Every day, Tiffany complained about her job. She was tired of a manager who mistreated her and coworkers who didn’t value her work. The place was entirely too stressful and she just wanted out.  She shed tears everyday at the thought of going to her job. Day in and day out she prayed that God would deliver her from this place. If He would just release her, she would use the time to find something better or start her own business. How excited she must have been when she found out her job was offering voluntarily layoffs with six months payment. Tiffany knew that was her opportunity out and she seized it.  Fast forward eighteen months and Tiffany has neither landed a new job nor started her own business. Tiffany is angry and bitter. Although she has food and shelter, she begins to moan and complain because it’s pretty difficult to make ends meet. Every day is a struggle and she begins to think about her old job wishing that she were there despite the stressful, unappreciative work environment that motivated her exit.

Renee came to me one day and told me that she was going back to Jimmy, her ex-boyfriend. To her, living the single life was the lonely life. Jimmy was a no good character. He was verbally abusive and treated Renee like a pawn in his game. In fact, she lost confidence as her self-esteem plummeted. When she finally got the courage to walk away, we all celebrated. More than two years has gone by and she hasn’t found herself in a committed relationship. Renee begins to reminisce and think maybe Jimmy wasn’t so bad. She wants to pick up the pieces.

Here’s another story. After many attempts, God delivered the Children of Israel from slavery in Egypt. They were physically abused and at one point Pharoah killed all of their infant sons. Through Moses, God promised them that he would take them to a land flowing with milk and honey. On the journey to the Promised Land, God wiped out Pharoah and his army in the Red Sea. How soon the people forgot about the hardships of Egypt and the things that God had done for them. They began to complain, constantly.

Numbers 11:4-6 The rabble with them began to crave other food, and again the Israelites started wailing and said, “If only we had meat to eat!  We remember the fish we ate in Egypt at no cost—also the cucumbers, melons, leeks, onions and garlic. But now we have lost our appetite; we never see anything but this manna!” NIV

Numbers 20 3:5 They quarreled with Moses and said, “If only we had died when our brothers fell dead before the Lord! Why did you bring the Lord’s community into this wilderness, that we and our livestock should die here? Why did you bring us up out of Egypt to this terrible place? It has no grain or figs, grapevines or pomegranates. And there is no water to drink!” NIV

And the Lord said unto Moses, How long will this people provoke me? And how long will it be ere before they believe me for all the signs which I have showed among them. Numbers 14:11 KJV

The Israelites were whiners and the fleshly part of me understands their sentiment. When God told them that they would be going to this land of milk and honey, they imagined it would be some short turn around time. They didn’t think that getting to that blessing would be a “struggle.” Their time and God’s timing was not the same.

Unfortunately, they began to romanticize the past. They would rather be back in Egypt as slaves eating “good food” then on this journey to the Promised Land eating manna. Regrettably, many of us make the same mistake. God can deliver us from a negative situation; however, when we are “in the process” or “on the journey,” we begin to murmur and complain. When things aren’t as easy as we expected them to be, we get frustrated and begin to back peddle. We forget all of the good things that God has done and how He has delivered us time and time and time again.

As you look back over your life, can you recall the many times that God has supplied your needs? How many times has He given you the desires of your heart? Don’t get stuck romanticizing about that bad job, relationship, or other thing that God delivered you from. Instead focus on  the fact that God always come through right on time. This is just the journey not the destination.

Dear Daddy,

Forgive me for the many times that I have doubted you. Lord I thank You for being a gracious God who has never left me nor forsook me. Even in the midst of my groaning, you have been good to me. When I began to glamorize negative situations that you delivered me from, bring me back to reality. Help me to endure the journey as I await your promised to be fulfilled. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to reflect on the good things that God has done for you. In the midst of it all, I encourage you to appreciate where you are now and count your blessings. While the journey is sometimes hard, remember it is much better then where you were and give God praise for that. 


Ms. Chancee` Lundy lives in Washington, DC and is an entrepreneur as she is the co-owner of Nspiregreen, LLC, an environmental consulting firm. She is also a dedicated daughter, sister, friend and community servant. She has used her gift of public speaking to lead workshops across the globe speaking to crowds as large as 10,000 people. Her guiding scriptures this week are Philippians 4:11-13 “Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me.

3 thoughts on “Romanticizing…”

  1. Amen! Great post! I so can relate to it! It’s easy to complain when things aren’t going the way we want them too. We have to recognize the blessings that are in front of us even when it’s not the best situation.

  2. God is teaching me to stay present in the present as I have struggled with worrying about the future and it keeps you bound and not focus on what God has done for you already and how truly blessed and loved you really are by our amazing Lord and King!

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