Keys. Check! The kids. Check! Work bag. Check! The CD for choir rehearsal. Check! Coupons for groceries for dinner. Check! Cell phone. Check! The To-Do-list. Check!
You get in the car, place your hands at ten and two, and then it dawns on you that you forgot something. YOU! Yes, you!
You have been neglecting yourself. Overlooking yourself. Disregarding yourself. Forgetting yourself. As women, we tend to look in the mirror only to see sometimes a blurred image and many hands, trying to fulfill everything and everyone at the expense of ourselves.
We are loyal to everyone else except ourselves.
This EmpowerMoment came to life after recently attending a Parent Café workshop. A choice topic question was presented to the small group I was in.
“What does it mean to be loyal to yourself?”
As I sat listening to the articulate, honest and enlightening answers, I reflected on what it meant to me. It was a question that I needed to answer for myself. Did I really know what it meant to be loyal to myself?
My response was “being loyal to myself meant not neglecting myself, which I have been doing.” I have been neglecting myself, overlooking, disregarding, and forgetting me. Have you?
Have you gone weeks without getting a manicure, adequate rest, refreshing yourself mentally, emotionally or spiritually, or some catching up time with a friend? Are you stressed out, grouchy, constantly complaining, or even feeling overwhelmed? Do you feel guilty when you treat yourself to something new or think of a thousand things you could be doing when you do finally relax? Do you fail to keep your promises to yourself; do you speak negatively to yourself? Are you holding on to unhealthy relationships; are you settling for less? Are you encouraging others, but not yourself? Are you neglecting your time with God? If you answered yes to some or all of these questions, you need to put you back on the agenda and be loyal to yourself for once.
Being loyal to yourself isn’t merely about taking time for yourself but it is about being true and faithful to yourself as well as loving yourself. A woman can treat herself to a new pair of shoes every two weeks but if she still doesn’t know how to be genuine and devoted to herself as well as love herself, it is like she is just covering a scar with some makeup.
So how do you become loyal to yourself and what does God even say about being loyal to yourself.
- Love God and put Him first! Yep, love God and put Him first! That is the first and foremost thing to do. Love the one who created you, loved you first, is love, and loved you so much that He gave His only Son to die and suffer for you to be reconciled back to Him and be a part of His eternal kingdom. In order to love yourself, you have to love God, point blank! Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ (Mat 22:37 NIV)
- Love yourself! We all know the scripture love your neighbor as yourself. If you are like I were, you didn’t catch on to the last part right away—AS YOURSELF. I was so missing the part where God permits and expects us to love ourselves. How can you love someone else if you don’t know how to love yourself? How do we love ourselves? Once again, we love God first! And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. (Mat 22:39 KJV)
- Ban talking negatively about and to yourself and encourage yourself. They say if you wouldn’t tell your best friend they will never be anything, why utter it to yourself. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29)
- Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Steward over your body and guard your mind. God wants a fully yielded vessel to use and if your mind and body are riddled with distractions, anxiety, and the results from poor stewardship or sins, how can you be that yielded vessel for God to use? Or do you not know that your body were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 ESV) Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world. (1 Peter 5:7-9 ESV)
- Feed your spirit. We are spirits in bodies with souls. Our spirits needs to be fed as well as our bodies. We are to feed our spirits with the Word of God daily. Give us this day our daily bread. (Mat 6:11 KJV) Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.'” (Mat 4:4 NIV) Our spirits are left malnourished and improperly fed when we don’t saturate in the Word of God and commune with the Holy Spirit.
Last but not least, be true to yourself. Be honest with yourself and since our very hearts deceive us, ask the Holy Spirit to aid you in this very thing. Devote some time to refresh, relax and release. Slow down and move to the pace of the Holy Spirit. The world wants us to quickly gratify our flesh and immerse ourselves in self and temporary satisfaction but our omniscient God’s timing is accurate so move according to His time and His will. Moreover, Laugh A LOT for laughter is medicine to the bones. Also keep it real about how you’re feeling, whether it is a negative feeling or positive feeling; just don’t let your emotions control you. Talk to the Holy Spirit about how you are feeling; He can handle it and help you through it all. Lastly, understand you can’t control everything and you are not perfect. We cheat ourselves out of time and peace trying to run a universe only God is fit to do and trying to please man out of fear and for approval.
Thank You for Your unfailing love towards us! Your very nature is faithful and your steadfast faithfulness has followed generation to generation. You keep Your covenant promises and You bestow upon Your children so much love and devotion. You are committed to us and Your loyalty is unwavering. I love You and rest in the fact that I can always depend on You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!
Ladies, I EMPOWER you to allow the Holy Spirit to build in you an undivided, devoted heart towards the Father! Being loyal to Him ensures loyalty to yourself!
What does it mean to be loyal to yourself?
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Ms. Tannika Moore loves the Lord and loves to write! Besides writing poetry or editing written work for family and friends, she currently works for NEIU Educational Talent Search program, helping high school students prepare for college. As a compassionate person and encourager, she loves to encourage people according to God’s Word and help them to see, think and become better through her support, actions and writing. This April, Tannika published her first book, a book of her poetry, titled Setting The Captive Free. For more details, visit stcfpoetrybook.com. On July 10th of this year, she also launched her new Christian clothing and apparel brand called Fruitful & Fabulous inspired by John 15:8. For more details about Fruitful & Fabulous, visit fruitfulandfabulous.com. Her favorite scripture comes from Philippians 1:6, “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you shall perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”