Flashback Friday: Control Freaks Anonymous

Enjoy this flash from the past which was originally posted on April 5, 2011. 

Ok, I’m about to make a confession and trust me this is HUGE for me! Hello, my name is Kristen and I’m a bit of a control freak. Now those of you who are reading this who really know me are saying two things to the screen: (1) That isn’t a revelation; I could’ve told you that a long time ago! (2) I would probably remove the ‘bit’ from that statement! I totally accept those words because I know that I’m almost compulsive when it comes to controlling situations. For much of my adult life, I have lived by the motto “If I want it done RIGHT, I should just do it myself.” This attitude is dangerous as it causes me not to entrust people with simple tasks that they are more than qualified to carry out. In fact, many times the very people that I don’t trust are much more credentialed than me. The saddest part of this whole situation is that I find myself treating the One who is most knowledgeable about everything the same way.

So here we are a month after the launch of the EmpowerMoments site and I feel that this is going to far exceed what I could have ever imagined because God is ready for his daughters to walk in liberty and on purpose.  I know that He has given me this assignment as a part of that objective. So of course the control freak in me wanted to ensure that that objective was being met! (How ridiculous of me!) I found myself checking the site stats every few minutes trying to find out how many people were viewing the post, calling my friends making sure that they read it, and all types of other crazy stuff (I told you I was borderline obsessive & compulsive). Last Wednesday, God literally hit the pause button and made me stop. He reminded me that this was an assignment that He had given me and it’s not up to me to evaluate the performance because I’m not the teacher. How many times as a student had I graded my own paper? He went on further to explain that we are releasing HIS word into cyberspace. So is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it. (Isaiah 55:11) Plain as day, in black and white, He was saying to me that I don’t need your help in accomplishing what I desire. Sit down somewhere! Here I was trying to oversee the accomplishments of the EmpowerMoments and that wasn’t what I had been tasked with.  I’m just here as a servant and messenger and once I do what He told me to do; the rest is up to Him. My actions were saying that I didn’t trust Him to do what He said that He would.

In just one week’s time the hits on the site nearly tripled and it wasn’t because I was logging in checking every 5 minutes (really it was literally every 5 minutes!) It was because He was on His job…I just needed to be on mine. Just a couple verses before the one mentioned earlier, God said: “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:9) Little ole’ me was down here on earth trying to do something that required a resume` with heaven as the header address. His experience at this stuff (and ALL stuff for that matter) far exceeds anything that I am bringing to the table so I decided to let it go!

Now since we are in Control Freaks Anonymous, I implore you to take this moment just as I did and verbally confess your control issues (or other issues) to someone else. James 5:16 says, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” Ask them to keep you lifted in prayer that you may overcome this thing.

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for the times that I didn’t trust You to do Your job. Teach me to focus on the assignment that You have given me and not worry about how You are orchestrating things behind the scenes. Please also remind me that I cannot do everything myself and teach me how to entrust people to help me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Today EMPOWER yourself and your assignment by choosing to stay in YOUR lane. Focusing on your task will ensure that it’s done with a spirit of excellence. Also, EMPOWER someone else to assist you along the way because you cannot do it all by yourself!

Are you a member of Control Freaks Anonymous? Tell us all about it!


Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, mother, entrepreneur and dedicated servant-leader. She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments. As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible and other non-fiction pieces. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and three lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.

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