Only Settle for the Best

“Take delight in the LORD, he will give you the desires of your heart.”- Psalm 37:4 NIV

On April 28th it will be two years that I’ve been single. I can’t believe I’ve been single for this long. I would like to be in a relationship with someone but I know now isn’t the right time. There are some things that I need to heal from first so I offer my friendship to guys because I know that’s all that I can give at the moment. During my singleness, I have come across guys that were interested in me and some that wanted a relationship with me. They seem to be good guys but something within me told me not to be in a relationship with them. I know that deep down inside that they aren’t the type of men I want. I have met more ungodly guys than I have Godly. I can’t be unequally yoked with anyone!

I believe that God wants us to have His best! Some people get into relationships just because they hate being lonely. Yes, being single does get lonely & has its challenges but being lonely isn’t a good reason to settle. Later down the line, you will find out that the person you “settled” for isn’t really who you wanted in the long run or he isn’t who God wanted you to be with.

Why settle for someone who isn’t God’s best for you? One of the problems I have ran into is guys that don’t want the same things I want relationship wise or don’t share the same beliefs as I do. If I would have decided to be in a relationship with one of them, I know that I wouldn’t be happy. I would compromise who I am as a person. If you feel that a person will make you compromise who you truly are (making you go against your beliefs and morals), you don’t need to be with them. I want to do things the right way (waiting until marriage to have sex) because I did things the wrong way in my past. I know God will send me someone that desires to wait until marriage just like I do. Waiting for God’s best can be VERY frustrating but in the long run it will be worth it.

Dear Daddy,

I want Your best for me. Help me to not settle! I don’t want to make any bad decisions out of loneliness. Give me the patience to wait on the person You have for me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to wait on God. Don’t settle or compromise who you are! Put your focus on God & when the time is right He will send the person He has for you! 1ST Corinthians 7:33-35 NIV states “But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world-how he can please his wife- and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world-how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.”

Are you settling or waiting on God’s best for you?


Venus Gilmore currently resides in Auburn, AL. She is an alumna of Auburn University. Venus has B.A. in Sociology with a concentration in Social Organization and Inequality with a minor in Social Work. She plans on pursuing a career in Social Services. She currently serves as the Mamie Reese Scholarship Director, and College Transition Program Director of her sorority Theta Phi Sigma Christian Sorority, Inc. Venus is also a blogger for Radical7even. She is an active Client Advocate volunteer for the Women’s Hope Medical Clinic. She successfully balances all of these responsibilities with her favorite scripture as motivation: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)

1 thought on “Only Settle for the Best”

  1. Amen Venus! I have been single for a while too and not only trying to make sure I don’t settle but make sure I am not going in circles picking the same guy over and over. It is not easy but God got our backs and has and knows best for us. Thanks Venus for sharing!

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