ve been actually characterized as being too nice, too giving, too forgiving, or too friendly. But I understand now that God gave me life and He gave it to me abundantly. Sometimes my friends roll their eyes when I’m overly optimistic or it takes a while for me to get frustrated. But I’ve learned that our battle in life is not against people or the things they do. The battle is with the enemy who tries to steal, kill, and destroy us.
Are you in bondage? Are you angry about something you just can’t let go and it is affecting the way you are being perceived? Allow God to reign in your life and do a complete overhaul from the authentic inventory you’ve given Him.
Think about it….
Lord my prayer today is for that sister who has an inner struggle with herself. So much so, that she is held in bondage in her own mind and can’t quite see beyond her lowered and squinted brow. God, please help this sister do a self-inventory and that what is lacking you are able to feel, what is unlike You is immediately thrown away. Lord teach us how to empower one another, to be kind, and to speak life into each other’s hearts. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
Ladies, I EMPOWER you to EMPOWER someone else. The easiest thing to do when you are unhappy is to make someone else unhappy. Misery loves company. Ask God to lead you today to be able to EMPOWER and encourage someone else.
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As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is a university administrator. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28 NIV) Khalilah also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment. Her passion is mentoring young women and marriage empowerment. She resides in Orange Beach, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their two daughters. They are members of New Beginnings Christian Center in Foley, AL.