Season’s Inventory

The other day I was talking to a girlfriend who was going through a very challenging situation. She has surrounded herself with Godly friends and women who pray for her, but she became distraught when she shared with me that one of her friends said something to her that was not encouraging to her broken heart and it did not align with what God had been telling her. It was almost derogatory. She and I continued to speak on it and God shared something so amazing with me that I just had to share it with her…and now with you. “Just because someone is Godly and serves in your life as a prayer warrior does not mean that every season you transition into they have to go.” What he was saying is although we have great friends, especially praying friends, some seasons are not for them.

I am convinced that God does this so that we do not lose sight of His power.

Ecclesiastes Chapter 3:1-8 NIV states: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

This scripture came to mind as I talked to my friend and it began to impact my own life. Everyone is not meant for every season, and that’s ok! You wouldn’t wear a sweater in the summer, nor would you wear a tank top outside in the winter. As I go through seasons, I have to identify with the friend God placed in my life for a particular time.

There’s a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing. I’m so blessed by this verse because I am the type of person who likes to do it ALL; but, I’ve learned, that although I can do it, doesn’t mean I should. I don’t have to embrace everything!

This scripture is so loaded, yet it helps to calm me when situations that I consider unfavorable arise. The beauty in maturity is knowing what season you’re in and who’s in it with you.

Dear Daddy,

You are so unwavering, faithful, awesome, all powerful, all knowing, and all THAT! I am humbled and honored to have the opportunity to commune with You in prayer. Lord, it is my prayer that I learn how to discern when the time is right. I want to know when it is time to hold on or when I should let go, when I should speak up or when I should be silent. I ask that You help me prioritize better to grow in You so that I may hear Your voice. I want to be able to discern which direction I should go. Lord, thank You for being with me, evening when I try to force things in to the wrong season. Thank You for Your faithfulness. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to submit to your season! Understand what is required of you in this season and who should be in it.

Have you learned to discern seasonal relationships? Share your story with us.


As a professional, Mrs. Khalilah Burton is a university administrator. She is also currently pursuing a Doctorate of Education in Community College Leadership. Khalilah is passionate about her faith journey and uses this key scripture as her inspiration: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28 NIV) Khalilah also serves as a guest speaker and panelist for various events for women and Christian empowerment. Her passion is mentoring young women and marriage empowerment. She resides in Orange Beach, Alabama with her wonderful husband Donald Burton, Jr. and their two daughters. They are members of New Beginnings Christian Center in Foley, AL

4 thoughts on “Season’s Inventory”

  1. Kay when I begin reading this Empowermoment I wanted to shout out but shhhhhhhh! My kids are testing! I thank God for this conformation that was sent my way. I begin feeling guilty about my friends situation but God sent you to confirm that it’s just not their season in my life. Thanks girl! Love ya

  2. Great post Kay!! I had to re-evaluate the people I had in my circle recently. That was tough! I think the hardest part is accepting that a friendship is changing with someone that has been in your life for a while or you have to cut them off. I’m still learning about seasonal relationships.

  3. Yes Kay! I remember teaching one of my friends this that people come in your life for a season; some stay for many seasons in your life, and some stay in short, brief seasons and you can’t force people to remain or fit when God moves them or releases them. Amen!! Thanks Kay!

  4. This post just made me tear up, I can’t take any credit for it, God literally wrote this, I am so blessed by it!!! Thank you guys for your kind words, God is so amazing!

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