Off Balance

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27 NIV)

Recently, I got into a really bad argument with one of my close friends. I became so angry that my anger rolled over into the next day. I’m a very easy going person and don’t get mad often so if someone makes me upset, it’s a really big deal.  A few days after the argument, I didn’t feel like myself. I felt a mix of emotions and I felt emotionally drained.

I had to tell my friend that I needed a break to think. My friend contacted me the day after we had the argument and proceeded to contact me the next couple days after that. That made things worse because I wasn’t in the mood to talk. I felt so weighed down.

One person can give us a better account about how failing to control your emotions and sinning in your anger affects you.

Now there was no water for the community, and the people gathered in opposition to Moses and Aaron. They quarreled with Moses and said, “If only we had died when our brothers fell dead before the Lord! Why did you bring the Lord’s community into this wilderness, that we and our livestock should die here? Why did you bring us up out of Egypt to this terrible place? It has no grain or figs, grapevines or pomegranates. And there is no water to drink!” Moses and Aaron went from the assembly to the entrance to the tent of meeting and fell face down, and the glory of the Lord appeared to them. The Lord said to Moses, “Take the staff, and you and your brother Aaron gather the assembly together. Speak to that rock before their eyes and it will pour out its water. You will bring water out of the rock for the community so they and their livestock can drink.” So Moses took the staff from the Lord’s presence, just as he commanded him. He and Aaron gathered the assembly together in front of the rock and Moses said to them, “Listen, you rebels, must we bring you water out of this rock?” Then Moses raised his arm and struck the rock twice with his staff. Water gushed out, and the community and their livestock drank. But the Lord said to Moses and Aaron, “Because you did not trust in me enough to honor me as holy in the sight of the Israelites, you will not bring this community into the land I give them.” (Numbers 20: 2-12 NIV)

Perhaps Moses was tired of all the people’s grumbling. After all leading others is not an easy task especially when sometimes you feel like you’re not quite the one for the job. Perhaps Moses had stored all of his frustrations within until he just exploded. In any event, Moses sinned in his anger. He disobeyed God, striking the rock instead of speaking to it like God instructed him to.  He acted in pride, taking credit for something that God did. “Listen, you rebels, must WE bring you water out of this rock?” Moses said. Third, the rock that was to give forth water was a representation of Christ, and when Moses struck it, it was an unholy, disrespectful thing to do for Jesus cannot be crucified again. Moses sinning in anger, disobeying God, misrepresenting Christ’s sacrifice and acting in pride cost him a place in the Promised Land. God told Moses he would not enter in.

God clearly tells us not to let our anger consume or lead us to sinning.  It is clear that we are to surrender even our emotions to Him and allow Him to show us how to manage them and not be bound by our emotions.  Letting our emotions control and consume us can literally make us sick.

I felt so off balance that I forgot to do my volunteer work not too long after my argument with my friend. That’s how I know that my brain wasn’t in the right place because that was not the norm for me. On July 9th I decided to stop letting the situation with my friend stress me. I prayed to God and asked Him to remove the weights that I felt. Eventually my friend and I was able to talk face to face and express our feelings. The argument that I had with my friend was one of the worse ones he and I have had, but I’m glad that I now feel more like myself and I have peace.

Dear Daddy,

Thank You for being slow to anger and abounding in love. I’m glad that I can come to You with my burdens. Thank You for always having a listening ear. Help me to not be consumed or controlled by my emotions. Help me to also let go of thoughts that are negative. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to give your burdens to God. You can’t carry your burdens alone. Allow God to release you of everything that is weighing you down and to help you manage your emotions. You will feel lighter and better.

What situations have you been in that caused you to be off balance or sin in your anger?


Venus Gilmore currently resides in Auburn, AL. She is an alumna of Auburn University. Venus has B.A. in Sociology with a concentration in Social Organization and Inequality with a minor in Social Work. She plans on pursuing a career in Social Services. She currently serves as the Mamie Reese Scholarship Director, and College Transition Program Director of her sorority Theta Phi Sigma Christian Sorority, Inc. Venus is also a blogger for Radical7even. She is an active Client Advocate volunteer for the Women’s Hope Medical Clinic. She successfully balances all of these responsibilities with her favorite scripture as motivation: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)




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