Looking For Love

June is Black Music Month! To celebrate, each of our EmpowerMoments will be based on Black music for the entire month. This includes Black songwriters, producers or performers. Stay tuned as we use various genres of Black music to tell our stories and exemplify the beauty of God’s love! He can be found virtually anywhere if we earnestly look for Him and listen intently! Happy Black Music Month! Dance as if no one is watching!

10 – 9 – 8 – 7 – 6 – 5 – 4 – 3 – 2 – 1. Ready or not, here I come! hide

I am certain that you remember that chant from your childhood as you jetted off to search for your cousins and friends in a friendly game of Hide & Seek. But what happened when you looked high and low to no avail? After several minutes of peeping behind trees, under staircases, and in neighbors’ backyards you still didn’t find who you were looking for. Sometimes to assist your efforts, those you were searching for would speak up so that you could follow their voice, but even that didn’t work sometimes. Finally you give up and are left feeling defeated because the very people that you are searching for can’t be located. However, they aren’t lost; you weren’t looking in the right places…

I’ve been looking for love
In all the wrong places
And now I finally found
Someone who cares for me

No matter the storm
It was you who helped me face it
And now it’s safe to say
That you really care for me

At the clubs and bars. In the refrigerator. In a liquor bottle. In a dime bag of weed. In the validation of others. In other women’s men.

Those are all places that I have once searched for love. None produced exactly what I was looking for. As a matter of fact, the food, alcohol, and drugs were crazy options anyway since they were not even able to open up and love me back. Even in places like the club and the bar where there are people to interact with, I was still left with a gaping hole in my heart. A void existed that I longed to have filled.  It seemed that I was looking for love in all the wrong places. Just like the innocent child who conceded in Hide & Seek and left feeling discouraged, I too gave up on finding a genuine sense of love. I only had my faith in love restored when I began searching for the right One in the right place.

You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:13 NIV

In those simple 15 words, God promised that us that if we truly look for Him with the very essence of our being, we WILL find Him. I was traveling places searching when all I had to do was look deep into my heart because that’s where God was. And guess what? When you find Him, you’ve found love! 1 John 4:8 explicitly tells us that, “God is love.”  

I can remember several times playing Hide & Seek when I was “It” and once I found one of my friends they would help me find the others. She knew exactly where they were because she had watched everyone go their respective hiding spots. In the same way, when I truly found God, He pointed me in the direction of those other things and people that were not in plain sight. He revealed my purpose. I discovered divine connections. He pushed me in the direction of my husband. I didn’t have to waste time looking in the wrong places because He made everything crystal clear.

This man had nowhere to go
Then you gave me direction
And now the rest of my days
I can’t help but give you the praise

Dear Daddy,

I realized that I have been searching for love in all the wrong places. Help me, O God, to search for You deep in my heart. When I find You, I know that I have found love in its purest form. I trust that no matter what I have done, You still love me unconditionally and are willing to embrace me with open arms. Thank You for loving and caring for me! In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, today I EMPOWER you to search for true, unconditional love in the RIGHT place! Have an intense love affair with Jesus and watch how He unveils other hidden parts of your life that you didn’t even know existed. Don’t give up on love; just give up on looking in the wrong places!

As you listen to R. Kelly’s “Looking for Love”, make a commitment to yourself to stop searching for love in the all the wrong places.

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Mrs. Kristen Harris is a wife, a mother, an entrepreneur and a dedicated servant-leader. She is extremely passionate about women’s spiritual advancement, hence the founding of EmpowerMoments. She is the owner of Pizzazzed Plus, a custom sweets boutique. As an avid reader, Kristen enjoys reading the Bible and other non-fiction pieces. Her driving inspiration is when God says to her: “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) She currently resides outside of Chicago, Illinois with her wonderful husband and three lovely daughters where she is an active member of New Life Covenant Church.


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