I once read an article that said every person on the planet at one time in his or her life has been an Oscar-Winning Liar! This is so true. I can only speak for myself because I know I have told one or two in my day. Perhaps my most common lie is to tell myself I can do things in less time than I actually can. What I’ve realized is lying to myself sets me up to lie to others. Keep me from lying to myself; give me the privilege of knowing your instructions. Psalms 119:29 NLT How many times have I told someone I would arrive at a certain time and place when in my heart I wasn’t genuinely committed to following through on my word?
Lying is more Satan-like than Christ like. Jesus referred to Satan as “a liar and the father of lies” John 8:44 NLT. Jesus declared Himself to be the Truth as it states in John 14:6. Most of us are defensive about our lying because we are defensive about ourselves. We are slow to face the truth of the contrast between our character and God’s. See, we can often look at someone else and identify their lying ways but what about those little “white lies” that we tell. I can hear myself saying I’ll do something when I had no intentions of doing it. I was being untruthful when I knew in my heart that wasn’t my plan. Lying can’t be anything other than sinful because God can’t do it. There are six things the Lord hates, no seven things he detest: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that kill the innocent. Proverbs 6: 16-17 NLT
I think I’ve figured it out. There are degrees to lying. I took the time to analyze it from my own lies I’ve told, to the lies people have told to me. This is what I perceive from it:
1. You Lie
2. You Lie to self protect the first lie
3. You then develop a habit of lying
4. You self deceive because you begin to believe the lie you’re telling
5. You rationalize the lie by justifying the lies as a positive.
6. Now you’re lying so good that you’ve developed a technique. You look people straight in the eye and lie without conviction.
7. Now it’s beyond habitual because you see it as a duty to lie.
In order to be truthful we must be willing to grieve. That is to face hard truths that are disappointing and upsetting. Whatever tempts us whether it is a “white lie,” the truth is the temptation to lie is very real. To help in seeking truth speak as David spoke Psalm 139: 24-25 NLT, Search me O god and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
Please forgive me of my sins. The sin of lying. Whether it’s a white lie or a huge lie no matter how big or small it’s a sin in Your eyes. Help me to speak truth and turn from satan-like ways. Although I’ve fallen short of Your glory Lord, please help me do better. Thank You for the grace and mercy that You provide me everyday. In Jesus Name I pray, Amen!
Ladies I EMPOWER you to Continue to pray and ask God to help you when you feel the need to tell a lie. Ask Him to strengthen you to accept the truth and to be confident enough to give the truth. He is nurturing us all in becoming the women that He envisions us to be.
Are you guilty of lying? How do you deal with removing this sinful habit from your life?
Ms. Hassanah White is a dedicated member of Faith Walkers Church in Birmingham, Alabama where their motto is to “Walk it out by Faith.” She also serves as a member of the Praise Dance Ministry. Hassanah is a true professional in the realm of marketing and customer service. She’s a proud mother of a very energetic little boy named Jaden. Hassanah believes laughter and prayer are the best medicines for any situation. Her favorite scripture is Hebrews 11:6: “And without Faith it is impossible to please GOD, because anyone who comes to Him must BELIEVE that He exists and that He REWARDS those who earnestly seek Him.”