A Mess to Bless

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. (1 Peter 5:10 ESV)

The other day I was talking to a friend of mine who has had a series of significant tumultuous events take place over the last year or so. It has been one set back after another. Her mom is battling pancreatic cancer; she and her husband have separated, they lost their twins mid-pregnancy, and her son is having major trouble in school. Her and her family also have lost their home and had to move quite a distance away from her job and her son’s school, and most recently she had a terrible car accident. But she got out of the car unscathed! Not a single cut or bruise! If you had seen the car, you would wonder “how in the world!” The police said she should have been dead or at least severely injured. The car was totaled, but she has lived to tell the story!

However, she is in a “bad place” with God due to her circumstances. She doesn’t understand why “all” of this stuff is happening in her life or what she has done to deserve it. She said “I’m a good person. I don’t mistreat people. I try to help people, but look at me. I tried turning to God. I tried listening to God and it’s not getting me anywhere.” I understand her sentiments; I’ve been there. I also know that being good doesn’t exempt me from strife. After all Jesus was perfect and look what all He endured. I tried my best to encourage her and to help her see what I like to call the “God perspective”, the positive and the blessings in her situation. I told her how it was a blessing that she not only survived a terrible accident, but that she wasn’t hurt or bruised. Right now, she can’t see past the fact that God allowed the accident to happen in the first place and the fact that now in addition to no home and no husband at home, she now has no car. And to top it all off, she found out she’s pregnant again and she’s devastated.

I spent a couple of hours talking and listening to her, and by the time we were done I wasn’t sure if anything I said had helped her or positively impacted her. My heart is so heavy for her. I asked the Lord to give me the words to say and the hope, that even though I couldn’t tell at the time, that they made a difference. Here’s what I learned and recalled from this situation. 1. This must be how my close friends and family felt when I had my valley experiences. I thank God for them… 2. I have to pray and lift her up like never before. Often times it is the prayers of others that pull you through and you don’t even realize it at the time. 3. No matter what you are going through and how bad you think you have it, there is always someone who’s going through worse. This should serve as a wakeup call for you to keep pressing and praise Him anyhow.

Even though she can’t see it, can’t feel it, can’t believe it right now, I know that she will learn, grow and move to a greater place in God and reap a bountiful harvest. I’ll continue to pray, encourage and help all I can. I look forward to writing the EmpowerMoment that tells of her coming out victorious

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. (Psalm 30:5b NKJV)

Dear Daddy,

Let us hear from You in the messy situations of our lives. Help us not to turn away from You and thank You for not leaving us when we “leave” you. Help us to trust You even when it seems like You’ve left us. Help us to trust the plan You have for our lives. We know we need to lean not on our own understanding, but on Yours! In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to see past your circumstances and know that your brighter day is coming! I EMPOWER you to move closer to God as you navigate the messes of your life so that you may reap the blessings in due time. I EMPOWER you to stand in the gap for those who are currently unable to see the “God perspective” right now! I EMPOWER you to keep the hope in the seemingly hopeless situations!

What mess are you expecting God to bless for you or a loved one?


Mrs. Coretta Collins is a wife and mother who enjoys reading, writing, movies and spending time with family and friends. She is avid about health, healing and helping which serves her well as a Family Nurse Practitioner in a hematology and oncology practice. Striving to be led by the Lord throughout life and having overcome significant challenges, her favorite scripture is Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Coretta is a member of St. John A.M.E. Church, Birmingham, Alabama. She resides in Calera, Alabama with her awesome husband and two wonderful sons.

2 thoughts on “A Mess to Bless”

  1. Praying for your friend right now! I know she will be alright just tell her to keep trusting God and even though that seems so hard right now, thank God she doesn’t have to do that in her own strength but God will provide the strength for her and what lesson, miracle and character He is pulling out of her during this time will be great! Thanks Coretta for sharing and sticking by your friend during these tough times.

  2. Beautiful post! Woo that is a lot that your friend has gone through! I can understand why she is feeling the way she is right now. I hope that her situation gets better & will be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel! I’m also having a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel in my situation. Keep me in your prayers! God bless!

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