Living My Life Like It’s Golden…

… Because frankly it is!

I have a question: if you bought a $500 pair of shoes how often would you wear them? Okay, I hear my fashionistias saying “it depends on what they go with,” I hear the frugal gals saying, “for $500 I’ll be wearing those shoes every day!” and the rational women, I saved you guys for last so you had time to calculate your return on investment. I know you are thinking “on average those shoes should last 5 years, if I wear them at least once a month that’s roughly 60 times,” Okay, great! I appreciate your mental answers. So imagine this, if your life was bought with the blood of Jesus how often should you wear peace?


In August, I’m not sure what happened but I just stopped caring about life. (Mom, put down the phone and keep reading) Not in the sense of not caring to live but in the sense of what are we stressed over?!! If you check my last post, “A 5 Step Guide for Living an Uncomplicated Life,” you’ll get a sense of the changes I’ve implemented.

It’s cliché but happiness is a choice and so is stress. I choose my emotions, I choose my reactions and I choose my state of being. Last week, I got into a disagreement with a loved one. I sat at my desk holding back tears, overwhelmed and anxious.  Then I took a deep breath and said, “I choose to be happy.” I forced a smile on my face then started laughing at my awkwardness.  For a second, I wanted to be upset and angry because it was the emotion I should feel but I decided to choose the emotion I wanted to feel! I knew I would have to remember this moment for life. No matter how terrible something is I must remember to acknowledge it and move on. While, writing this I went back to check some old notes in my phone and I found one that said, “Dene’ remember live your life like it’s golden…because frankly, IT IS!”

I can’t allow anything to disturb my peace because I’ve lived at unsettled and restless and now I’m here at this residence called peace. I LOVE resting here. I don’t share my entire life with anyone I don’t want an opinion from. I don’t let 11am problems come into my 11:30am. I’m focused on living the best and most positive life I can live. It’s not easy and at times I have fears, doubts and disbelief that something will happen someone I love or me but I dismiss those thoughts and keep going. I was taught in church that every season has its end and I’ve been waiting for my “good” season to end. Then I realized when I was unemployed, broken and lost I still had peace. Peace should follow you wherever you go. I think at times we feel uninteresting when we don’t have “drama” to talk to friends about. When people ask me what’s going on in my life I thank God I have nothing to report. “Been working, working out, managing my finances, you?” I actually feel guilty of giving this no juice, no big breakthrough blog but I’m just at peace. Are there negative things in my life? Sure! But I’m thankful that my story is already written. I struggled writing this blog, for personal reasons, because I usually write about my big realizations in life and this seems too simple. But as I walk this journey to be at peace I haven’t found many people talking about it! I just want to share: it’s okay if you aren’t “going through,” no this “season” of peace doesn’t have to be just a season. Just because you are at peace doesn’t mean the devil is after you so be on the lookout. Trust that God will protect you. Trust that peace will travel with you everywhere! And don’t think just because you are not going through that your purpose isn’t great! Everyone’s story is unique and you ma’am were uniquely made!

If you want peace: Ask for it!

“Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.”  (John 16:24 NIV)

If you have trouble maintaining mental peace: Remember this!

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight,” (Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV)

If you are stressing over things in life: Say this!

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:33-34 NIV)

Dear Daddy,

I’m so thankful for Your constant, everlasting protection, grace and forgiveness. LORD, my love for You is so deep it brings tears to my eyes and the thought that You love me more than that gives me peace. God, I ask that You take away any doubt. As I see the city around me falling sometimes I question, “when me,” but I cast my doubts onto You, Lord and I choose peace! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to take your freedom, pull it off the shelf and put it on a chain. Wear it around your neck, put it in your car, where you choose to go wear freedom, because it will take you far.  I’m not sure if it was how we are raised or our need for conflict holding us back from peace but I claim that we will all walk in peace and live the golden lives God intended us to have.

As you listen to the words of Jill Scott’s Living My Life Like It’s Golden let it resonate with you!


Ms. Dené B. is a student of life who enjoys human studies and social media. She graduated from Loyola University Chicago where the motto is “Preparing People to Lead Extraordinary Lives,” She took her education and school spirit to heart and now is a young adult striving to live an extraordinary life while helping others achieve the same. With a Bachelor of Arts in Advertising and Public Relations and minors in Sociology and Visual Communication, Dené worked at a top PR firm but her greatest accomplishments resides in volunteer work with Autism Speaks and Big Brothers Big Sisters. Currently, she finds herself pursuing a vision God placed in her of starting her own business. One of her go to scriptures is, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is Gods will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1Thessalonians 5:16-18 NIV).

4 thoughts on “Living My Life Like It’s Golden…”

  1. Each time I read your post, my soul is shaken. It is revived. It is motivated. It is an honor to be your cousin and say we grew up together and have shared out lives with each other. I’m most proud of your growth, your maturity, and wisdom. Of your outlook, your perspective, your zeal for life it’s purpose and reasoning with how to make it through. You are a marvelous young woman. You are most loved and respected by me. I look forward to reading your full biography and hope you’ll read mine! BrAvo Dene Brown! All my love!

    1. Ce, not sure if I should thank you here or text you! I was revisiting some of my blogs to make sure I answered all of the comments because it seems I’ve missed more than I’ll like to admit. But thank you for reading and thank you for your continued support, love and guidance. Love you! And thank you for reading!

  2. I really enjoyed this post Dene’! I can relate to this post on so many levels. It is still as struggle on certain days to just breath through certain situations and come back to my place of peace but I do it and I am so thankful to God for this time, even if it is only temporary because it has been a long time coming!

    1. Hi Tiffany, so sorry I missed this comment! I am so glad this post found you well! I’m glad I stumbled upon it again as well to remind me of the words God gave! (I never feel like I write these blogs because I get done writing and can’t tell you what I wrote 🙂 I pray that peace wasn’t a temporary stop for you but a permanent residence. I’m 5 months late but hope you still see this 🙂 thanks for reading!

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